I feel so empty inside after masturbating

[myJesusisgreat]

Fellow believers of God, I needed your help.

I am a 17-year-old teenager currently living in Indonesia. As with any other teens in the world, I masturbated on a regular basis. Many scientists and philosophers have said that it is a completely normal thing to do, but I just have this feeling that I shouldn't have done it.

The problem is, I couldn't keep myself away from doing it. It's very close to addiction, I could say. I felt very sinful for doing it and I want to stop. Besides that, there is one more thing that I couldn't stand. It is the feeling I get after doing it. I feel so empty inside; it's like I'm trying to fill this hole inside that I could just never fill up.

Fellow believers of God, would you kindly state your opinions of this matter as well as the possible way out to me? Thank you in advance.

May God bless you always.

 

[com7fy8]

One thing that helps me is to not try to use a female for sexual pleasure. Love does not have me using someone. But when I think of different women, love them, instead of reacting to them. And if I see women on the Net or news, care about them, instead of only using them to look at and get into some immoral imagination about them.

And learn how to love, in all things . . . not to only use anyone.

"Let all that you do be done with love." (1 Corinthians 6:17)

There are many things we can do, which can have us feeling empty, afterward. So, using sexual sensations for pleasure is not the only way we can use pleasure to try to make us feel something nice. We need to not use pleasure in other ways, also, but get strong in love which will deeply make us strong and sound and satisfied . . . in Jesus Christ's "rest for your souls." (in Matthew 11:29)

My personal take is that people in general can have different kinds of unsatisfaction and discomfort and torments, in their feelings and emotions and personalities. And they can try to use pleasure to make them feel something nicer or to distract themselves from their lousy feeling stuff which is of the selfish nature. We need to be corrected by our Father so we become strong in His love which deeply satisfies us and keeps us immune to that sin-sick stuff messing our personality.

But this means a person needs to trust in Jesus, first, for salvation, so one can get started in this. Then receive howsoever God corrects us (Hebrews 12:4-11), and learn how to love so we are not using people and things only for pleasure relief. Jesus gives us "rest for your souls" (Matthew 11:28-30) so we are not trying to use pleasure to keep us from unrestful stuff.

So, even in marriage, we need to become real in God's love, so we are not only trying to use each other for pleasures to try to make our deep problem feelings personality torments go away. Lust does not belong in marriage, either, then, I would say.

 

[Paul808]

What are the key things that triggers you to do it? This is normal at some stage but when it becomes to addiction level, than you'll have more problems within your mind than enjoyment. I think you should have sex.

 

[catzrfluffy]

It's not wrong. It's normal.