I feel lost

[RosemaryChildAtHeart]

Hello!
I'm Rosemary and I'm 18 years old and I recently joined!

I'm confused!

I just signed up on this forum today, and I know I'm not much of a Christian and I sometimes feel unworthy of forgiveness because I ignore God.

I watched a nice movie my dads customer lent him called "escape from Hell" and I think I really am on my way to hell if I don't get my relationship with God sorted out
the movie was a real wake-up call for me!

You see, I feel like I make up with God every so often and then I lose contact with him for a bit. I dont want that...I dunno how to be strong.

Even though I pray every night it seems to be more of a routine then genuine.

I remember when I was a bit younger I had a much better relationship with God, I talked to him all the time.
Now I find its so hard to keep a relationship with him because of school (Im a busy nursing student!) and how the most of society and media have a lack of concern for God in general.

Im so confused about my virginity, because I dont think I will find anyone who wants to wait till marriage
I watch shows on tv and sex has become so casual...I feel so alone and old fashioned, but I want to save myself but Im afraid of making a bad mistake from peer pressure because Im a shy, people pleaser lol

I hope I didnt break any rules in my post, and I know thats a lot on a plate. Im just a confused person as many girls are I guess.

Any advice would be lovely!
How can I keep a close relationship with God by not letting media, social and school be in the way?

One thing Im glad though is for this forum! Its a really nice place and Im glad I came across it! =)

PS - sorry for the grammar and spelling mistakes!

 

[drummerboyas157]

Stay strong and in the bible. I would highly encourage you to read at least two chapters a day. About the prayers do not forget its just talking to God, if you have a routine prayer time I would try changing it up, pray the scriptures, I find the psalms the best ones to pray out for me. Take psalm 69 for example read a verse v1 Save me O God! For the waters have come up to my neck. and then pray something like God I feel so helpless I need you to raise me and be who keeps me afloat. I know the waters rise but will fall again, so teach me how to stay strong. make sure its from your heart though let the words of God flow in you. If you dont feel like praying pray God will give you a heart of prayer and he will! also about being a virgin I am 18 too and i know there are many who want to wait MANY my 5 closest friends do haha I wish I would of I messed that up already and it was by far my biggest mistake. But i know God is a redeemer and now I wait! So I hope that encourages you messege me if you would like to. Also no one is unworthy of forgivness through Jesus. Root your trust and salvation in Him one of my faviorite verses in psalms is psalms 73:25-26 I like it because i WISH it were true of me so I pray it very often because I want it to be TRUE of me. God bless hope to hear back from you!

 

[Onlythingavailable]

I agree with drummerboyas157, try to read the Bible daily. It really helps. You can also talk to God constantly, not only during prayer in the evening, but even when you are in the midst of things, you can talk to God in your mind. Think of Him day and night.

It might sometimes feel like everyone has given up and you're the only one left trying to remain pure. But that isn't true, there are still people around who, like you, love God and want to do what is right. Remember that God is greater than the world!

1 Corinthians 10:13:
13There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.

 

[duskiness]

Hi RosemaryChildAtHeart
Welcome to CF. Glad you found it
Peer/social pressure and that whole world that is telling us what to do...well that is hard and always will be.
But you will never be happy until you will walk your way. It takes a lot of strength and some courage but that is all life is about (at least that is what I think...). You have to find things that are important to you, things you believe in. Looking for them takes time.
Don't let other decide for you. In the end only you will bear with consequence and you will be the one to look in the mirror in the morning.
I sound so clever, but to be frank I'm learning this still and in kind of hard way

As for praying - there different ways of praying, different schools, try to look for one that helps you. Sometimes lonely walk may be a prayer also.

maybe you could check this site - i like it

PS - sorry for the grammar and spelling mistakes!

LOL I'm not a native speaker, I almost never-ever see any mistakes...

 

[AWorkInProgress]

Hello!
I'm Rosemary and I'm 18 years old and I recently joined!

I'm confused!

I just signed up on this forum today, and I know I'm not much of a Christian and I sometimes feel unworthy of forgiveness because I ignore God.

I watched a nice movie my dads customer lent him called "escape from Hell" and I think I really am on my way to hell if I don't get my relationship with God sorted out
the movie was a real wake-up call for me!

You see, I feel like I make up with God every so often and then I lose contact with him for a bit. I dont want that...I dunno how to be strong.

Even though I pray every night it seems to be more of a routine then genuine.

I remember when I was a bit younger I had a much better relationship with God, I talked to him all the time.
Now I find its so hard to keep a relationship with him because of school (Im a busy nursing student!) and how the most of society and media have a lack of concern for God in general.

Im so confused about my virginity, because I dont think I will find anyone who wants to wait till marriage
I watch shows on tv and sex has become so casual...I feel so alone and old fashioned, but I want to save myself but Im afraid of making a bad mistake from peer pressure because Im a shy, people pleaser lol

I hope I didnt break any rules in my post, and I know thats a lot on a plate. Im just a confused person as many girls are I guess.

Any advice would be lovely!
How can I keep a close relationship with God by not letting media, social and school be in the way?

One thing Im glad though is for this forum! Its a really nice place and Im glad I came across it! =)

PS - sorry for the grammar and spelling mistakes!

Sounds like your love for god has shaken or is "luke warm".

3 things comes to mind here. World of sin, seeking the beauty of god, and forgiveness.

Please do not generalize or compare with others. We live in world drowning in sin, trying to be like others is just becoming part of that world. Have to find peace with your own relationship with God because you will not any peace with society or worldly events.

Relationship with God is very important, and starts two simple things, Faith and hope. Faith that God is looking over you and hope that he will help you thru tough times.

Two things helped me keep eye on God.

Phillipians 4
" 8 And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise."

And when I was seeking out God, I found a serman that really grabbed me. Mind you it is extremely difficult to listen to but really worth the time and effort imo.

Click on Sermans, and it's called "Cultivating the seeking heart."

Lastly, you think your beyond forgiveness. Don't condemn yourself, instead strengthen your walk with God. Father doesn't want to lose you, ultimately he wants us all to come to him. If you think whatever you done is unforgivible, look at Paul. Man hunted down members of the first church and had them either stoned to death or tossed in prison. Jesus wanted make the ultimate example with him, took the scales off his eyes and Paul became one of biggest contributors to early church and new testiment. I found so much encouragement from this guy, and god forgave him dispite his hainous deeds.

Phillipians 3:12-14
" I don’t mean to say that I have already achieved these things or that I have already reached perfection. But I press on to possess that perfection for which Christ Jesus first possessed me. 13 No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it,[d] but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, 14 I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us." - Paul

Hope this helps sister, and please don't lose hope.

 

[praying]

Welcome to CF!

I just want to address to points in your post.

I just signed up on this forum today, and I know I'm not much of a Christian and I sometimes feel unworthy of forgiveness because I ignore God.

Never feel unworthy of forgiveness, God will always forgive.

I hope I didnt break any rules in my post, and I know thats a lot on a plate.

Not a single rule did you break!

 

[UnitynLove]

"Be not converted to this wprld bit instead renew your mind towards the knowledge of Christ"

 

[ineedUtoloveMe]

Hello!
I'm Rosemary and I'm 18 years old and I recently joined!

I'm confused!

I just signed up on this forum today, and I know I'm not much of a Christian and I sometimes feel unworthy of forgiveness because I ignore God.

I watched a nice movie my dads customer lent him called "escape from Hell" and I think I really am on my way to hell if I don't get my relationship with God sorted out
the movie was a real wake-up call for me!

You see, I feel like I make up with God every so often and then I lose contact with him for a bit. I dont want that...I dunno how to be strong.

Even though I pray every night it seems to be more of a routine then genuine.

I remember when I was a bit younger I had a much better relationship with God, I talked to him all the time.
Now I find its so hard to keep a relationship with him because of school (Im a busy nursing student!) and how the most of society and media have a lack of concern for God in general.

Im so confused about my virginity, because I dont think I will find anyone who wants to wait till marriage
I watch shows on tv and sex has become so casual...I feel so alone and old fashioned, but I want to save myself but Im afraid of making a bad mistake from peer pressure because Im a shy, people pleaser lol

I hope I didnt break any rules in my post, and I know thats a lot on a plate. Im just a confused person as many girls are I guess.

Any advice would be lovely!
How can I keep a close relationship with God by not letting media, social and school be in the way?

One thing Im glad though is for this forum! Its a really nice place and Im glad I came across it! =)

PS - sorry for the grammar and spelling mistakes!

Hi Rosemary!

That's a great movie 'Escape From Hell.'

I see you are trying to decide whether to wait for marriage to have sex.

The Oneness of Marriage between a man and a woman is a very special ordination of consecration given by God. This union of Oneness between husband and wife brings God Glory, because in His word he tells us if we do decide we want to have sexual relations with another to get married and be united to only our spouse. Anything else contrary to what he commanded us is "sin." And Sin results in Death- spiritual death. Anything in our lives that does not bring God any type of Glory is therefore the flesh heeding to its own desires. Listen the voice of God and you'll always stay on the straight and narrow path k.

Love ya in Christ

THERE IS ONLY ONE GOD

JESUS THE CHRIST.

a friend to all,
ineedUtoLOVEMe

 

[woobadooba]

Rosemary,

Don't think about hell; rather, think about the One who while we were yet sinners gave His life for us.

Cast your cares on Him, believing that He cares for you; and as you continue to contemplate His love you will soon find less of yourself in what you do, and more of His love at work within your heart, expressing itself in your works, as His works become yours. Thus you will be one with Him.

Don't be angry with yourself. Look to Jesus and know that you are loved.

 

[Digit]

I agree with all the above posts.

First and foremost, try not to focus on the punishment so much, as the rewards God promises for a loving relationship with Him. Just because you are a floundering at the moment, doesn't mean all is lost or you are doomed. We all go through stages like this, just like any relationship has it's ups and downs, so does ours with God due to us being imperfect. Definitely read the Bible, or have a daily devotional. Even if it's just a small verse, it often just gives you that light you need in your day, to make it through with the right attitude. And also as a small, but gradual influence it's very important. You may not notice it at first, but after a few months of doing it, all those small devotional readings, have taken root in you.

Secondly, in regards to your virginity and marriage. I talked to a friend of mine recently and told her something I remembered from another relationship. Basically a Christian girl was involved with a non-believer. She told him in no uncertain terms, "No sex before marriage." and his response was, "What the ---k?". I think if we freeze-frame there, we can see that his interest in the relationship was only so deep. I can wholly suggest setting out the boundaries of your relationship from the word go. But that often isn't good enough, you also need to avoid temptation. Avoid movies/magazines with lots of sex in them, avoid getting cozy with them in bed and basically just use common sense.

I thought I could avoid temptation, but I couldn't. My girlfriend and I who are living together, have seperate beds to sleep in now. That extra barrier between us, has really helped. Don't lose hope that you won't find someone with the same values as you.

Lastly, just remember that if you are one with the world, you stand against God and when you stand with God, you oppose the world. My case is that if you embrace all these things that other people are doing, then you are walking away from God. It's really hard to do, but it's really worth it. Not only because it brings you closer to God, but because it too gives you a sense of self. You begin to find out who you are. And that will really help you in life and in your relationships, and finding that special person. Because half of the relationships fall apart when we pretend to be one person, and end up showing our partner another.

All the best, and God bless you. Feel free to PM me if wish to, my door is open.

Digit

 

[Johnnz]

You are doing OK. You are growing up and need to grow up in your faith too. That is a bit of a process - it takes a lifetime!- and requires good teaching, wise friends, and some sensible adults in your life.

Yes, there is heaps of stuff all around us that won't be there in heaven. But this is where God has called us to live out the Good News of His Kingdom. It is a fascinating project to work through this issue.

John
NZ

 

[lavenderskies]

Be strong! Know you are not alone. Many teens talk big but are not being honest. Be proud of saving yourself.