I opened up my stbx's credit card bill..which was wrong..but I am sitting here hurting and have not known for 6 months what is going to become of our life. I found out he has moved to another state and that he is dating online. I found his profile and am really hurt and sick to death about what he wrote. He already considers us to be divorce and wants someone to be his "side kick for life"..he also says he would be very attracted to a smoker. He claims to be a very christian man and our entire marriage he went to church with me about 10 times in 9 years. I know he may be a christian now, but how can a christian be dating online.. while still married. I wish that I had never opened that letter but at that moment I was curious and now regret it so much..because I have held on to hope that our marriage would not come to an end. There have been no signs that our marriage would ever be saved..but in my heart I hoped for that. Now I know the truth and how much he wants a new life without me, and it so painful.
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I'm so sorry, and if I could lend you a hug right now I would. I will keep you and your husband in my prayers. What he is doing is soooo wrong. Prayers going up this minute!!troubled heart said:
God bless,
Kimberly
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Maybe this sounds crazy, but why not assume an identity and start writing to your husband as if you want to be his side kick for life? Maybe he will fall in love with your personality, he obivously did once
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Troubled Heart, I'll be praying for you. I just found emails that did the same thing to me, just made me sick. But God has told me simply that He is bigger than this, and He is going to take care of it. Trust God to do the same for you. Forgive your husband NOW, then pray for him, and ask for God's peace, and it will be yours. You know that God loves you more than any man - or human being anywhere in the world - could ever love you? He sacrificed his only son for you - you know this to be true. He will never hurt you the way your husband has, but He can also dramatically change your husband's heart.
Think back to all the times God intervened in your life. Do you remember those times when you know it had to be God? His hand is on your life even now. If He can part the Red Sea, raise a dead man to life, and heal a child of terminal cancer, He can do miracles in your life. Trust him. Things may be hard for a while, don't lose faith. Be rock solid.
Think back to all the times God intervened in your life. Do you remember those times when you know it had to be God? His hand is on your life even now. If He can part the Red Sea, raise a dead man to life, and heal a child of terminal cancer, He can do miracles in your life. Trust him. Things may be hard for a while, don't lose faith. Be rock solid.
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I have been thinking alot about my relationship with my husband and all the times God tried to tell me to take a look at my marriage but I didn't listen. I can not say that I did not make mistakes in my marriage, but I have taken a good hard look at the way my husband treated me..and he never treated me with any kind of respect. There where signs every where but I didn't want to believe that the man I cared about so much never truly loved me. He cared for me as far as food, clothes and shelter, but as far as deep true love, I don't remember him feeling that way for me. He was always ready to punish me for my mistakes..even the littlest of things...would have him ignore me for days, he would stay out late, he would hit me, he would deny me any kind of affection so that I could learn my lesson. I know in my heart that I tried my best but he just was not happy being with me, and I have come to accept that. I still love and care about him, but I know now that he is where he wants to be. I pray for him always, but I know that the only thing I can do now is take care of myself and be the person God made me to be. It hurts that after 7 years of marriage he was able to just leave the way he did and to start dating right away, but I know that I am stronger now and I have learned this all from the one and only man who truly loves me...God!! I loved and cared about my husband more than I loved anyone, including God and myself..and I was so wrong. But I see now that with God as my guide I can make it in this crazy world.
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troubled heart
I know that sometimes it is hard to see that no matter what God has our best interest at heart and that he can change anything. If you want your husband don't let the devil take him from you. Pray to look past what seems so real so you can see the unimaginable and God's true plan for your marraige to be healthy and happy. God works on His own time and not ours. Don't stop praying and hoping. Don't give up.
I know that sometimes it is hard to see that no matter what God has our best interest at heart and that he can change anything. If you want your husband don't let the devil take him from you. Pray to look past what seems so real so you can see the unimaginable and God's true plan for your marraige to be healthy and happy. God works on His own time and not ours. Don't stop praying and hoping. Don't give up.
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