I cant do this anymore!

[wackyjo]

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[A Brother In Christ]

You need to change your mind about other women [repent..1 john 1:8-10]

God died for your sins at the cross ....

Are you ready to count what God says about you. true!
Romans 6:11-13

then if you are more mature in your faith ...? Romans 12:1-2

Find a man that fills your needs in the bedroom thru talk not action and marry
Hebrews 13:4

 

[Vilnius]

There are Christian organizations that help people who are struggeling with same-sex attraction. I am afraid I don't know the names, nor do I know what is available in Wales, but I bet there is one to help you. I understand a lot of people turn to homosexuality after sexual abuse. Perhaps a Christian organization that counsels abuse vivtims could direct you.

As far as the problem with masturbation, the best book I have seen for girls is "My Beautiful Feeling" by Walter and Ingrid Trobisch. It is available from quietwaterspub.com

Obviuosly, God forgives all sin, including sexual sin, but you do need to repent and flee from temptation.

Praise God!

 

[Verv]

I can tell you this: there is a significant percentage of women who feel degrees of lesbianism after being sexually abused. They feel that they cannot be attracted to males anymore in a sexual way, because it always reminds them of when they were sexually abused. This is fact.

I think that the root of the lesbianism could come from this -- it was such a traumatic and terrible experience that you can no longer feel proximity towards men. I hope that this makes you feel more normal -- I have known women who have had similar experiences. I hope that really helps you feel less alienatd and less alone.

Remember that you do not have to walk alone on this one -- many of us deal with sin, and we have to walk on together with God in our hearts. I hope that these feelings inside of you do not eventually discourage you to commit sin and segregate yourself from God. I care.

What I think would be a good basis to start is, of course, prayer, as well as talking to someone who is perhaps open-minded concerning this; I feel that there are peole who have a calling to help people in this situation, and you should try to find somebody who perhaps has gone through similar experiences. Being sexually abused is so traumatic that I am not surprised of these occurrences.
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Do not feel alone or ashamed -- you were victmized, and your body wishes so badly to never be victimized like this again that it is refusing to even take any chance with it. That is my theory.

I will pray for you -- I hope that you can find someone who has better answers than myself, and who can give personal assistance. I want to just remind you to not let this discourage you and your relationship with God, and drag you into sin; walk on with God n your heart.

 

[chilibowl]

God Still loves you!!!
Don't worry about that, He'll forgive any and all transgressions.

As far as what you should do is seek a good Christian consoulor in your area and work on your abuse and your coping issues and develope a stragity to help you in your time of need.. Know that this is not something your going to be able to do alone, so surround your self with good christian folks that your not attracted too or they you and don't give up continue to pray but don't think that's all you have to do either!

GLGB

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Your sexual abuse probably has much to do with your struggles.
*hug*

Of course God loves you.

 

[kingzjewel]

i suggest you read Out of Egypt: one woman's journey out of lesbianism by Jeanette Howard. it will help you bunches.

 

[madison1101]

Hey!!

I'm having real problems accepting that I am 'interested' in other girl.

For one, I am a christian (it may not be very much but I am one)! I do love God, but I also love Girls in my church.

Two days ago, my boyfriend Joe finished me because I told him, and he said that he cant go out with someone who dont know who she is. I had told him that there was nothing that physically attracted me to him. I dont find guys attractive.

Why can't I be normal? I want to be 'normal'!!!

Ive been going on Lesbian Chatrooms recently and I dont know it kind of fills a void in my heart... and one night in paticular I was on the chatroom and masturbating all night.

I'm very ashamed to say that I touch every night and I feel as though Iv sinned yet again. I want to break this habit, as [it makes me feel sick] (edited by Deamiter for content)

I started m**bating when I was very little, perhaps like all kids do, 'experimenting', 'getting to know their bodies', when they are in the phalic stage of development.

I started m**bating after I got sexually abused it must have been a coping strategy that brought comfort and still does. But it brings my shame...
When I was little my mum caught me every night and she made jokes about it, and to this day she still does.

I can't deal with this anymore. I'm scared to go to sleep at a friends house, or go on camps incase one morning someone sees me and tells everyone.

I need help with this what do you suggest?

Back to the Lesbian thing....does God still love me? I've let him down! Im angry with myself!

Love Jo xxx

((((((((((((((((Jo))))))))))))))))))

You are very loved by God and by me. Being sexually abused distort's your mind's conception of love and sex. I speak from personal experience. I strongly suggest that you find a good therapist who can help you sort out the sexual abuse stuff, and work through that. Also, I am including some statements I learned from Neil Anderson in his book "The Bondage Breaker" and "Victory Over the Darkness." These are truths about who you are regardless of anything you do. You can't change these truths. Copy them and read them everyday. Fill your heart and meditate on them. God loves you, and the scriptures cited here are proof.
Hugs,
Madison

Who I Am In Christ

I am accepted...



John 1:12

I am God's child.



John 15:15

As a disciple, I am a friend of Jesus Christ.



Romans 5:1

I have been justified.



1 Corinthians 6:17

I am united with the Lord, and I am one with Him in spirit.



1 Corinthians 6:19-20

I have been bought with a price and I belong to God.



1 Corinthians 12:27

I am a member of Christ's body.



Ephesians 1:3-8

I have been chosen by God and adopted as His child.



Colossians 1:13-14

I have been redeemed and forgiven of all my sins.



Colossians 2:9-10

I am complete in Christ.



Hebrews 4:14-16

I have direct access to the throne of grace through Jesus Christ.











I am secure...



Romans 8:1-2

I am free from condemnation.



Romans 8:28

I am assured that God works for my good in all circumstances.



Romans 8:31-39

I am free from any condemnation brought against me and I cannot be separated from the love of God.



2 Corinthians 1:21-22

I have been established, anointed and sealed by God.



Colossians 3:1-4

I am hidden with Christ in God.



Philippians 1:6

I am confident that God will complete the good work He started in me.



Philippians 3:20

I am a citizen of heaven.



2 Timothy 1:7

I have not been given a spirit of fear but of power, love and a sound mind.



1 John 5:18

I am born of God and the evil one cannot touch me.











I am significant...



John 15:5

I am a branch of Jesus Christ, the true vine, and a channel of His life.



John 15:16

I have been chosen and appointed to bear fruit.



1 Corinthians 3:16

I am God's temple.



2 Corinthians 5:17-21

I am a minister of reconciliation for God.



Ephesians 2:6

I am seated with Jesus Christ in the heavenly realm.



Ephesians 2:10

I am God's workmanship.



Ephesians 3:12

I may approach God with freedom and confidence.



Philippians 4:13

I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me.

​

 

[wackyjo]

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[Mr.Cheese]

*gives you a great big hug*

 

[Willo]

I will level with you.

It is wrong for someone to have sexual feelings for the same sex. Matthew 5:28 says to even look with lust is the same as adultery.

1 Corinthians 6:9 says those that commit adultery (fornication) will not go to heaven, by looking with lust you exclude yourself from Heaven. It goes on to say in the same verse that those who are homosexual will also not go to heaven.

The question then arises, if your not going to heaven, where will you end up? The only other option is hell. Now I don't want you to go there, and neither does God. But your sinful lifestyle will send you there.

The basic thing is, you have sinned against a just and holy God.

Yes, God does love you, but the wrath of God abides upon you. God is like a parent, even though He loves you, He still can, and is angry with you.

Right now you need to repent, turn from your sins, and put your trust in Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour.

 

[madison1101]

I will level with you.

It is wrong for someone to have sexual feelings for the same sex. Matthew 5:28 says to even look with lust is the same as adultery.

1 Corinthians 6:9 says those that commit adultery (fornication) will not go to heaven, by looking with lust you exclude yourself from Heaven. It goes on to say in the same verse that those who are homosexual will also not go to heaven.

The question then arises, if your not going to heaven, where will you end up? The only other option is hell. Now I don't want you to go there, and neither does God. But your sinful lifestyle will send you there.

The basic thing is, you have sinned against a just and holy God.

Yes, God does love you, but the wrath of God abides upon you. God is like a parent, even though He loves you, He still can, and is angry with you.

Right now you need to repent, turn from your sins, and put your trust in Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour.

I disagree that God is angry with wackyjo. Wackyjo has not acted on her feelings and has sought Godly counsel from us. She has done nothing that needs repentance. She is hurt and confused, and you, Willo, have posted this harsh judgement upon her.

Wackyjo, feel free to privately post to me. God sees your hurt and confusion and has promised you peace and rest in Him. Read those statements I posted and thank God for each of them. They are truth. God loves you and so do I.

 

[A Brother In Christ]

so did king david go to Hell?

romans 4:6-8

 

[Marie D]

Dear Jo,

First of all, I feel very, very sorry for you and the torment you feel. Yes, if you are a Christian, you should steer clear of sexual acts or lustful thoughts and sensations outside of marriage and definitely those which involve homosexuality.

*However* you should not hate yourself, or feel that God hates you. On the contrary, you should love yourself - God made you! - and above all, be secure in the knowledge that God loves you beyond compare.

You have said that a bad thing happened to you when you were younger. I don't know if this connects in some way with the downward spiral you seem to have become sucked into, but my guess is that it does. I agree with others here that a Christian counsellor could help you with all of this - I'm sure there's one attached to your Church. They respect your confidentiality so there's nothing to be lost from talking with them.

In the meantime I think you have to be strong and steer away from two things - lesbian talk on the internet and masturbation. I don't know but it could be that the physical pleasure you get from the second has become associated in your mind with the first so that lesbian ideas have become linked subconsciously with pleasure/lust, which is unhealthy. Both homosexuality and masturbation are wrong, and putting the two of them together is doubly so.

Also, you wrote that you had a boyfriend but you broke up because you said to him that you were attracted to girls. Did you love him, find him attractive and trust him? If you did, I wonder if it might be a good idea to tell him about the abuse and reassure him that you do have feelings for him but that the abuse may have confused you and sent you down a wrong path.

I have a friend who thought she was a lesbian because she had been abused - not sexually, but with violence and psychologically (which IMHO can be the worst). It made her very mistrustful of men generally and also she felt that she was in some way dirty and unlovable by men. It turned out that one of the paths to her salvation was through the friendship and love of a special young man. For this reason IMHO being close to a man that you love, rather than letting him go, might help.

 

[wackyjo]

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[wackyjo]

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[Mr.Cheese]

*hug*

 

[Hope_0004]

Hey sweetie...

Well, I think as long as you're not acting on any sexual thoughts/fantasies right now (with either a male or a female), that is really not the big problem. First you need to focus on finally dealing with the abuse that was a part of your life for apparently a very long time. That is paramount. After you take that problem on, you may very well find that your confusion on other fronts begins to subside.

That being said, as long as you are trying to get help for all these issues and genuinely try to please God with your life, I don't think you're going to hell. 'Course, that's not my place to decide, but I can't imagine our loving God seeing you struggle this way and then banishing you.

I think the chronic masturbation is a sign that you don't only "like girls" - you have lots of problems with sexual confusion you need to deal with. Personally I don't see the big deal with masturbation, but you shouldn't be doing anything so much that it worries you are takes away from the rest of our life, or something that is secretive and that embarrasses/shames you.

I think you need professional help - not just a pastor or a church, but psychological help.

 

[madison1101]

Hey sweetie...

Well, I think as long as you're not acting on any sexual thoughts/fantasies right now (with either a male or a female), that is really not the big problem. First you need to focus on finally dealing with the abuse that was a part of your life for apparently a very long time. That is paramount. After you take that problem on, you may very well find that your confusion on other fronts begins to subside.

That being said, as long as you are trying to get help for all these issues and genuinely try to please God with your life, I don't think you're going to hell. 'Course, that's not my place to decide, but I can't imagine our loving God seeing you struggle this way and then banishing you.

I think the chronic masturbation is a sign that you don't only "like girls" - you have lots of problems with sexual confusion you need to deal with. Personally I don't see the big deal with masturbation, but you shouldn't be doing anything so much that it worries you are takes away from the rest of our life, or something that is secretive and that embarrasses/shames you.

I think you need professional help - not just a pastor or a church, but psychological help.

Hi Jo,
Like this post says...You have big issues to contend with. Seek a psychotherapist who can help you work through the BIG stuff that is at the root of the thoughts and feelings you are having. Keep reading the Word of God and see how much the Lord loves you and has compassion on you. When I was struggling with my sexual abuse and sexual acting out as a result, I read and reread John 8, Psalm 139 over and over again. Jesus said to the woman caught in adultery "Neither do I condemn you. Go and sin no more." Jesus does not condemn you if you are His child. Hugs.

 

[Marie D]

Ho Jo,

I prayed for you when I saw your posts that said you're still suffering. I think if you can find the strength to stop the masturbation that will help a lot because you will no longer be 'rewarding' your homosexual thoughts. Once you've done that, counselling may be able to help you to come to terms with the bad things in your past and set you back on the right path.


Best wishes!


Marie