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I am very down at this time

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Over the last 5 and a half years God has given me promises almost daily that he wants to reconcile me to a friend. (I've spoken of this before.) But I have had promises from the Word, He has spoken to my heart, I have had angelice visits (2x), I have had prophecies galore spoken over me, I have had words from friends and just an inner assurance that God wanted to do this reconciliantion for His glory. A little over a month ago things went from bad to worse. My friend who is in a cult situation used to try and contact me a couple of times per week per silent calls or emails (he was monitored from speaking) and we would see each other on the street and smile (no talking). This at least gave me hope but this last month and a half after five years of contact there has been almost no word from him. I don't know what happened. My daughter whom he used to speak with with no problem was refused entrance into his office and I feel like I did something but I don't know what it is. Anyway, I am very sad since I wanted my daughter to deliver a letter for me to him and since he has not contacted me after five and a half years, I feel like something is up. On top of this I tried to explain the situation to my pastor and he can not believe that one the church my friend is in is cultic and two that God would want me to wait this long to reconcile. He feels that it is useless to even believe. But I can't throw out all the promises and visions and words spoken to me. I have to believe. Yet it has never looked darker than today and I feel so alone and that there is no one who can help and even if there was that they would not have the sensitivity to help that maybe they'd say something that would make a bigger wall go up. I want a helper on one hand and am afraid to make matter worse on the other. But I miss my friend and want to speak to him. Last time I saw him about two months ago he not only smiled but cried. I don't know how to proceed and I don't want to miss being able to tell him I forgive and accept him. I think he is walking under guilt for the past and I just plain miss him and his friendship. What can I do?--Rose
 

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This sounds very complicated, Rose. It is hard to give advice without more background on your friend.
What cult is he (is it a he??) in? What relationship do you have with this person other than friendship? Were you in love with this person and hoping for marriage?
It is very difficult to help with so little information, but I will pray for you and your friend.
 
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It's not a cult officially. It is a mainstream church which has become a cult in the way it deals with people. I was in a real cult, the Assembly, and so I can recognize a cult when I see one. He is in this situation because he feels he can not leave. If he leaves he believes he will loose all that he has worked for.


I am his best friend and sister in the Lord. I am married to another and we both care about him and the problem is my husband is not yet saved and so he has no desire to get involved in church matters. I left the church when I saw it was becoming very dark and cultic. My friend is afraid to leave and we are not allowed to speak to each other, yet he tries to communicate in other ways. He is very depressed and we miss each other and the there is the promise for a future ministry for us. But first he must be delivered and we must reconcile.

Thanks for prayer--Rose
 
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Rose Kuo

One thing does not change. God allows us choices. he never takes that priviledge away from us. God can comminicate His desires to us, but he will not override the choices of the other person.

Ultimately, Hell is there because even God did not 'get through' to those people, because they would not change their atttuded towards Him.

You must just get on with your life. If he does change great. But that is up to him and God, not you.

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Both of you brothers are right. I am trying to go forward with what God has shown me. I am in the process of rewriting a seminar on the topic of forgiveness and reconciliation. I have learned so much through this ordeal that I have enough material for a seven meeting seminar (two hours each) on the subject! I might turn the seminar into a book and just do speaking on parts of the the books instead. But I will never stop praying for the man but I can't wait for my life to begin when he repents or is delivered. But I know that I am called to pray for him and show him what unconditional love is. He has never learned what that concept is or the concept of forgiveness/reconciliation is. I will always hope. I will try to go forward, be here for him. Thank you both for prayer and advice. Blessings!!!!!--Rose
 
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