I am so insecure

[RedeemedtoManhood]

I have been insecure for many, many years. I'm 6 months into my new job. This unbeliever man, whose position is not very high and merely clerical, nevertheless has managed to shine in the office for many years.

Everyone just likes and admires him. Unbeliever, yes, but he has managed to be nice to everyone, patient, so industrious and excellent in his job. Even the high bosses give him extra tasks that belong to higher positions, although there is no increase in salary. He is good-looking, yes, and the most good-looking of all of us. He is also intelligent. When we played an interoffice contest about worldly programs, he knew a lot and won the game, and everyone was amazed. When we played a history game, he answered some questions, and they praised him. But I answered more questions, and a lady called me a nerd.

The shirts he wore, girls would swoon. During the dance, the girls praised him, but in fact, one guy was truly the better dancer. During our singing session, I, being a worship leader, truly sang well and they praised me for singing, but he still got praised alongside me as if we are par on singing (but in reality, he was so-so, just in tune).

I tried to exert a lot of effort to mingle with the people in the office. But it just resulted to just getting by. Not being hated nor outcasted. That's it. I never shone in the office. But this Unbeliever guy has shone all these years.

Plus, his niceness is appropriate, but not Christlike excessive kindness. He is nicer to the bosses for instance, greeting them. But never complimenting nor greeting us.

My wavelength is just different from them all the time, despite my efforts to mingle

What should I do with this insecurity?

 

[Tolworth John]

I'm 6 months into my new job
This unbeliever man, whose position is not very high and merely clerical, nevertheless has managed to shine in the office for many years.

You are a newcomer and are competing against an established character.
He has known admirers, while you don't.

May I suggest you don't try to compete with him.
Do your job, be yourself.

He is nicer to the bosses for instance, greeting them. But never complimenting nor greeting us.

Most people will be aware of this side to Him.

Your task isn't to be more like him but to show how Christ like you can be.

 

[Daddibubba]

I have been insecure for many, many years. I'm 6 months into my new job. This unbeliever man, whose position is not very high and merely clerical, nevertheless has managed to shine in the office for many years.

Everyone just likes and admires him. Unbeliever, yes, but he has managed to be nice to everyone, patient, so industrious and excellent in his job. Even the high bosses give him extra tasks that belong to higher positions, although there is no increase in salary. He is good-looking, yes, and the most good-looking of all of us. He is also intelligent. When we played an interoffice contest about worldly programs, he knew a lot and won the game, and everyone was amazed. When we played a history game, he answered some questions, and they praised him. But I answered more questions, and a lady called me a nerd.

The shirts he wore, girls would swoon. During the dance, the girls praised him, but in fact, one guy was truly the better dancer. During our singing session, I, being a worship leader, truly sang well and they praised me for singing, but he still got praised alongside me as if we are par on singing (but in reality, he was so-so, just in tune).

I tried to exert a lot of effort to mingle with the people in the office. But it just resulted to just getting by. Not being hated nor outcasted. That's it. I never shone in the office. But this Unbeliever guy has shone all these years.

Plus, his niceness is appropriate, but not Christlike excessive kindness. He is nicer to the bosses for instance, greeting them. But never complimenting nor greeting us.

My wavelength is just different from them all the time, despite my efforts to mingle

What should I do with this insecurity?

Im sorry you have let this individual run your work and likely home time. Brother, this is nothing more than jealousy. He is him, in his skin, and in an environment that affords him much accolades and attention, usually with much less effort than you apply I would guess. The defense for this for me would be to pray for my hurt ego to be set aside and seek Christ in this. His advice I would have to assume would be to show him brotherly love and be you. Who knows, it may be on you to introduce him to Christ.

 

[Sawsar]

I have been insecure for many, many years. I'm 6 months into my new job. This unbeliever man, whose position is not very high and merely clerical, nevertheless has managed to shine in the office for many years.

Everyone just likes and admires him. Unbeliever, yes, but he has managed to be nice to everyone, patient, so industrious and excellent in his job. Even the high bosses give him extra tasks that belong to higher positions, although there is no increase in salary. He is good-looking, yes, and the most good-looking of all of us. He is also intelligent. When we played an interoffice contest about worldly programs, he knew a lot and won the game, and everyone was amazed. When we played a history game, he answered some questions, and they praised him. But I answered more questions, and a lady called me a nerd.

The shirts he wore, girls would swoon. During the dance, the girls praised him, but in fact, one guy was truly the better dancer. During our singing session, I, being a worship leader, truly sang well and they praised me for singing, but he still got praised alongside me as if we are par on singing (but in reality, he was so-so, just in tune).

I tried to exert a lot of effort to mingle with the people in the office. But it just resulted to just getting by. Not being hated nor outcasted. That's it. I never shone in the office. But this Unbeliever guy has shone all these years.

Plus, his niceness is appropriate, but not Christlike excessive kindness. He is nicer to the bosses for instance, greeting them. But never complimenting nor greeting us.

My wavelength is just different from them all the time, despite my efforts to mingle

What should I do with this insecurity?

I recommend member AGTG messages. He has 25 pages, he has the gift of teaching. Just begin to read through his responds to people's concerns.
God bless you

 

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Proverbs 29 v 25
Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe.

2 Corinthians 3:4-5 NIV​

Such confidence we have through Christ before God. Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God.

Insecurity - GoodTherapy.org Therapy Blog

Insecurity, or a tendency to lack confidence or certainty in oneself, may be experienced by most people regarding some aspect of their lives. For many, feelings of insecurity can be resolved before they have a lasting, harmful impact. When one deals with generalized insecurity for a long period...

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[Unqualified]

Your not insecure you are envious or a little inferior feelings or competing with him for the attention you want.
but keep up the good work, do your best and you will have praise from above. We all can’t be the center of attention. Maybe when he retires you will get more responsibility. But he is probably empty inside and wanting more recognition and wondering what it’s all for. Be glad for his excellence and hard work. It’s all in his own strength though. Don’t compare your self to the world or be envious. You should have peace not selfish ambition. God is being good to you that you don’t have to do all he does. He has earned it but what does he have this and no more. He is gifted and strong and more shrewd in business. He is climbing to the top. And then what?