I am newly single

[WilliamM]

Hi.
I am going to be 44 at the end of the month.
I have been in love with my girlfriend for the past 5 years.
She has met someone else and I feel terrible.
I am at such a low point in my life.
We have a young son and she has full custody of him.
I have no job, no money, no car and soon no place to live.
I am beginning to feel like life is not worth living.
Please tell me it gets better and pray for me.

 

[Life2Christ]

Oh dear. What a hard place to be in right now. I will certainly pray for you. Life IS worth living. Your son needs you because we don't know what mental state your girlfriend is right now. We don't know if her new boyfriend will like your son or treat him well. Please fight for your son. You are his only father and the most important person in his life right now. Getting tough at a time like this is better than getting run over.

 

[blackribbon]

Welcome and sorry you have found yourself here. I wish I could give you better news..but it will be emotionally crappy for a while as you get your feet back under you. However, you have a boy that needs you ... so find a way to fight your way back to a healthy place in life. Look for a DivorceCare group in your area. I have heard great things about this program. They also may be able to help you with your tangible needs.

I will be praying for you. Don't give up...you still have value and you will find it again if you keep looking.

 

[dayhiker]

Hi William,
I'd say your in a tough situation. But its not the end of the world.

How long since she left? I'd say be sure to treat her good when you see her. If that guys isn't who he is telling her he she then then will look back to you if your treating her right.

1st your got to get up each morning and start to build your life. Get a list of a few things to do each day and do them. It will help you feel good about yourself and will help calm your emotions down.

Keep in touch with us.

 

[WilliamM]

She hasn't left.
We still reside under the same roof.
It is her house and I have no place to go otherwise I would.
She just has been going and sleeping at this other guy's house and
I am at home with our child. It is really demeaning to me.
I have been a stay at home dad to him since he was born.
That is why I am in this situation of being broke and jobless and car less.

 

[blackribbon]

So why are you giving up the child? Sounds like you have a good case for getting child support and keeping your child. It is time for you to go find a job so you get some power back. Do you have any relatives that will allow you to live with them for a short period of time?

 

[dayhiker]

William, Thanks for coming back to share an update.

So continue to be a good father. I'm with black, she would pay your child support. Legally that will take some time. But its one of your goals.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

other than having to watch your child, is there any other thing that prevents you from working? Are you ill? just curious. If not, then you should try to do one thing each day to change your situation. Alot of companies now want you to apply online anyway, so you could start there. And then if you do get called for an interview maybe you could find a friend or the mother to watch the child while you go on your interview.