I am new so this my first Thread. So are you uncomfortable hugging?

[Blessed Celibate Life]

I find that I am uncomfortable hugging both genders. I think that it invades personal space and is too personal contact. I am thinking that a handshake or a fist pump is my kind of greeting so that it is less personal and does not make uncomfortable. Or what are your thoughts?

 

[Stranger36147]

I'm not really a hugging or affectionate person either. But a hug every now and then is okay, I guess.

 

[Neogaia777]

I find that I am uncomfortable hugging both genders. I think that it invades personal space and is too personal contact. I am thinking that a handshake or a fist pump is my kind of greeting so that it is less personal and does not make uncomfortable. Or what are your thoughts?

I usually let them choose or initiate, regardless of my personal discomfort that I do have sometimes still... I choose to deal with it anyway though, if it happens, ect... I don't let them know about though of course a lot of the time though...

Oh and, welcome to CF...

God Bless!

 

[Blessed Celibate Life]

Thanks.

 

[bèlla]

I think it’s important to respect people’s personal space. If I wish to communicate caring through physical intimacy I may squeeze their hand (woman) or touch their arm (man). They’re gentle ways to demonstrate care that don’t put the person on the spot.

If I’m familiar with them we may embrace or exchange a kiss (air/cheek). But I would never do that to a stranger. It’s awkward and I wouldn’t want to receive the same.

 

[J Daniel]

I am okay with hugging if I am okay with it!

I think it’s important to respect people’s personal space. If I wish to communicate caring through physical intimacy I may squeeze their hand (woman) or touch their arm (man). They’re gentle ways to demonstrate care that don’t put the person on the spot.

If I’m familiar with them we may embrace or exchange a kiss (air/cheek). But I would never do that to a stranger. It’s awkward and I wouldn’t want to receive the same.

 

[Messerve]

I like hugs with certain people.

As for women - female relatives, female friends from my childhood, women who are close to my family and knew me as a child, and godly Christian women my age if I'm a friend of her husband.

As for men - close Christians friends (some are still awkward about a full bear hug), my dad, my brothers if we've been apart for a long time, my grandpa once in awhile and co-workers that I particularly enjoyed working with (if they're moving on to another job or something).

I have one friend with whom a friendly hug is long overdue, but he's uncomfortable with showing affection. So we just shake hands. For me, a hand shake is nice but too formal for close friends. A hug would be my preferred way of showing something I think he or she is special to me.

Most people, I avoid touching. I get self-conscious even about my hand touching a cashier's hand when she gives me my receipt....

 

[kittysbecute]

I don’t like hugging people I don’t know. I don’t tend to hug many people. Hugs can be nice though. The hugs I’ve liked were from loved ones or a kind gesture from a friend or relative. I miss hugging my grandparents. They gave the best hugs.

I also don’t really like giving handshakes - but that is necessary for social reasons.