I lost my mom on April 20th to brain cancer. I am having such a hard time right now. Everyone seems to either make me mad or make me cry. I just got off the phone with my husband and he is mad at me. I totally deserve it- I was wrong. I just can't deal with conflict right now.I wound up crying almost hysterically. I feel like if I didn't have my son (he's 4 months) that I would prob. not even bother getting out of bed most days. I also feel like that is totally the reason God sent him into my life at the time that he did.Am I normal? Is it supposed to hurt this much?
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I am having a hard time
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Everyone grieves in their own way, and it's natural to have many feelings. You've suffered a terrible loss, and it will take time.
Hugs to you, and I hope you can get support in your grief.
Is there someone you can talk with? Can you tell your husband you need some extra private time, and his understanding?
Just a few ideas. Please take care of yourself, and know that others are thinking of you and wishing you the best.
Hugs to you, and I hope you can get support in your grief.
Is there someone you can talk with? Can you tell your husband you need some extra private time, and his understanding? Just a few ideas. Please take care of yourself, and know that others are thinking of you and wishing you the best.
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(((Jamie)))
Your grief is still so raw and new. Please be gentle with yourself. Allow whatever emotions your need to grieve. It is not the same for everyone, but your mom is such an important part of your life. That loss is so profound. I am glad you have your baby to give you a reason to go on living. When you feel like just giving up always hold that thought before you. Your son needs you and jus think: you are sharing with him all the things your mom taught you so you are sharing your mom with him.
I wish you peace as you are on this long journey of grief. It is tiring and it takes a lot of energy. Rest when you can, drink plenty of water and take care of you!!
BIG hugs to you today!
Your grief is still so raw and new. Please be gentle with yourself. Allow whatever emotions your need to grieve. It is not the same for everyone, but your mom is such an important part of your life. That loss is so profound. I am glad you have your baby to give you a reason to go on living. When you feel like just giving up always hold that thought before you. Your son needs you and jus think: you are sharing with him all the things your mom taught you so you are sharing your mom with him.
I wish you peace as you are on this long journey of grief. It is tiring and it takes a lot of energy. Rest when you can, drink plenty of water and take care of you!!
BIG hugs to you today!
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I'm sorry that you are having such a hard time. I think though that what your experiencing is normal. You haven't even had a month yet to grieve one of the most important people in your life. I'll be praying for you.
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The problem is within some people that they don't understand how sensitive you get when you are sad.
That you feel like you only have two ways either to be angry or to cry as if you are punishing yourself for not doing anything to your mother to help her not to die but that is Allah's (God's ) will.And you just cry when you feel that your energy is zero for getting angry.
Take your time and I feel the harder grief you have now is better than stretching it to cover your whole life with sadness.
And whenever you get angry just listen to this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8o_ydWA3QAQ
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bless you. i do understand, first hand, what a difficult time you are experiencing. i wish i could take your pain away. love ((((((((hugs)))))))
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My goodness, you are Extremely normal! My mom was my best friend and the pain in loosing her has been tremendous! I miss the encouragement, the comfort and just the fellowship we shared. I'm certain it was the same for you. And yes, I agree that God sent you that little one to keep the chain going - your mom was who her parents helped to make, you are what your mother helped to make and your child will be shaped by what you bring. I'm sorry that it was your mother's time to go but she is at peace and free of all pain - God is so good to us and you have a blessing in your arms!
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