Hello everyone, I am new to this forum, but, I came here to look for advice. I have a problem with humbling myself, I hurt alot of people in my arrogant ways, and take everything they say so seriously. I want to be able to be humble and I have tried many things, somebody please help me, or at least pray for me, feel free to email me, thanks you. God bless. =]
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Humbling yourself.
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ukok
Freaked out, insecure, neurotic and Emotional
firstly i would like to welcome you to CF...WELCOME!
Secondly, i would simply like to say that we are all sinners here... now that you are aware of how your behaviour has affected others, you can take the next step...apologise...and then the next...strive to live differently.
I will pray for you.
Secondly, i would simply like to say that we are all sinners here... now that you are aware of how your behaviour has affected others, you can take the next step...apologise...and then the next...strive to live differently.
I will pray for you.
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Blessed-one
a long journey ahead
good advice there ukok.
Here's a verse you may find helpful:
"v.13. Brothers, i do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing i do: forgetting what is behind and straining towards what is ahead.
v.16. Only let us live up to what we have already attained." - Philippians
don't worry much about the past, but focus on not letting your temper go to the point that hurts others when the time comes again. It is possible, you just need to pray more and really put your will into achieving it. Praying for you.
Here's a verse you may find helpful:
"v.13. Brothers, i do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing i do: forgetting what is behind and straining towards what is ahead.
v.16. Only let us live up to what we have already attained." - Philippians
don't worry much about the past, but focus on not letting your temper go to the point that hurts others when the time comes again. It is possible, you just need to pray more and really put your will into achieving it. Praying for you.
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Light Keeper
Blessed of God. Halleluja
Greetings, Would love to send help, but a little to long for posting. Would e-mail but you have not authorised it!!
Will keep you befor the Lord
SHALOM
Will keep you befor the Lord
SHALOM
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Kirisutokyoo-shinja
Stage Ninja
Welcome 
Place your mind set to be humble, let that be your conscious effort to walk in God's will.
Glory has a lot to do with this, in all ways acknowledge Him. Every Good thing that is produced from our lives comes from God, it is HE who empowers us, HE who has favored us, and by His Grace we are what we are. The areas that we think we are better than others in, or that we ourselves are better...
Why do we feel this way? Maybe its true that we are better at certain things than others or whatever the case, yet it is ALL by the Grace of God.
Remember that. Then give all Glory unto Him.
Basically, Give God the glory for EVERY little thing.
In this way you are taking away the attention towards yourself, taking away any right (not that there is any) for you to be arrogant, and is proclaiming to those around you that through the grace of God you have changed and that He is Lord and All Glory Is Due Him.
Also, try to think towards others as better than yourself. Yet all at once, don't degrade yourself. There is balance.
I hope this helped.
God Bless,
And welcome to CF.
Place your mind set to be humble, let that be your conscious effort to walk in God's will.
Glory has a lot to do with this, in all ways acknowledge Him. Every Good thing that is produced from our lives comes from God, it is HE who empowers us, HE who has favored us, and by His Grace we are what we are. The areas that we think we are better than others in, or that we ourselves are better...
Why do we feel this way? Maybe its true that we are better at certain things than others or whatever the case, yet it is ALL by the Grace of God.
Remember that. Then give all Glory unto Him.
Basically, Give God the glory for EVERY little thing.
In this way you are taking away the attention towards yourself, taking away any right (not that there is any) for you to be arrogant, and is proclaiming to those around you that through the grace of God you have changed and that He is Lord and All Glory Is Due Him.
Also, try to think towards others as better than yourself. Yet all at once, don't degrade yourself. There is balance.
I hope this helped.
God Bless,
And welcome to CF.
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I have that problem too...except it's the opposite. When I was young I was humble, nowdays I've become arrogrant.
I've been delt harshly when I humblied when I was young, and since then I've been developing ways to overcome other's greed to take advantage over my humbliness.
But I never thought arrogrance would creep into my life... it's such a pain, it's like my mum, would tell me what not to do, because of her own opinion...I know it's her opinion, and that her opinion would do more damage...these days I don't even bother. She wants to know things that goes on at uni....and I can't be bothered saying it because I know it'll come to nothing...
Now that I think about it...I only take pity for the weak, yet not for the normal.....but still...my arrogrance.....ARGH!
I've been delt harshly when I humblied when I was young, and since then I've been developing ways to overcome other's greed to take advantage over my humbliness.
But I never thought arrogrance would creep into my life... it's such a pain, it's like my mum, would tell me what not to do, because of her own opinion...I know it's her opinion, and that her opinion would do more damage...these days I don't even bother. She wants to know things that goes on at uni....and I can't be bothered saying it because I know it'll come to nothing...
Now that I think about it...I only take pity for the weak, yet not for the normal.....but still...my arrogrance.....ARGH!
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looksgood
Veteran
Hmmm....being humble. Humbleness comes from knowing your own state. When I was younger I used to think "I know more than those who are tring to teach me!" LOL. I had no idea how little I really knew. I went through a time that I forgot most everything I ever knew. I even had people tell me "Remember what you told me." When I asked for help. But I couldn't remember. Anyway after the trial I learned to not compare myself with others. But to compare myself with God who is the standard. I know now I will never add up, and it humbles me. Besides, we don't even know what it is to be the other person. All I know to say is to look at God and what He knows instead of others.
God be with you.
God be with you.
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DWJD
Independent and stubborn, not to mention random
I sort of have that problem. I have a hard time accepting that I'm wrong, and all. The best thing I can suggest it always think of foot-washing !!! Think of how Jesus humbled himself for people, and suffered humility for us! I've come to like and want humility (because humility is a form of humbleness).......well I may not like it in the moment, but when I'm cringing after an embarrassing moment or something, I try and gulp it down, count it down as an opportunity to show humility!
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Light Keeper
Blessed of God. Halleluja
Greeing every body in the Name of the LORD.
Please find below an edited conversation, that you may fin
d enlightening.
NASB Romans 12:3 For through the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think more highly of himself than he ought to think; but to think so as to have sound judgment, as God has allotted to each a measure of faith.
Question: It's hard to know what to think.
So what do we do? We would like to serve. We would like to feel fulfilled. We would like to use our gifts for the benefit of others. But even as we attempt to do so we are aware that some will accept us and some will not. It will affect our self-esteem.
We dare not be proud, because we have learned that God resists the proud. We must be clothed with humility.
And yet we are told that we are the sons of God. As believers in the Lord Jesus Christ we are, each of us, the child of a king. A royal priesthood. He has made us kings and priests to God.
(1 Cor 4:7)What do you have that you did not receive? If you received it, why do you boast about it? If you are different, isn't it because God has made you different?
Yet it has been said that there are three versions of you: 1. What you think of yourself. 2. What others think of you. 3. What you really are.
Some of us have very low self-esteem, based in part on what others have said of us. But is that not an affront to God? Some of us think very highly of ourselves. But what if it is too high? What if it equals pride? Some of us have yet to learn what God has built into us.
Yet this latter seems to be the focus of the scripture saying that we should think soberly. We should recognize and accept what God has made us.
How high then should be your self-esteem?
Answer from Ed:
Ah! The wonderful world of psycho-babble. "It's hard to know what to think." "1. What you think of yourself. 2. What others think of you. 3. What you really are."
Then you answered the question yourself. "And yet we are told that we are the sons of God. As believers in the Lord Jesus Christ we are, each of us, the child of a king. A royal priesthood. He has made us kings and priests to God."
Galations 5:16-26 tells us who we are how to think and most importantly how to live this life.
Let the Spirit lead you not the psycho-babble that is so popular today.
Question I agree. So now please tell us: How high is your self-esteem? Do you think of yourself as a king or as a servant? Do you combine them both? And then what do you get?
Romans 12:3 is in the context of fitting into the body, the church. Does it not matter then, how you come across to people?
The question has the serious goal of helping us to have a proper self-concept and to carry ourselves accordingly.
Answer from Ed:
James 4:10 Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and He will lift you up.
When your secure in Christ Jesus you humble yourself and let Him present you to the world.
We get all tangled in psycho-babble trying to decide how act, feel and respond to those around us. If we have a servants heart knowing we are secure children of the King we don't have to pretend to be something we are not.
If we let the world define us then we worry how it views us. If we Let God define us we know how He views us.
1 Peter 5:5-6 Likewise you younger people, submit yourselves to your elders. Yes, all of you be submissive to one another, and be clothed with humility, for "God resists the proud, But gives grace to the humble." [6] Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time,
I know that breaks with everything we have been told but God is awesome God and He is in control.Ed
Question : Ah, Ed, you make it sound so easy.
Part of my motivation for asking the question was a conversation I had with a client yesterday afternoon. She confided that she has been saved for 12 years. And yet, up to this point she has thought of herself as worthless.
It is apparent that some of our brethren are like that sister was, walking around with low self-esteem. Others are haughty, arrogant, even proud. Some answer the telephone with, "Can I help you", giving the impression they are only here on this earth to give help.
So I guess I think the matter is not quite that simple. And I should have known. Why did Paul think it necessary to "say to everyone among you not to think more highly of himself than he ought to think"?
It seems to me that some think too highly and some think too lowly. Or am I wrong about that?
Answer:
Too many Christians allow themselves to be convinced they have to live in the past. We have learned to explain our behavior pointing to things in the past whether good or bad and how they effect us, how we should deal with them and even what to expect should issues change. We are in fact allowing ourselves to be made slaves to our old self.
I ask one question, "are you saved?" The answer, "yes" then I say the Bible must lie because since in 2 Cor. 5:17 it says "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new."
I say, "if he was really save the old things couldn't have a hold on him."
Christ called him to put away the past to live for the future, knowing nothing on this earth can effect his position in Christ. That God loved him and thought him special enough that He willingly gave His only begotten Son to die for Him.
Is it that simple not always, but unless we forget all the pyscho-babble and hold tightly to 2 Cor. 5:17 we will never realize the worth esteemed to us through Jesus Christ.
Ed
Note: Many thanks amen. God bless
Note:
Thanks, and yes it is not always that easy or quick. But the Christian community has got to stop letting the world define us and start getting into the Bible and finding out how God defines us. Our worth, our being, our purpose are defined by, and established in God. Until one realizes the value God places on us we have a hard time justifing ourselves.
EdB
Apologies for the length, but helpful,
I pray that you are illuminated and blessed by the Holy Spirit.
SHALOM.
Please find below an edited conversation, that you may fin
d enlightening.
NASB Romans 12:3 For through the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think more highly of himself than he ought to think; but to think so as to have sound judgment, as God has allotted to each a measure of faith.
Question: It's hard to know what to think.
So what do we do? We would like to serve. We would like to feel fulfilled. We would like to use our gifts for the benefit of others. But even as we attempt to do so we are aware that some will accept us and some will not. It will affect our self-esteem.
We dare not be proud, because we have learned that God resists the proud. We must be clothed with humility.
And yet we are told that we are the sons of God. As believers in the Lord Jesus Christ we are, each of us, the child of a king. A royal priesthood. He has made us kings and priests to God.
(1 Cor 4:7)What do you have that you did not receive? If you received it, why do you boast about it? If you are different, isn't it because God has made you different?
Yet it has been said that there are three versions of you: 1. What you think of yourself. 2. What others think of you. 3. What you really are.
Some of us have very low self-esteem, based in part on what others have said of us. But is that not an affront to God? Some of us think very highly of ourselves. But what if it is too high? What if it equals pride? Some of us have yet to learn what God has built into us.
Yet this latter seems to be the focus of the scripture saying that we should think soberly. We should recognize and accept what God has made us.
How high then should be your self-esteem?
Answer from Ed:
Ah! The wonderful world of psycho-babble. "It's hard to know what to think." "1. What you think of yourself. 2. What others think of you. 3. What you really are."
Then you answered the question yourself. "And yet we are told that we are the sons of God. As believers in the Lord Jesus Christ we are, each of us, the child of a king. A royal priesthood. He has made us kings and priests to God."
Galations 5:16-26 tells us who we are how to think and most importantly how to live this life.
Let the Spirit lead you not the psycho-babble that is so popular today.
Question I agree. So now please tell us: How high is your self-esteem? Do you think of yourself as a king or as a servant? Do you combine them both? And then what do you get?
Romans 12:3 is in the context of fitting into the body, the church. Does it not matter then, how you come across to people?
The question has the serious goal of helping us to have a proper self-concept and to carry ourselves accordingly.
Answer from Ed:
James 4:10 Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and He will lift you up.
When your secure in Christ Jesus you humble yourself and let Him present you to the world.
We get all tangled in psycho-babble trying to decide how act, feel and respond to those around us. If we have a servants heart knowing we are secure children of the King we don't have to pretend to be something we are not.
If we let the world define us then we worry how it views us. If we Let God define us we know how He views us.
1 Peter 5:5-6 Likewise you younger people, submit yourselves to your elders. Yes, all of you be submissive to one another, and be clothed with humility, for "God resists the proud, But gives grace to the humble." [6] Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time,
I know that breaks with everything we have been told but God is awesome God and He is in control.Ed
Question : Ah, Ed, you make it sound so easy.
Part of my motivation for asking the question was a conversation I had with a client yesterday afternoon. She confided that she has been saved for 12 years. And yet, up to this point she has thought of herself as worthless.
It is apparent that some of our brethren are like that sister was, walking around with low self-esteem. Others are haughty, arrogant, even proud. Some answer the telephone with, "Can I help you", giving the impression they are only here on this earth to give help.
So I guess I think the matter is not quite that simple. And I should have known. Why did Paul think it necessary to "say to everyone among you not to think more highly of himself than he ought to think"?
It seems to me that some think too highly and some think too lowly. Or am I wrong about that?
Answer:
Too many Christians allow themselves to be convinced they have to live in the past. We have learned to explain our behavior pointing to things in the past whether good or bad and how they effect us, how we should deal with them and even what to expect should issues change. We are in fact allowing ourselves to be made slaves to our old self.
I ask one question, "are you saved?" The answer, "yes" then I say the Bible must lie because since in 2 Cor. 5:17 it says "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new."
I say, "if he was really save the old things couldn't have a hold on him."
Christ called him to put away the past to live for the future, knowing nothing on this earth can effect his position in Christ. That God loved him and thought him special enough that He willingly gave His only begotten Son to die for Him.
Is it that simple not always, but unless we forget all the pyscho-babble and hold tightly to 2 Cor. 5:17 we will never realize the worth esteemed to us through Jesus Christ.
Ed
Note: Many thanks amen. God bless
Note:
Thanks, and yes it is not always that easy or quick. But the Christian community has got to stop letting the world define us and start getting into the Bible and finding out how God defines us. Our worth, our being, our purpose are defined by, and established in God. Until one realizes the value God places on us we have a hard time justifing ourselves.
EdB
Apologies for the length, but helpful,
I pray that you are illuminated and blessed by the Holy Spirit.
SHALOM.
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Hey guys, I got a few emails, I am still having problems with being humble, I was wondering, can people tell me about experiences they became humble, how God helped them, I have a very hard time following alot of what people say, sorry
Email me if you want ok?
Email me if you want ok?
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SAVEVERYONE
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yes God is dealing with me through this site even as I speak about humility and to humble myself,
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Yeah, I dunno, I mean like, alot of what I am praying about, being humble has to do with the internet, and, if I cant be humble on the net, how can I be in real life? maybe God is trying to train me online I dunno. I am so mean to ppl online and things, I know it is silly, but I dont seem to be able to make any emotional connection online oh well. Just pray for me, I know there are bigger fish to fry that can be praid for.
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starbuilds@yahoo.com
email me if you wish, this is my addy, no spamming or anything, but I dont know if I will come to this site much anymore.
....were all in this race together, the race to finish for Jesus, though some of us fall, and some of us stumble.. NOT ONE of us ever finishes, it is not until we allow Jesus to carry us across the finish line that we are able, to finish, someday, we will see eachother in heaven.
-lame thing I thought of lol
email me if you wish, this is my addy, no spamming or anything, but I dont know if I will come to this site much anymore.
....were all in this race together, the race to finish for Jesus, though some of us fall, and some of us stumble.. NOT ONE of us ever finishes, it is not until we allow Jesus to carry us across the finish line that we are able, to finish, someday, we will see eachother in heaven.
-lame thing I thought of lol
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You can try to be humble all you want, but only complete failure in every possible way will cure you of pride altogether.
You will never stop comparing yourself to others, or enjoy the blessings of insignificance until you can say with Jesus "of my own self I can do nothing."
"What is your life but a vapor that appears for a little while and passes away?"
You must accept that you have great intrinsic worth, but are otherwise lost in your self. You must accept that God's grace is completely sufficient.
Repeat this five times and you'll feel much better:
"I am a valuable and precious spec of dust."
Rad
You will never stop comparing yourself to others, or enjoy the blessings of insignificance until you can say with Jesus "of my own self I can do nothing."
"What is your life but a vapor that appears for a little while and passes away?"
You must accept that you have great intrinsic worth, but are otherwise lost in your self. You must accept that God's grace is completely sufficient.
Repeat this five times and you'll feel much better:
"I am a valuable and precious spec of dust."
Rad
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I know what you mean...I am in the criminal justice field and I am in a position of authority over a lot of things when I am investigating a situation. I have to remember that I am just a peon in the spectrum of life.. We are all sinners and God thinks that I am just as bad as the criminal that I catch....
Pray for temperance and God will bless you more than you ever imagine.
Pray for temperance and God will bless you more than you ever imagine.
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