How Young is Too Young

[LALaurie]

I never thought I liked younger men but recently I have decided I do. I am sort of seeing a 28 year old and have interest in a 26 year old.

My roommate says I should run from both of them because of their age. I should run but not for that reason, lol.

Any thoughts on the subject?

 

[FlatpickingJD]

Age is a question of mind over matter: If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.

Sorry, couldn't resist.

Seriously, the age difference is only important if you think it's important. If you think it's going to be an issue, it probably will be. If it's not a problem for you or the guy, it probably won't be.

 

[Deliberatetourist]

I never thought I liked younger men but recently I have decided I do. I am sort of seeing a 28 year old and have interest in a 26 year old.

My roommate says I should run from both of them because of their age. I should run but not for that reason, lol.

Any thoughts on the subject?

If your significant other doesn't have a problem with your age and you don't have a problem with their age and related issues, then there is no problem. My SO is 9 years younger than I but she is very mature for her age (she's from a third world country). We get along fine and she doesn't hold my age against me and I don't have any issues with her maturity at her age. She's ready to settle down as am I. I have dated women who were really younger than me since my divorce but the age difference was an issue there. I like mature women my own age but sometimes it's tough finding one without any excess baggage and then you have to decide whether they are attracive enough a prospect to pursue a relationship with.

 

[Jenster]

It depends on what qualities are important to you, and whether that guy has 'em. If you want someone with a heap of life experience, then a guy 8 or 10 years your junior might not provide that. However, if that's not so important, and instead he is kind, responsible, loving and fun to be with, then there you go!

Also, I'd add: What kind of relationship are you hoping to have, and is he interested in the same thing? The danger with dating someone much younger is that he might not be ready for the same commitment that you are. Many people expect to be able to change the person's mind, or they hope to "wait it out" if they want a commitment, but you have to be willing to risk the chance that he may not want to make a commitment even a number of years from now.

 

[Reilly]

I tend to like guys that are a little older than me. In my experience they seem to be more stable and want to settle down unlike some of the younger ones who still want to sow their wild oats. When I was 30 I was dating a 21 year old. At first it seemed like it was going to work but we were in different stages of our life. I was home taking care of two kids and everything else that comes with being a mother and he wanted to be out partying and hanging with his friends but what 21 year old doesn't want to do that. We ended up going our seperate ways.

 

[Princess Pea]

My roommate says I should run from both of them because of their age. I should run but not for that reason, lol.

My thoughts are that the age difference is confusing the issue. If you already think you should run from him, then you should definitely run!

 

[Beccalove1973]

I have always gone for guys that are either around my age or older. But for some reason these guys in their late twenties like 28-29 are starting to look yummy to me. But it just feels weird if I talk to one like I'm rockin the craddle. I guess it's the appeal that the men I'm looking at don't have kids of their own or been married 5 times with kids or grandkids. I think it's how you feel and I don't think its bad if its a few years difference. I used to go by Maturity level, but I think most men act like kids no matter what age...

 

[MN John]

How Young is Too Young

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[faithopelove]

I look (and act) much younger than my age so I've always had young men 10 to 20 years younger ask me out. I personally prefer men close to my age or older than me. I always think "what will happen when I'm 70 and he is only 50"

 

[covenantwmn]

I'd love a younger fella, because all the ones I meet my age seem "old." It's all in the mind, but most my age aren't a lot of fun. That said, not too much younger, about 12 yrs or so would be good.

 

[GritsnGrace]

I'd love a younger fella, because all the ones I meet my age seem "old." It's all in the mind, but most my age aren't a lot of fun. That said, not too much younger, about 12 yrs or so would be good.

I agree here. Being 50, I think maybe 15 years would be the youngest I would consider.

 

[Jenster]

You go, girls!

 

[GritsnGrace]

Well, ain't you coming?

 

[Jenster]

Er... 15 years younger is a little young for me. But I'll go for maybe five.

 

[GritsnGrace]

Er... 15 years younger is a little young for me. But I'll go for maybe five.

lol! sorry! I guess I am a tad bit older than you!!! (where did I put my cane??? )

 

[FlatpickingJD]

I'll fess up here: I went out with someone a few months back who was 15 years younger than me. It didn't work out, at least in part, b/c of the age difference. So it depends on the individuals involved.

In short, I think I'm saying I'm with Jenster on this one . . .

 

[Jenster]

I'll fess up here: I went out with someone a few months back who was 15 years younger than me. It didn't work out, at least in part, b/c of the age difference. So it depends on the individuals involved.

In short, I think I'm saying I'm with Jenster on this one . . .

Hm...well at least she went out with you!

 

[GritsnGrace]

lol! What i said was, 15 years would be the youngest I would consider! 10 would be my first choice for the age dif.

 

[Princess Pea]

I agree here. Being 50, I think maybe 15 years would be the youngest I would consider.

You would consider a 15 year old?

(Just kidding - I couldn't resist - I knew what you meant! )

 

[FlatpickingJD]

Hm...well at least she went out with you!

Well, it was probably b/c I did this a lot around her: and she thought it cute that I'd be tongue tied, which is NOT my usual state of being.

I don't know if any of you have noticed that this has seemed to become the question of the day: I've seen a couple other threads around CF asking this same question, and it comes from people a lot younger than us here (like early 20s folks dating or thinking of dating "older" people). So, apparently, it's a universal question.