How would you propose?

[PastorJer]

Well, now that I have finally made up my mind on how and when I am going to ask the love of my life to marry me, I am looking for the opinions of all.

Guys, if you were to plan on when and where you were going to ask the gal of your dreams to marry you, would it be 1) Romantically elaborate and well planned or 2) Spur of the moment. And please share why...

Gals, which would you prefer,1) Romantically elaborate and well planned or 2) Spur of the moment, and please share why...

I look forward to reading your answers

 

[miss_klara]

I definitely want something planned in advance and romantic!!! I know my boyfriend has it in him, as he's done some pretty nutty romantic things before, so I'd expect nothing less!!!
He reckons he's already planned the proposal anyway.

I want it to be planned so that it's not like "Oh, hey, we should get married." We've already established that, so he's had heaps of time to think about his timing and stuff... I'm a total control freak, so it's a great learning experience for me, having him in control of this one!!!

 

[JoshuaCh1v9]

Sorry Laura. You'll have to wait and see

 

[Blank123]

romantic and planned and that doesn't even necessarily mean he has to go all out either. simple can be very romantic

 

[catofhope]

Mainly posting so when my guy is stalking me he sees this thread.

I am thinking maybe somewhere between elaborate plan and spur of the moment.
Then again as long as the right person asks what does it really matter in the end.

 

[Tenorvoice]

I will defiantly be doing the old fashioned down on one knee, and will try my best to plan it out. I am going to be trying my best to be extreamly romantic when I do it also.

/me heads off to do some planning

 

[bumblebee62331]

Hmm I can't really answer the poll because I'm in between the two answers!

I would like something romantic and planned but not necessarily over the top. We've discussed it and the thing we are both certain on is the ring must be there when he proposes. It doesn't have to be dramatic but to me, if he proposes without a ring, it's like it's not been totally planned, like he's not ready, or he proposed on a spur of the moment. With the ring, we both know it's totally planned and supposed to happen.

 

[MrsSeptemberPenguin]

I chose planned out and romantic. I've always been a romantic, and while spontaneous can be romantic, I've always been a schedule oriented person. Also, I think it is something you guys need to discuss before it actually happens. You can talk about getting married, and have her know that the proposal will be some time in the future (and therefore you don't lose the surprise).

 

[Babey]

romantics...

 

[Paddington]

Planned and romantic but it doesn't have to be particularly elaborate!

 

[faerieevaH]

Definitely romantic... don't ask her while she's peeling potatoes: "hey... wanna get married?"
Girls often dream of this moment from the time they are seven. Having said that... you don't need to hire a Cinderella coach, or have a dozen rozes to be romantic.

My husband for example knew where he wanted to propose to me, not exactly when.
When he arrived after a jetlagging flight over the ocean of 12 hours... we decided to go for a walk. He figured out we would probably end up going where he had decided he would propose, and he took the ring. Despite a few things that threw him off plan slightly (more tourists there than he had expected) he ammended the original idea slightly and I think his proposal was the most romantic possible, even though (due to the many tourists) he didn't go on one knee, while he had planned to. Instead, we sat next to eachother when he told me he had another gift for me... he produced the ring and told me that the only thing he really wanted for the new year, was me as his wife.
It wasn't elaborate, it wasn't completely preplanned, but it was romantic and worthy of the moment.

After I had accepted, we prayed for a while together, and then... before telling anyone, we walked on through the city and went for fries in local fry shop. (this was in Belgium). So.. there was no elaborate restaurant plan afterwards. From the moment I had accepted on, we decided together what we would do and when we would tell.

You know your beloved best... I say most women want romantic and special. Not some goofy "hey.. why don't we?'. You alone can determine if she is the kind that would only find a dozen rozes, a tuxedo and a fancy restaurant romantic, or if she would like you to look at her while you are warlking hand in hand together in the garden (beach, woods, mountains) and say: I want to share the rest of my life with you.

 

[Paddington]

faerieevaH, that's so sweet I think the best thing about that was that you prayed together afterwards!

 

[faerieevaH]

Paddington, the proposal took place in the Cathedral of Antwerp. It's a fully functional place of worship, but also a monument of over 700 years old. At the time, it was my home parish and I love it both as a place of worship and as a place of history. I often brought visiting friends there, or just went in there to pray during the week...

We were married in the same church where he proposed less than 7 months later.

 

[JoshuaCh1v9]

Still at the planning stage and giving nothing away at this point.....

 

[JoshuaCh1v9]

Still at the planning stage and giving nothing away at this point.....

Small, personal and romantic is the basic plan.

 

[catofhope]

Still at the planning stage and giving nothing away at this point.....

Small, personal and romantic is the basic plan.

Come on tell us.
We won't tell her.

 

[JoshuaCh1v9]

Come on tell us.
We won't tell her.

Yea right....

Of course not

 

[Weasel7711]

I have it planned and hopefully she finds it romantic.

 

[Maramixi]

I have the feeling in about a year or so a lot of people are going to migrate to the marrage forum...

I said spontanious; my guy was planning the perposal but one day (in the mall parking lot) he had this funny look on his face and I asked what that was about and procceded to drag it out of him when he didn't answer.

To me, that was romantic; we're both kinda quirky and I just thought it was perfect--especially when I was suddenly statving to death and he had to get me food...

LOL!!!
I loved it!

 

[Emmaleuk]

I am too stuck betwee the two answers. I Hope that my FH's proposal will be romantic...but not too dramatic and over the top! I think it would be amazing for him to propose at a random time...but you know at a time where it is very romantic...and for some reason I guess the ring is important to me!
I have a few years to discuss and think about this though I guess....even though I am sure that God has brought the right man around!