How to react if a girl flirts with you?

There's a chess tip that goes
"When you see a good move, sit on your hands" ...

88Devin07 said:

(I don't really think I would be someone many girls would be interested in)

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Dude, this is #1....

You have to reverse this "Stinking Thinking"!

How can you think so low of yourself?

You have to acknowledge the fact, that you are "God's gift to women" and they are "lucky" that you acknowledge them with your greatness!

88Devin07 said:

An example would be that if a waitress flirts with me, I don't assume she likes me, I usually assume she is trying to get a good tip. (I don't mean that in a bad/mean way)

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Your right here, though if she's just looking for a tip....play "The Game" and flirt back. Worst Case Scenario, you get more practice and you become more confident.

88Devin07 said:

Am I justified in thinking that a girl may not be flirting because she likes me or is this simply stupid?

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Girls don't flirt with guys they have 0 interest in.

Granted, sometimes women just flirt for the validation or they are a tease....but there is something they like about you.

88Devin07 said:

What does a guy do when a girl flirts with him?

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Escalate baby!

Flirt right back.....shamelessly!

88Devin07 said:

What do you do if you have family with you? If your with a bunch of other guys?

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Go for it! It will show the girl you are confident! It can only help you in the long run.

Sometimes flirting is just harmless fun. When I was a server I had guys flirting with me, and I would flirt back in fun sometimes. Lol. Never really thought about it getting me more tips, although it could have. Although flirty for me also is just my way of engaging people, I tease girls too. Just yes, with guys there can be another reason in why I like them, lol.

Well seeing as I can never tell when a guy is flirting with me, and I'm not a guy... I'm not sure I can help.

I'd say just be yourself and if you're intrested in the girl who is flirting with you, flirt back. If you're with you family just act normal/friendly. Same goes with your guy friends unless they are the type that flirt around friends because they're comfortable with it. Just return the favor and be nice back, chances are you'll make the girls day.

This has benn my two cents.

Some people don't know how to flirt I hear. So if you can't....then just be nice and be yourself. When I flirt, I am being myself in that moment because that was my initial reaction to the situation. It's not something I can do if I don't have that response. I can stop the response if I want to, but I can't make myself react that way if that's not how I feel. Make sense...?

88Devin07 said:

Yes, but also, how do you flirt? I have no clue how to flirt back even if I wanted to... lol

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Tease them!

Give me an example of a line you think a woman might of used on you...

88Devin07 said:

What does a guy do when a girl flirts with him?

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flirts back.

88Devin07 said:

What do you do if you have family with you?

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Um, don't flirt. Or at least flirt, uh, nicely.

88Devin07 said:

If your with a bunch of other guys?

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Flirt, obviously. Per Man Law, the other guys are honor bound to be your wingmen when that occurs. Wingman Laws - Man Laws for the Wingman

mattybartholomew said:

You have to acknowledge the fact, that you are "God's gift to women" and they are "lucky" that you acknowledge them with your greatness!

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*ROFL* Seriously mate, that was all I could do!!! LOL!

88Devin07 said:

Yes, but also, how do you flirt? I have no clue how to flirt back even if I wanted to... lol

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Same question I have!!!! Not that I'm wanting to! But what does a girl or even a bloke do when they flirt?????? I've seen those stupid TV ads where they have the girl doing the 'hair flick' business or looking at him like she'd want to eat him, but I somehow doubt that the average girl does that!

r035198x said:

There's a chess tip that goes
"When you see a good move, sit on your hands" ...

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There's a life tip that goes "you have to play to win"

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Dude, my best advice is just to be yourself, and don't over-think what other people tell you to do or not do. If there's a spark between you and a girl, you'll KNOW it, without having to go home and analyze and ponder and make a pie graph. Just enjoy your life!

Right, you want to know how to flirt? Do a google search and you will find lots of tips . But sometimes when we are attracted to someone we flirt subconsciously through our body language.

LOL this thread makes me happy to read in the morning!
I can't speak for everyone here.... If a girl flirts with me, you can bet I will be flirting back if I'm at all interested! If not, I'll be polite in shooting her down.

Flirting for me: Say I've seen a girl a few times and happen to recognize and vice versa
Girl - Hey, what are YOU doing on this side of town?
Me - Oh I heard that the coffee was terrible over here so I thought I'd kill 20 minutes and find out. (jabs at things unrelated to the girl usually get a reaction of some sort that you can feed off of)
Girl - HEY!!! It's GOOD! Better than Starbucks! (Ding, there's my in)
Me - Yeah? Well that's not saying much! I tried to train a starbuckian into a barista and it just didn't work! (Hopefully they laugh and ask me about "training" - I actually ran a coffee shop for a while) What are YOU doing ALL the way over here?
Girl - Oh... Yuh Know... blah blah blah (read: I think you're cute) blah blah blah
Me - Yeah? That's cool. (whatever they say doesn't really matter other than to connect in the next little jab or you can ask something like this ->) Any big plans for the weekend? (This is a great question to have in your arsenal, bc girls will usually tell you whether or not they have a boyfriend)
Girl has boyfriend - Oh my boyfriend blah blah blah big plans blah blah blah (this is usually where I disengage unless I actually know her, in which case I would know her boyfriend too)
OR
Girl is single - Oh hanging out with friends; watching movies. (This is often a load and should be read: I'm doing nothing. She, in all likelihood, is available to do something. However girls that I've talked to don't really want a guy to know that she thinks she is a "loser" when really she just doesn't have anything happening. And this is not me being a tool either.)
If she is single and you like her, this is the time to say something like...
Me - Well I was threatening to hike *insert some short and easy hike here* on Saturday morning/evening/whatever with my buddy *insert friend's name who would also go if asked*. Would you be interested in tagging along? (I'm into hiking and it usually takes you to beautiful places. Girls like beautiful places. If you do choose hiking, it's usually good to take a couple of people - no more than 5 in the group though. Regardless of your activity, it's good to take people so it isn't officially a "date" yet.)
If said girl is interested, this would be where you ask for a phone number. If not, flirting has been fun anyway!

Recap for those who say tl;dr
If a girl flirts - flirt back! Make jokes that you would normally make and have fun around her. Fun and funny people are attractive. Silly people are too!
If after a while both parties are still having fun, see when you can do it again.

wow, I have a lot to say on the matter!

I have had girls tell me that they've noticed other girls flirting with me, but frankly, I don't believe them. I used to interpret friendly behavior in general as flirting, and I've learned after much frustration and even heartbreak not to do that. Since then I've decided that flirting is sort of disingenuous anyway (and the dictionary agrees with me). So if I do someday encounter a girl who actually flirts with me, I'd probably just act as if she weren't. I don't mean that I'd act unfriendly or anything, but I wouldn't "play the game" because I'm not interested in games. I would just act normal, because if she really likes me and isn't just trying to jerk me around then I would expect that she would do more genuine things than flirting to try to get my attention, like engaging in conversation, making an effort to be around me, asking questions to get to know me better, and such.

So my advice? Don't react to it at all. Play it cool and see if she's interested enough to move on to something besides flirting; and if she isn't, then you probably would have wasted your time in responding at all.

Girls have flirted with me before. I was flattered, but at the same time extremely grossed out. Just smile and walk away.

.Vicky. said:

Dude, my best advice is just to be yourself, and don't over-think what other people tell you to do or not do. If there's a spark between you and a girl, you'll KNOW it, without having to go home and analyze and ponder and make a pie graph. Just enjoy your life!

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This, and maybe over time developing confidence can help more so.

88Devin07 said:

Thank yall for your advice/replies...

One of my other significant problems is that I'm very nervous around girls, it's hard and almost impossible for me to get to talk to them unless I know them really well. Is there a way to overcome that?

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I would suggest not worrying about them so much as having fun. When your focus isn't on them and is on having fun in your days, you're thinking about your day and they are the bonus!
Imagine having a sick-amazing day and THEN a girl comes up flirting with you! DOUBLE COOL!