How to overcome being careless

[rowrow]

I would love some advice from anyone. I am a careless person, I often make careless mistakes, slapdash efforts and so on. I need not say that it has caused me much pain and much pain for those around me. I don't like that I am careless and I don't feel much peace about it. I say I will be more careful, but it just does not pan out. I sense that it is something that God would like me not to be enslaved to, and one that he would help me with, but I am stuck. I don't even know how to pray about it. All I know is that I am tired on making so many careless mistakes. I will be truthful and say that some of it is sin and some of it is my personality. There are many things in my life that I do do well without mistakes, but when it comes to day to day, keep my word without fail, follow routines for others I am terrible.

 

[texastig]

I would love some advice from anyone. I am a careless person, I often make careless mistakes, slapdash efforts and so on. I need not say that it has caused me much pain and much pain for those around me. I don't like that I am careless and I don't feel much peace about it. I say I will be more careful, but it just does not pan out. I sense that it is something that God would like me not to be enslaved to, and one that he would help me with, but I am stuck. I don't even know how to pray about it. All I know is that I am tired on making so many careless mistakes. I will be truthful and say that some of it is sin and some of it is my personality. There are many things in my life that I do do well without mistakes, but when it comes to day to day, keep my word without fail, follow routines for others I am terrible.

For me, I make checklists and double check things. Is this what your talking about?
Thanks,
TT

 

[Elijah2]

My dear friend, just by two postings you have basically explained who you are.

Now if you are struggling with your disorder I believe that you are seeing someone for help.

As we get old, we get carless, forgetful, and we do some stupid, unimaginable things.

But, when they become a nuisance to one's own feelings and emotions then it's time to talk to some one who is qualified to help those people and to lead and guide them in the right direction.

Have you spoken to your pastor?

 

[heron]

It's funny, what came to me was personality types, and that you are probably also a visionary and delegator. Look at the counterparts to your personality, and see if you can find some ways to work with this tendency, while you're also trying to improve behaviour.

A lot of great leaders take risks easily because they are less picky with themselves about doing things right.

 

[rocklife]

I would love some advice from anyone. I am a careless person, I often make careless mistakes, slapdash efforts and so on. I need not say that it has caused me much pain and much pain for those around me. I don't like that I am careless and I don't feel much peace about it. I say I will be more careful, but it just does not pan out. I sense that it is something that God would like me not to be enslaved to, and one that he would help me with, but I am stuck. I don't even know how to pray about it. All I know is that I am tired on making so many careless mistakes. I will be truthful and say that some of it is sin and some of it is my personality. There are many things in my life that I do do well without mistakes, but when it comes to day to day, keep my word without fail, follow routines for others I am terrible.

I think a lot of times, we just change our minds about things, and sometimes it is more like thinking out loud. when you talk with other people, sometimes you see things differently and change your mind, which can be a good thing. If it is hurtful to someone else that you changed your mind, apologize, but really most people do that.

maybe with others, you are taking too much on yourself? Maybe you can make it a habit to say, "I'll try" rather than "I will" or say "hopefully I can get to that, but I don't know."

There is a phrase from a kid's show "take chances, make mistakes, get messy," that's how we learn, don't beat yourself up for making mistakes. then keep in your daily Bible studies, Bible on tapes are my favorite.

 

[silentpoet]

Start small. Exercise care in one small unimportant area of your life. Do this consistently. Once you get in the habit in this one area, start in a little more important area. You start small and build momentum. Also tell yourself you are a careful, caring person. Belief in your god given abilities is very important.

 

[rowrow]

Start small. Exercise care in one small unimportant area of your life. Do this consistently. Once you get in the habit in this one area, start in a little more important area. You start small and build momentum. Also tell yourself you are a careful, caring person. Belief in your god given abilities is very important.

I decided this is what I will do, everything that I promise to do, or think I should do I will write down and check off as I do it. After a while I hope that things will get easier. It will be good spiritual discipline for me because in a way it is like always keeping your word.

 

[LilLamb219]

In some of your decision making, is there someone you can turn to for advice before you make it so that you can be guided into making a more careful decision? I know this won't help you in all your matters of carelessness, but if you had someone you relied on and trusted in helping you, it would be a good start.

 

[spr]

Your married, so your wife should fill in some of your blind spots right?

My advice: Don't envy people that seem to have it 'together', chances are you don't see the stuff that goes on behind the scenes.

Realize that it is easer to just be a careless person that does what they can to avoid mistakes than to be a perfect person who has to maintain the illusion of perfection.