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How to keep away from old dating sites

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Though I;m no longer a practicing homosexual, I can't deny that at times I get lonely and want to socialise with those I can be open to without condemnation, judgement, or crude remarks about what homosexuals supposedly do (those who know this feeling know it's a huge load off). Anyway, with the recent ostracism of my church, I've become lonely and no longer feel supported. I didn't do anything wrong, I just believed that people shouldn't treat Jesus like a "credit card."

After I was ostracised, I went back to the gay dating sites I used to use. I wasn't using them for sexual purposes, just friendship and chats to ease my loneliness and depression. However, I knew it was a huge temptation and I knew that I had to flee the appearance of evil. Moreover, I'm trying to stay away from my gay friends to avoid negative influences. But overall, I guess I'm sad 'cause I don't feel loved. I really don't want to envy people's relationships or hate God for letting me have these attractions.
 

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You're at least aknowledging that you have issues, which is half the battle.

Church is the last place where anyone should feel ostracized. I doubt Christ would've turned away a gay person if they wished to be healed, so we shouldn't be doing it either. Try looking for a new one, and try not to judge God along with those who claim to be His followers.
 
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You are not acting on your feelings and hopefully Jesus will help you to let those feelings go right over your head. Maybe try distracting yourself doing something postive when the feelings arise. Charity work or a new hobby can be helpful. I am praying for your well being. God bless you.
 
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