How to help this friend?

[restore]

I have a male friend who is a brother which i met two years ago , and he is a orphan, actually he still has his mom which abandoned him, but he does not know who is his dad, he was brought up by grandma , and received a lot abuse all his life, been beaten each day, often no food etc....when i met him, he was in college and often talked unstable,saying that he felt he was alien among other students etc, and myself was abuse survivor ,too, and he actually helped me so much in growing in God....and now i met him online again, he just got back from Iraq, almost been killed there, he got a shoot v close to his heart, he says only cuz of God he is alive again....
so he was in iraq for 2 years, and now i feel he is still not v stable in his mood, he is a male, i do not know how to help and support him in proper, but I understand so v much , i also understand why he will go to Iraq etc...

 

[LazeyWinde]

Pray for him. Let him know you're willing to listen if he ever wants to talk.

 

[UnitynLove]

Pray for him. Let him know you're willing to listen if he ever wants to talk.

I couldn't have said it better. I will be right there praying with you restore.

 

[FallingWaters]

I have a male friend who is a brother which i met two years ago , and he is a orphan, actually he still has his mom which abandoned him, but he does not know who is his dad, he was brought up by grandma , and received a lot abuse all his life, been beaten each day, often no food etc....when i met him, he was in college and often talked unstable,saying that he felt he was alien among other students etc, and myself was abuse survivor ,too, and he actually helped me so much in growing in God....and now i met him online again, he just got back from Iraq, almost been killed there, he got a shoot v close to his heart, he says only cuz of God he is alive again....
so he was in iraq for 2 years, and now i feel he is still not v stable in his mood, he is a male, i do not know how to help and support him in proper, but I understand so v much , i also understand why he will go to Iraq etc...

want to know a proper way to help him without causing any emotional confusion, and build up each other.

I agree with the others.
His story is heart-breaking.
As much as we hope for his healing, we cannot be his counselors.
Only God can walk him through that.
It's nice that he has had you to confide in.

Father God, I pray for that young man right now, that You would make Yourself real to him, that You would grant him Your salvation, and pour out Your unconditional love into his heart.

Cause him to walk in the way he should go. Lead him to a mentor who can disciple him in Christ. Draw him near to You. Show him Your salvation.

Take all the enemy has meant for evil in his life, and use it for Your good. Restore all that the locusts have eaten. Redeem him, spirit, soul and body. Amen.

 

[FedUp]

The best thing you can do is be there for him. I was an orphan and I know that what I would like is to have good friends that I can freely express myself with. Be that friend that he can talk to. I am sure he will appreciate it.

 

[spiersdodgerblue]

I have a male friend who is a brother which i met two years ago , and he is a orphan, actually he still has his mom which abandoned him, but he does not know who is his dad, he was brought up by grandma , and received a lot abuse all his life, been beaten each day, often no food etc....when i met him, he was in college and often talked unstable,saying that he felt he was alien among other students etc, and myself was abuse survivor ,too, and he actually helped me so much in growing in God....and now i met him online again, he just got back from Iraq, almost been killed there, he got a shoot v close to his heart, he says only cuz of God he is alive again....
so he was in iraq for 2 years, and now i feel he is still not v stable in his mood, he is a male, i do not know how to help and support him in proper, but I understand so v much , i also understand why he will go to Iraq etc...

If he has just gotten out of Iraq, he can go to the V.A. hospital. They are trained people who are more equiped to help him then you are.
He has gone through alot. And he has brought the war home with him.
He will be going through alot of mental adjustment getting back to the "norm of things" here.
He might be going through nightmares and flashbacks, that you or any other non trained person are not prepared to handel.
The V.A.'s are better than they use to be and it won't cost him anything.

If he is unstable please stay away from him. Because we have had a past of abuse sometimes we have a heart for those that are hurting and our judgement something might be alittle clouded and we can get hurt ourselfs in the prosess. Remember you have not seen him in a long time, you just don't know.

Be safe &
God Bless