How should Christians treat the child who has two dads?

[Loundry]

I posted this question about a year ago and it generated some interesting activity. What I found interesting was some of the members who thought that such a child should be treated harshly. Those posts were removed and I objected to the removal -- I believe that if those types of thoughts really are "un-Christian" then the "body of Christ" should do it's job and help clean up its act, not cover it up and pretend like it does not exist.

I'm posting the question again because I want to see if attitudes have changed since then among members of this forum. How should Christians treat a child who has two dads? I'm specifically asking about the adopted child who has two gay male parents.

 

[Loundry]

Don't just answer "with Christ's love" because I've been on the receiving end of "Christian love" more than once. If you think that the child of two dads should be treated differently than a child who has a different family, then please indicate exactly how.

 

[MethodMan]

No difference.

 

[sinner/SAVED]

None at all.

 

[talitha]

At some point, the child needs to know that his "dads" are living in sin, but as to how the child should be treated - with justice and mercy, same as any other child.

blessings
tal

 

[aiki]

I wouldn't treat the child any differently than any other child. I would, though, feel badly about the moral twisting and perversion the child would be undergoing and the destructive consequences to the child that would come from such twisting.

Peace to you.

 

[talitha]

I agree, bro aiki.

I would probably support removing a child from such a home - it would be in his best interest.

 

[MsAnne]

The same as one with a Mom and Dad, or a Dad and Mom, or 2 Moms, or adopted by Gramma, or adopted by Aunt Nellie, or orphaned and in foster care, or...

 

[ebia]

As any other child

 

[Lludmila]

"Back in the day," children of unmarried parents were treated harshly, not entitled to inheritance, discriminated against and called "Bastards."

How sad. How horrifically offensive. Like the poor kid (who is precious in Jesus's sight) had anything to do with it?

Same today with children adopted by gay parents. Not the kid's fault. I do not discriminate against "illegitimate" children, nor do I differentiate between them and those whose parents are married.

So who am I to do so with children whose parents are gay???

 

[pmcleanj]

The same way you would treat a child with two moms. Or one mom and one dad. Or one mom. Or one dad. Or neither.

What I would NOT do, is try interfering with the child's relationship with its fathers, by accusing them of sin. If what the child's dads are doing is indeed sin, then surely it is their issue to deal with, not their child's.

If the child is being reared as a Christian, then it will learn as part of its Christian formation that we are all sinners, and that it is responsible to come before God to confess its own sins. Making a point of its parents' sins will undermine this teaching that we are each of us individually responsible to come before God in repentence.

If the child is not being rearede as a Christian, then it will need to hear the Gospel message from an evangelist -- preferably when the child has reached such an age that the evangelist would not be accused of unduly influencing a minor. Harping on the sinfulness of the most important people in that child's life, either at the time of its evangelism or earlier, is much more likely to act as an antigen to the Gospel, than to help the child find Christ.

We are called to give our OWN testimony -- which means pointing at our OWN sin, and praising God for God's forgiveness of our OWN sinful selves. Every time you point a finger at someone else, there are three fingers pointing back at you.

 

[Im_A]

I posted this question about a year ago and it generated some interesting activity. What I found interesting was some of the members who thought that such a child should be treated harshly. Those posts were removed and I objected to the removal -- I believe that if those types of thoughts really are "un-Christian" then the "body of Christ" should do it's job and help clean up its act, not cover it up and pretend like it does not exist.

I'm posting the question again because I want to see if attitudes have changed since then among members of this forum. How should Christians treat a child who has two dads? I'm specifically asking about the adopted child who has two gay male parents.

i didn't join in the last time you asked this question but to answer your question...that child should be treated the same and equally as a child that has a mom and a dad. there is no reason to discriminate that child because their parents have the same body parts.

 

[Mling]

I think children should be taught Aikido. It would help a lot of the worlds problems if all children were taught aikido. Children of gay parents are no exception.

They should also be exposed to some decent, meaningful literature and other languages, and Habitat for Humanity or a similar time and energy-intensive form of charity.

At least, this is how I intend to raise the children I plan to adopt one day.

I will also teach them.....

What the hey. Woah, the bugs outside my window, floating through the light from the streetlamp, look like faerie dust. Very weird.

What was I saying?

Oh yeah, I will start teaching them how to combat their ADHD at a very early age (if I have access to them at a very early age. I plan to adopt older kids.)

 

[Loundry]

At some point, the child needs to know that his "dads" are living in sin, but as to how the child should be treated - with justice and mercy, same as any other child.

I would probably support removing a child from such a home - it would be in his best interest.

I find myself on the receiving end of "Christian love" once again.

Not only does this Christian support "informing" my child that his parents are garbage, but she also supports the state seizing my child from me. Some Christians are a threat to my family and a threat to my child, and many other Christians are content to stand by and watch wicked Christians threaten my family and my child.

 

[talitha]

I did not say anyone was garbage. It is inappropriate for any person to live in sin, because we are created to live far above that level.

blessings in Jesus
tal

 

[ebia]

I find myself on the receiving end of "Christian love" once again.

Not only does this Christian support "informing" my child that his parents are garbage, but she also supports the state seizing my child from me. Some Christians are a threat to my family and a threat to my child, and many other Christians are content to stand by and watch wicked Christians threaten my family and my child.

And many more are doing their best to oppose them.

I presume the person that said this would also like to remove children from every other sinful family, although what she plans to do with them once she has removed every child from every family in the world I do not know.

 

[sinner/SAVED]

I find myself on the receiving end of "Christian love" once again.

That was Christian love being overshadowed by human prejudice.

 

[talitha]

Well real Christians should kill the dads like the bible says. Sorry to be honest but its true.

Because of Christ, captital punishment for such crimes is no longer applicable, thanks be to God! God extends deliverance for the captives. I am viewing the hypothetical two dads separately from their sinful lifestyle - they can be delivered from their sinful lifestyle because God loves them.

 

[Loundry]

I did not say anyone was garbage. It is inappropriate for any person to live in sin, because we are created to live far above that level.

blessings in Jesus
tal

If you are to tell a child, "Your parents are living in sin", then you are telling them that his parents are deficient and unacceptable. That's the same thing as telling him that his parents are garbage, which is also, by definition, deficient and unacceptable.

And this is the way that some Chrisitians think that the children of gay parents should be treated. That is, provided that they're "loving" enough not to demand that the state seize my children from me.

 

[Loundry]

And many more are doing their best to oppose them.{/quote]

I have never seen any Christian stand up for my rights as a parent when I'm challenged by some other wicked, abusive Christian. Here, you don't, either. You allude to someone else (who?) doing the work that you ostensibly think is moral.

I presume the person that said this would also like to remove children from every other sinful family, although what she plans to do with them once she has removed every child from every family in the world I do not know.

Yes, I'm sure she has only the best of intentions when she wants the state to charge into my home and steal my child in an Elian Gonzalez-type raid. After all, I'm "sinful", so who cares what happens to me?