How often are you mis-understood?

[memoriesbymichelle]

This is the story of my life. Always mis-understood, never being able to fully communicate how I feel and never ever feeling like I fit in, in any group. In high school, I was a cheerleader, and "hung out" with many "groups". This was evidenced by attending my reunion and seeing all the "groups" that I hung out with, but not truly feeling a part of any of them, if that makes sense.

Even now in my life and even on this forum, I am mis-understood and don't feel like I fit in. I have close friends, but if I dropped off the face of the earth, I don't feel they would truly miss me. Same with my family. Recently one of them quit talking to me and I found out our relationship wasn't what I thought it was. No surprise really, just another mis-understanding.

Anyone else?

 

[dayhiker]

I can relate to that Michelle,
When I was young, I didn't know how to express who I was so I couldn't tell others and if I couldn't tell them then there is no way I could expect them to know me.
Generally people haven't sought me out to be my friend or my advice. What's more I think that is the majority of people in America. So I've had to learn to go be a friend. People seem to like the time we spend together once I initiate communication. So ever couple of weeks I think who haven't I talked to lately and call them or see if I can visit them. Its really put me in control of my life rather than waiting for people to come to me.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Yep I do that too!

 

[dayhiker]

I think when we were in school life came to us as long as we got involved in the school. Now that we live in our home we have to go to people. People are generally too busy to go find us even if they were looking for a friend.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I think when we were in school life came to us as long as we got involved in the school. Now that we live in our home we have to go to people. People are generally too busy to go find us even if they were looking for a friend.

Yep and the funny thing is, that we are both excellent friends to have! I'm tired today, I'm sure that is playing into my thoughts. I also wondered today if God let me have my TWO sons because He knew I wouldn't have a husband ever again?
I have to work tonight too, after I go to dinner with my friend that has cancer. I wasn't scheduled but they are having a "visit" from the district mgr Thursday and asked me to come in to help make the store look nice. So I won't get home until around 12:30 am or so and get up tomorrow at 6 am yahoooooooooooo!

 

[Doctor Strangelove]

I grew up never feeling like I "belonged" anywhere. I think just by reason of my life experiences, my somewhat introverted personality and maybe some cultural differences I have pretty much been somewhat of an outsider.

 

[redblue22]

teenage me: no one feels what I feel. they haven't been through it.

someone else: yes, we've all been there. we were teenagers once too.

teenage me: ok, let me tell you then. blah blah blah.

someone else: umm, you are right, we haven't been there.

 

[Doctor Strangelove]

Michelle, I hope I did not contribute to making you feel misunderstood. It bothers me that I might have done that. Now, I admit I have trouble imagining your thought experiment of what we would do IF the only thing we had was the Bible (I think things would be rather chaotic - even with the Holy Spirit trying to teach us, we are all very practiced with ignoring God and going our own way or at least that has been what I have done too often).

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Michelle, I hope I did not contribute to making you feel misunderstood. It bothers me that I might have done that. Now, I admit I have trouble imagining your thought experiment of what we would do IF the only thing we had was the Bible (I think things would be rather chaotic - even with the Holy Spirit trying to teach us, we are all very practiced with ignoring God and going our own way or at least that has been what I have done too often).

Never have you ever contributed or made me feel mis-understood. Besides, it's the story of my life remember? I'm used to it (or I should be by now, right?)

I do agree we, as humans, are very practiced at ignoring God or as soon as He tells us something we discount it, or forget it straight away. Learning to listen to God AND trust that it IS God AND do what He says is a tall order in this broken world we live in.

Side note/warning lol I am even more tired today than yesterday. I worked until 1:30am and got up at 7 (woke up to my alarm at 6)

 

[Doctor Strangelove]

Side note/warning lol I am even more tired today than yesterday. I worked until 1:30am and got up at 7 (woke up to my alarm at 6)

You can say you are re-tired .

My puns are infamously bad.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

You can say you are re-tired .

My puns are infamously bad.

Ha Ha now THAT is funny!

 

[MorkandMindy]

Even now in my life and even on this forum, I am mis-understood and don't feel like I fit in.

No, I am here now and cutting back on visits to regions UK where I spent a lot of time previously, for only one reason and that is because you open threads on real topics.


As for not having a friend in life, I don't want to think about that too deeply. I have a sister in N.M. and three children in various locations and that's it.

Christmas eve I will be at work most of the day, come back to an empty small house, go on CF, go out to Midnight Mass, get up the next morning, go to the family service, do things until I get part of a day with both sons, then they go, I have a few days off work then back on the weekend and then back on Jan 2.

Work has a Christmas party but because I'm a production shift worker it conflicts with my shift so I can't go. That about wraps up Christmas.

I can do the day to day thoughts but I'll avoid thinking about the rest very much.

 

[blackribbon]

I don't fit in anywhere...really. I just don't think the same way as most people seem to. I know how to behave so I appear to fit in...but I know I don't.

I once found a place where I fit...but then he died.

 

[CounselorForChrist]

I think we are all misunderstood alot of times. This forum is a good example. Often if someone posts something everyone is quick to make assumptions about the person. Heck I've done it myself. Unless we know someone REALLY well, then we by definition tend to misunderstand them.

 

[Doctor Strangelove]

It is not so terrible to not fit in. My life experiences, both good and bad, have set me apart a bit (I do not put on airs and pretend I am "special" or anything like that, that is not what I mean). I have gotten to do some things even when I was young that many people do not get to do. My view of the world is broader than what some people have although I know I have areas of blindness. I sometimes do not see things the way other people see them, but I have often turned that into a strength. This has made me resourceful and creative. I have often played the role of the dark horse. If my life had been easier I would have remained untested in many ways.

 

[redblue22]

the very nature of language means that we are never going to understand or be understood exactly. or even close to what we would like. we get things wrong all the time. I certainly do. and I doubt whether anyone gets me very much either. but I think it is all ok. it gives us a chance to be humble, forgiving, or whatever. this whole talking thing is very messy. I think I like it.

 

[servantone]

I dont fit in anywhere either. Seems we all are a bunch of misfits huh?

BTW Michelle, we would miss you if you disappeared.

 

[CounselorForChrist]

When I was homeschooled my parents always said I ended up making friends with the shy, outcasts...etc. The people that would also sit in the corner of room like I would at a party. And its true. I prefer being with those people. We outcasts seem to get together better.

I'd rather be misunderstood then be like everyone else who just judges those like us. If anything to some degree I enjoy my life like this. I don't have to deal with the drama of having a hundred friends. No drama over what day/time I am visiting who. No thousands parties a year. No money being spent on silly events.

The only part of me that doesn't want to be alone is the important part. And that is my heart. I need a wife. Someone who gets me and doesn't want to change me. Someone who loves some unconditionally. And thats what my fiance is. If anything once we are married I'd want to go find some island in the middle of no where and live together, get old with her and die together. Don't care about society really. Well... I may need some sort of internet connection so I can talk to you all on here! ^.^

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We will get a bigger island so all of you can live there too. We will declare it a nation "The Misfit Nation!"