How much do you love them?

[theywhosowintears]

My awesome lady had a bit of a health turn today, she went to hospital in an ambulance. I was so scared, it terrified me to think of life without her, and I knew that I needed her. I called my mum to tell her about it and I couldnt help crying (even though I dont think it is very macho Aussie thing to do).

Times like that let you know how much people mean to you. So if you couldn't live without the Significant Other in your life do something today to let them know how much they mean to you.


Peace.
Theywhosowintears

PS: She is fine now, and going to be alright, it just made me think.

 

[memphisXwasted]

with all my heart and all existance, she is second to Christ

 

[LilRitt04]

That is something that is going to make me think.

In the beginning of mine and my boyfriends relationship I had to be taken to the doctors with a sist on my ovary. He was worried about me, and scared for me, and at the time they didnt know if it was cancerous or not. But it turns out it wasnt and I got healed! It is no longer there and I havent had a issue since September 2004!!!

 

[Maeyken]

Nothing like that has ever happened to me or my bf, thank God.

I *have* had a dream though, where my bf was either very sick or dead or something (it was a dream... not exactly clear what was going on!) and I remember waking up and feeling just awful! I've had dreams like that about my parents before, too, and so having that dream really made me realize I love him. Dreams like that help me to appreciate the people I love, and I am thankful I haven't experienced the real thing in my life.

 

[theywhosowintears]

I was so scared. I was terrified. If you have ever seen some one who is really sick you know what it is like, she couldn't move or talk or anything I was really scared that she wasn't going to be ok.

Anyway God is awesome! all Praise to Him!!

Peace

 

[Orange_popsicle]

I love my boyfriend very much...
I can't imagine living life without him..but if something every did happen to him, I would trust that it was part of God's plan, and allow God's grace to lead me..=) Heh, it's always important to keep faith because even out of the bad times, God brings out Good..because remember God calls us to be holy...and glorify his name through everything...

That's my tidbit for today....

your friendly neighbourhood...orange_popsicle..

 

[kiora]

I love my boyfriend more than I could ever describe in words he is right up there just behind Christ, I would do anything for him.

 

[Cherub8]

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[halifaxhoney]

I love him. Sometimes I feel like crying because I'm so lucky.

Crystal

 

[cmd624]

I love my boyfriend very much. we have been through some very difficult challenges lately and we are still waiting and praying for our broken hearts and minds to be healed. but through it all i still love him very much, but only because of God's grace and love. sometimes i do cry because i love him so much.

 

[Iggster]

Saps! j/k

I would love my SO just as the Lord would have me.

 

[Sascha Fitzpatrick]

I love my boyfriend, and he knows that, but there's boundaries...

1) He's not my reason for living
2) I wouldn't die if he was no longer around
3) I don't need him around to be happy
4) I can imagine life without him - and I have things in place to make sure I can cope if he wasn't
5) I don't feel depressed if he's not with me

I think the opposite statements of everything I said up there are hints of co-dependant relationships. If you are feeling like you can't be happy without that person, that they are all that keep you going each day, that if he wasn't around you wouldn't cope - I'd be concerned (I'd be VERY concerned if you were my friend or daughter/son and you made those statements to me).

This doesn't mean I love him any less - I love him as much as someone could healthily love another individual in this world. I just haven't made him the 'be all and end all' of my happiness - my happiness is up to me - not left up to someone else.

I am happy to have him in my life, and I am certain he is the man God has chosen for me (no doubts left), but expecting him to fill all my 'needs' on this planet, and feeling despondent or depressed cos he isn't, isn't going to help any. I keep myself happy, and anything he contributes to my happiness and wellbeing is a bonus!

Sasch -> who got all of this thinking from Boundaries (Cloud and Townsend) - think everyone in a relationship should at least read Boundaries in Dating!

 

[Cherub8]

Believe me, I could have used those boundaries. It would have prevented a lot of heartache. Most of all, I depended on her so much in every way, that when we broke up it felt like a vital organ had been removed. :o Literally, I wanted to die.

Nobody should go through that. It need not happen that way. Protect her heart and protect yourself; this is both honoring to her and honoring to God.

 

[bogie]

I can't even describe at this point how much I love her. Only with her have I done the things I have done. She has made me realize that my insecurities can all be solved with Christ's grace and love.

 

[Living4Him03]

I'm so glad he's not in the Navy anymore...I know that's what he thought he was going to do with his life, but I would have worried about him more. I try not to worry, I just pray that God will take care of him and will protect him from physical and mental harm, etc. Yes, we are kind of back together for those of you who regularly read my posts lol.

 

[jcright]

I love my boyfriend, and he knows that, but there's boundaries...

1) He's not my reason for living
2) I wouldn't die if he was no longer around
3) I don't need him around to be happy
4) I can imagine life without him - and I have things in place to make sure I can cope if he wasn't
5) I don't feel depressed if he's not with me

I think the opposite statements of everything I said up there are hints of co-dependant relationships. If you are feeling like you can't be happy without that person, that they are all that keep you going each day, that if he wasn't around you wouldn't cope - I'd be concerned (I'd be VERY concerned if you were my friend or daughter/son and you made those statements to me).

This doesn't mean I love him any less - I love him as much as someone could healthily love another individual in this world. I just haven't made him the 'be all and end all' of my happiness - my happiness is up to me - not left up to someone else.

I am happy to have him in my life, and I am certain he is the man God has chosen for me (no doubts left), but expecting him to fill all my 'needs' on this planet, and feeling despondent or depressed cos he isn't, isn't going to help any. I keep myself happy, and anything he contributes to my happiness and wellbeing is a bonus!

Sasch -> who got all of this thinking from Boundaries (Cloud and Townsend) - think everyone in a relationship should at least read Boundaries in Dating!

Well said!

I love my fiance...but I don't need her, I need God! She is an awesome woman with a heart for the Lord. Therefore, I do want to share my life with her.

My friends, if the first words out of your mouth is "I need so-and-so"...then I would encourage you to rethink your position. You need God. You will have a much healthier relationship if you don't have a need but a want. There's a huge difference between the two. Even when you are facing hard times, it should not be a need. You might want to have that person there to help you, but it's not good to need them...that places them before God.

 

[MrDude]

I love my boyfriend, and he knows that, but there's boundaries...

1) He's not my reason for living
2) I wouldn't die if he was no longer around
3) I don't need him around to be happy
4) I can imagine life without him - and I have things in place to make sure I can cope if he wasn't
5) I don't feel depressed if he's not with me

I think the opposite statements of everything I said up there are hints of co-dependant relationships. If you are feeling like you can't be happy without that person, that they are all that keep you going each day, that if he wasn't around you wouldn't cope - I'd be concerned (I'd be VERY concerned if you were my friend or daughter/son and you made those statements to me).

This doesn't mean I love him any less - I love him as much as someone could healthily love another individual in this world. I just haven't made him the 'be all and end all' of my happiness - my happiness is up to me - not left up to someone else.

I am happy to have him in my life, and I am certain he is the man God has chosen for me (no doubts left), but expecting him to fill all my 'needs' on this planet, and feeling despondent or depressed cos he isn't, isn't going to help any. I keep myself happy, and anything he contributes to my happiness and wellbeing is a bonus!

Sasch -> who got all of this thinking from Boundaries (Cloud and Townsend) - think everyone in a relationship should at least read Boundaries in Dating!

So if you don't need him at all then why are you in a relationship with him? Would you be sad/cry if something did happen to him(ie death)? Not disagreeing with your philosophy, just asking some questions.

 

[Cherub8]

So if you don't need him at all then why are you in a relationship with him? Would you be sad/cry if something did happen to him(ie death)? Not disagreeing with your philosophy, just asking some questions.

I think she meant, God is her greatest purpose for living. If her BF died, she would be sad but she wouldn't let it destroy her life, because there is so much more to live for.

 

[Sascha Fitzpatrick]

Got it in one Cherub!

The only thing I NEED in my life is God. B (my boyfriend) is someone I WANT in my life, and CHOOSE to keep beside one.

I see a lot of 'neediness' in younger couples, and it does bother me. It seems like someone's whole life is put on hold, and that they don't feel they can be successful or happy or complete without this other person. That just sounds WAAAAAY off from what a healthy, mature relationship should be (to me). Yep, I was the girl who threw up in Jerry Maguire when they said, 'you complete me'! (Well, not literally, but you get my drift).

Only person who completes me is Jesus Christ. B is someone who enhances my life, and supports me, and is someone that has been a huge blessing in my life, but to say my whole life would fall apart if he wasn't there - sounds co-dependant to me. Interdependance is what I'm aiming for - where he isn't NECESSARY for my happiness/success, but someone who does contribute to it.

I get very concerned when I hear words like 'need, complete, couldn't survive without' attached when someone talks about their SO.

Of course, I love B, with all of me. However, I need to make sure he isn't the only thing that keeps me going, happy, successful - otherwise what am I going to do with the times he isn't around? Just sit and mope and miss him? I don't think so! I have too much life to live, and just cos he isn't around me for one or two days doesn't mean the world falls apart...

Sasch

 

[Wakeup2god]

I sent this email to my sweetheart earlier today....

I'LL LET YOU GO ONE DAY

I read something earlier that started me thinking about when we're old.
Who would go first?

I thought 'what if I die first?' Then you'd be left alone and heart broken once again, that made me cry. The thought of you mourning breaks my heart. I'd rather you went first, then I could follow on soon after. At lease I'd know where you'd gone to although the pain of not having you would choke me. I also know that the Lord would comfort me, and I know I'd be seeing you again someday. I know you wouldn't be in any pain or anguish, and I know that you'd be with the only person who could love you more than I.

I still don't want you to go though, at least not for another forty, fifty or sixty years.