How many on here chose to be single?

It's just me and teddy here.

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Good question!

ReesePiece23 said:

Choice initially - I really DID have a lot of work to do, things I wanted to achieve and a world I wanted to see. I did all of that, and then in typical ReesePiece fashion I reinvented myself this year and started all over again with new goals, new dreams and a fresh outlook.

I think the goal now is to meet a woman as driven as me and do a sort of 'collaboration on life' like two musicians would, rather than find someone to 'complete me'. Yeah.. y'know, I kind of like that idea actually.

I did have a very nice date of sorts a few weeks ago when I blew through Europe briefly (this is a woman who knows me through my beer blog), but really, we're two people who REALLY like beer. I reckon we'd both become a pair of raving alcoholics if we took it seriously, and I'm trying to tighten up on that wild life now. I'm finding new interests in art/etc.

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Apparently, I replied to this thread already - which is good, because it saves me having to say the same thing twice (short term memory loss, I curse you.)

Yeah, it's not that big of a deal either way. I'm mature enough now to be just as content seeing someone as I was when I was single, travelling and could do whatever I wanted.

It comes down to personality types. There ARE many (millions) of ambitious, thrill seeking women out there. I was just ignorant back when.

I chose to be single and celibate until God brought along the man that He has designed for me. I wanted to spend that time growing in the Lord and am still doing so, and dating was a distraction from that.

I thought for a while that I wanted to be single forever, that maybe God didn’t have anyone for me, but I think that was more just me giving in to negative thinking and not having any faith in what God could do. Needless to say I have realized that is not what I truly desire and I have been praying over it for quite some time now. (I know my status still says celibate, but apparently I can’t change it in my settings. lol)

There is a guy I’m interested in and he fits everything I’ve been praying for. I can even see the potential for something long term and I’m very excited to see where things will go. To see answered prayer and God’s power at work in my life has been truly humbling.

So, please pray that God would bring about His will for my life and hopefully someday I’ll have some wonderful news to share with you all here.

My first contribution to this thread was said from a place of anger, and I'd like an opportunity to say what I really meant to say.

When I was a much younger man, I was under the impression that I had to be in a relationship. For me, it was a way to feel somewhat normal in a world that went out of its way to point out that I am not normal. I went from bad relationship to another, with periods of isolation and celibacy between them of a year or more.

Then I met someone and we got married. Things were okay for a while, but we began to drift apart. She wanted things I could not or would not provide, and no amount of prodding or coercion from her would get me to change. We parted company to separate, then filing for divorce some months later.

That was almost 15 years ago. I've been on two first dates since then, and I didn't like either of those women enough to try to see the end of the first date, to say nothing about a second date.

Over the years I came to realize that I really don't want a relationship. I'd like someone to keep me company periodically, or perhaps join me for a cup of coffee and conversation, but that's as much association as I really want with anyone. I'm not the type of person to have a deep, personal, intimate relationship with anyone.

Being single is my choice, and that choice is based on what I know of myself. Now, anything is possible, so I'm still open to the idea of meeting someone who makes me change my tune. I'm not going to put any effort into looking for her though. I've gotten very comfortable living as a single man; doing what I want when I want; answering to nobody; spending my time as I see fit. She would have to be something truly extraordinary to get me to want to step out of that comfort zone.

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I'm ambivalent about it. Sometimes, I'd like to be in a relationship, but other times I'm happy with being single.

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ReesePiece23 said:

Choice initially - I really DID have a lot of work to do, things I wanted to achieve and a world I wanted to see. I did all of that, and then in typical ReesePiece fashion I reinvented myself this year and started all over again with new goals, new dreams and a fresh outlook.

I think the goal now is to meet a woman as driven as me and do a sort of 'collaboration on life' like two musicians would, rather than find someone to 'complete me'. Yeah.. y'know, I kind of like that idea actually.

I did have a very nice date of sorts a few weeks ago when I blew through Europe briefly (this is a woman who knows me through my beer blog), but really, we're two people who REALLY like beer. I reckon we'd both become a pair of raving alcoholics if we took it seriously, and I'm trying to tighten up on that wild life now. I'm finding new interests in art/etc.

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Really? That's amazing. I adore beer too. I had a brief version of that with a fellow lady traveller at the airport bar. Would love to meet up one day. I wonder what you think about Luther's beer and chats and more importantly the Lord's interest in wine.

KarlKarlingIII said:

Having a family and raising children with the law of Christ on their hearts is perhaps one of the holiest and most counterrevolutionary acts. The first revolutionary was the devil who was defeated by God's angels.
This subjugation of our own will, the humbling of the ego to the will of God is a most holy task. God blesses this holy endeavor.
There is no need for Christians to hide children from the modern world, but rather show them the world and tell them: "that is how it, now pray for them".

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Brilliant and how true. However, pro-creation is both God's curse and blessing to Eve and mankind, so I question how 'holy and counterrevolutionary' it is...

Children are simply a reward, a good thing to have if possible...

I quote Psalm 127: "Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate."

I was married once, not I choose to be single. But I live by the story Jesus tells of as we do onto others you have done unto me. Food, drink, visit in prison etc. The way I love that is to be a friend to everyone I meet even if its only a 5 min encounter with them. So I find being single with GFs to work much better at being able to be friends to people.

Blessed Life said:

I chose to be single in the name of Jesus. I want a life in Jesus not detract by the partnership of a wife of husband in this life. Is this true for you?

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This response is so late but, I have chosen to be single but I don't want it to be permanent. Right now I am holding off and enjoying my single season and growing closer to God. I don't have a strong desire for a partner and I am really happy.