hey guys!
repost from the singles forum
didn't really get any responses on there. (well not very much).
http://www.christianforums.com/t7776351/
I would also like some input in terms of those married, how your experience was. (whether you are happily married, not, separated, etc it's all relevant)
In your opinion what is the number of exs a future, or current significant other can have, until you consider it to be a consideration, or stumbling block?
I've been talking to this girl whom ive known for a few years now, she's pretty, intelligent, caring, smart, confident, lively, and quite mature.
she is a christian, however she has never been single for any length of time since 7th grade. she is quite attractive hence why she always has boys chasing after her. She has had a number of ex boyfriends, some of whom are still in the same city.
my question to you, is how many does it take until it gives you something to think about, something to consider?
She has said that she is still a virgin, which I have no reason to doubt, but I guess what I am concerned with is the emotional baggage from these relationships, and particularly the fact that she has been the one to break up with all of her ex boyfriends (she has never been at the receiving end of a breakup).
There is nothing to suggest that she broke up with them because they wanted to get sexual with her. (in fact she said that none of them tried anything). (which i find hard to believe, since.. well from personal experience the guys are always trying something, particularly in the hormonal, adolescent years)
I have somewhat believed that the more people you date, the more you are practicing for divorce. (in the sense of breaking it off when a hiccup comes, instead of trying to work it out).
The ex's of these boyfriends have set the bar quite high early on in terms of her expectations of what the boyfriend has to do, (in effect she has been spoiled).
Is that somewhat of a consideration, or is that something every boyfriend or girlfriend should do..
I have to say when I was in highschool and was dating a girl, I did try and spoil her, but those days were years ago and I have become somewhat jaded with the notion of spoiling girls. I think it is somewhat because of my purposive change from the 'nice guy 24/7', to the 'confident, no pushover guy who can still be nice'.
Let me know what you all think!