How long shall seek...??

[rachetman]

Does anyone think that there is a certain time that a person has to be with another to want to be with no other for the rest of their life. What must be shared between the two before such a decision is made?? Any age requirement??

 

[LifeInYou]

Love must be shared, but one must truly understand what love is first. With age comes more experience/knowledge...and hopefully a better understanding of love. This is why many people feel it's unrealistic for a relationship between 14 and 15 year olds who are 'in love' to last. Many people don't even know how to love themselves until much later in life, and until you do that you won't get very far in your relationships or with anything else you pursue.

 

[SlowRoasted]

I dont think there is an age requirement, like something written in stone, but i do think there is a maturity level requirement and a knowledge requirement. You have to be mature enough to realize that relationship bring a lot of responsibilities and be willing to take on these responsibilities. For one thing you have to be willing to do a relationship God's way if you want it to be truly successful. God's plan for a relationship is that we wait until marriage to have sex, which includes other forms of sexual activity. God also wants us to keep him at the center of our relationship. This can be extremely hard when all you want is to be with eachother, it has a tendency to cloud our vision. We also have to be willing to meet the needs of the other peson in the relationship. Guys and girls have different needs and we cant be blind to that. Though its not a requirement, being able to support a wife and possibly children is something to take into account.

Above all keep God at the center of your life, pray to him and ask him for guidance, submit your life to him and you cant go wrong.

 

[GirlForChrist]

Lets see: Love, Communication, Respect, and a love for God. I think that these are the things that every relationship needs to have in them before discussing marriage. I'm 17 and my boyfriend 16 we have a very stable relationship and have for almost a year now, we have all those things have even have talked about marriage so if you think thats the right step for you, then pray and if the Lord premits then go for it.

 

[the_man]

Does anyone think that there is a certain time that a person has to be with another to want to be with no other for the rest of their life.

No, it's different for everyone. Some people know within a month of meeting someone, this is the person I can grow old with. Others have to grow old with a person, to know they can grow old with them Depends on the people envolved.

What must be shared between the two before such a decision is made??

There is one thing that is vital that should be shared (notice I didn't say the only thing). That is, a love for God. Then it would be nice if they loved each other as well. Scientists have done careful study to show that when a couple love each other, the relationship seems to go smoother (Journal of Careful Studies, June 2003 I believe was the issue). But seriously, a love for God and each other is first and foremost (in that order). A few things like hobbies, interests in common don't hurt.

Any age requirement??

Yes. What is it, I don't know. There are however universal extremes that we can all agree on. An 8 yr old boy will not be taken seriously when he says he wants to marry his 8 yr old sweet heart. Maturity definitely comes into the picture. Emotional, spiritual, physical, mental maturity even financial. The only reason I say yes to the question is because while I believe maturity is not fully dependant on age, it partially is.

 

[Lizzi4Christ]

When it comes to relationships in general, there is no certain age or time that something can happen. I started dating 3-4 yers after many of my friends did. It was right for me to wait and not "explore". A friend of mine was married within a year of meeting her husband. I'm seeing another 2 years before I'm married.

Couples need to talk to each other and find out if they're really meant for each other or not. They need to decide times for themselves.

 

[desi]

Does anyone think that there is a certain time that a person has to be with another to want to be with no other for the rest of their life. What must be shared between the two before such a decision is made?? Any age requirement??

Biblically, no age requirement I know of. The law is a different story though.