How important is educational level?

[Stanfi]

When you are thinking about find a life mate, how important is their educational level. Let's say you have a Bachelor's degree. Would you want you SO, to have and equal educational level?

 

[Tuffguy]

I look at this as gravy. If she does or doesn't isn't gonna make it or break it. I do think that having a good education makes people alot more interesting and more well rounded though.

 

[IDOXLR8]

At first I looked at a high education as a must for a mate. From life lessons I have learned that it is not about how intelligent the individual is but rather how much that person believes and accepts God in their lives.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

Educational level or level of intelligence?

I really don't care if she had a degree or not, but if she can't hold an inteligent conversation that's a turn-off in the long run.

btw, LOVE the Hershey's Kisses coming out of the bleeding heart in your profile pic. Is that a comment on how chocolate is a substitute for love in society these days?

 

[Stanfi]

btw, LOVE the Hershey's Kisses coming out of the bleeding heart in your profile pic. Is that a comment on how chocolate is a substitute for love in society these days?

Ok, so I'm not an artist. Actually that is supposed to be blood droplets.


I also agree that equal intellgience is a must. It is not fun trying to talk to someone who talks over your head all the time, or someone that makes you feel like your back in preschool for that matter.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

Ok, so I'm not an artist. Actually that is supposed to be blood droplets.

Whoops.

Well, the inadvertant social commentary on chocolate = love was very entertaining.

 

[2scoops]

Education level should not matter when looking for a mate. It's like saying I'm not going to love you because you have not been to college, what kind of sense does that make? If we are christians then we need to love people for who they are, not who we would like them to be. I mean we have the greatest example of what love is suppossed to be and His name is Jesus. Some people think they are better than others because they are more educated, but God does not care how many degrees we have. Yes I have my degree, but that does not even enter my mind when searching for a mate.

 

[Echoes Peak]

I like smart guys, period. Where that source of intelligence comes from is almost irrelevant to me. I just like the mind. So if you happened to go to college, yah, we have some in common. If you happened not to go to college, yay, we have some other stuff we can talk about. Because, seriously, even if you do have a degree, and you got that degree in aerospace engineering (i.e. rocket science), I'm not necessarily going to be able to relate to you if going to college is the ONLY thing we have in common.

 

[invisiblebabe]

Education level should not matter when looking for a mate. It's like saying I'm not going to love you because you have not been to college, what kind of sense does that make? If we are christians then we need to love people for who they are, not who we would like them to be. I mean we have the greatest example of what love is suppossed to be and His name is Jesus. Some people think they are better than others because they are more educated, but God does not care how many degrees we have. Yes I have my degree, but that does not even enter my mind when searching for a mate.

We do need to love people for who they are, but I do not believe God would want us to marry someone who is less than adequately compatible with us! If someone is very athletic, I doubt he would want to marry a girl who despises sports. Along similar lines, if someone is quite academically oriented, then someone without a college education would most likely be a poor match.

As for myself, I am an academic type, and generally it seems, the more academically oriented people (whom I would be best matched with) do pursue higher education at a university.

Haha, Echoes Peak, one of my good friends is studying aerospace engineering (He's actually on this board, too..... shout out to Apollonian if he sees this )

 

[Echoes Peak]

Haha, Echoes Peak, one of my good friends is studying aerospace engineering (He's actually on this board, too..... shout out to Apollonian if he sees this )

I was smitten with a boy who was an aerospace enigeering major. And then he became an art major and then I was even more smitten

 

[Tink]

I like someone who can hold my attention with a conversation. On the other hand, I don't like a man that is so full of himself that he has to use big words to try to impress everyone.

In Christ,
Tink

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

I like someone who can hold my attention with a conversation. On the other hand, I don't like a man that is so full of himself that he has to use big words to try to impress everyone.

In Christ,
Tink

Eloquant juxtaposition Tink...


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[TriptychR]

On one hand, I'd really like someone with whom I can hold intelligent conversation. On the other hand, as iklepac13 implied earlier, there is a definite difference between a degree and actual experience. I would like someone with both, but if I were forced to choose between the two, I'd probably go with experience.

 

[Tink]

Eloquant juxtaposition Tink...


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Will you marry me?

Jk.

In Christ,
Tink

 

[Echoes Peak]

Eloquant juxtaposition Tink...


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Isn't it ELOQUENT? Or am I wrong?

 

[Macrina]

hmmm... well, I don't have any hard-and-fast requirements, that's for sure. I do value education and I would want a potential husband to value that as well, and to be someone with whom I could converse on intellectual topics. But that doesn't necessarily mean he has to have any particular level of education -- it's more a matter of what interests and values we have in common.

I'd like to offer another aspect of this for consideration: What about people who are intimidated by someone else's educational level? Okay, I don't go around telling people this, but I have an undergraduate degree from Stanford and a graduate degree from Harvard. To me, those are just schools I went to. But most people I meet either drool and fawn over me, saying embarassing things about how smart I must be... or, they go the opposite direction and assume that I'm stuck up and think I'm better than they are. I find that while my educational background isn't a big deal to me, it can be detrimental to my relationships with men.

In fact, when I look back on why I had to break off my engagement, I think a lot of what was going on in our relationship was that he was threatened by the school I went to.

 

[white dove]

I've met ppl who were 'uneducated' (in that they didn't finish college) who could hold up an intelligent conversation; to me, wisdom & godly insight is s/t that may or may not be learned in a classroom....unless you call that classroom 'life'


but then, that might make you a dork like me, so let's just move on...

 

[MrsGnomeCrusher]

Not very important.

A degree really isn't a measure of intelligence. I've known some people who have their degree and aren't really all that bright . . . while I've known others who haven't even graduated high school that are quite intelligent.

The question is so black and white and it's unfortunate that people would look their nose down on someone with or without a degree.

 

[mghalpern]

I'm currently in a master's program, taking four classes a week plus a full-time job, and I have an I. Q. of 137. My wife is a high school graduate--no college. She has also been in management most of her life, though she doesn’t have a degree. I have found "compatibility" to be overrated--as a psych major, I have read research that supports this. I do believe that having some similar interests in common is very important (nothing is more important than your common relationship with Christ), but you probably would not even be together if you didn't have some common interests. Let us not forget, we are not trying to find someone exactly like us (how boring that would be), but someone who will compliment us and vise versa. Like someone else has stated...as long as we can have good conversation and have little problem understanding each other. I don't discuss the same subject matter with each of my friends, especially to the same degree; likewise, there are things that my spouse and I aren't very interested in in each others lives. Thank God for the many people we can have in our lives...Michael

 

[2scoops]

I'm currently in a master's program, taking four classes a week plus a full-time job, and I have an I. Q. of 137. My wife is a high school graduate--no college. She has also been in management most of her life, though she doesn’t have a degree. I have found "compatibility" to be overrated--as a psych major, I have read research that supports this. I do believe that having some similar interests in common is very important (nothing is more important than your common relationship with Christ), but you probably would not even be together if you didn't have some common interests. Let us not forget, we are not trying to find someone exactly like us (how boring that would be), but someone who will compliment us and vise versa. Like someone else has stated...as long as we can have good conversation and have little problem understanding each other. I don't discuss the same subject matter with each of my friends, especially to the same degree; likewise, there are things that my spouse and I aren't very interested in in each others lives. Thank God for the many people we can have in our lives...Michael

Amen.