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Ok well I was just amazed at the amount of threads here. I am going to read them for a while. I never thought mental health issues would consume my whole life. Well it is what it is people I always say. I became a Christian at age 18, I stayed out of organized religion until today really. I am 33 and a bit now, but found something that really works and makes me happy, not really dependent on traditional things, and is a stream based happiness. It is justified through the Bible for me. So I am feeling good all around about it. Well if you read what I wrote, and it makes you think, that is cool, then do what I do, think, what is my favorite comedy to watch today? Ok well take care
Happiness
Happiness for me essentially equals kindness and laughter right now. What never makes me happy really is knowledge and thought, goals, dreams, emotional pain, worrying about time these kinds of things. I came to realize I don’t want to pin my happiness on things other than it being a feeling that exists in a steady stream. Happiness is coming down to laughter and kindness right now.
The first thing I kind of realized is happiness isn’t an action process dependent on something you do, like a goal. Happiness isn’t thought dependent on what you know, like study or insight. Happiness is a feeling process.
So knowledge and thought is an issue for me in my situation. It always does one thing, lead to wants, and wants leads to dreams, and dreams are something in my situation I can never really have. So if I went the conventional route to happiness here I would wait and then die without ever being happy.
Goals are an issue even if I could have my dreams for me. The reason is that if you make a goal then you have to wait to be happy. You don’t know if you will achieve the goal or how you will feel about it when you get there. When you do get there even if you do achieve it you can only be happy at the present then, so I figure just side step the waiting and try to find a way to be happy now. You may always have to make functional goals, but I don’t find pinning anything emotional on them a good thing.
Emotional pain is something I struggled with. I felt like a bit of a freak for not worrying anymore and feeling pain in that way. Here is how I ended up resolving that. I have a faith in Christianity and the Lord. I ended up realizing the first thing that it says in the Bible is that Adam and Eve were warned do not eat from the tree of knowledge of good and evil. Eve ended up doing so and then giving the fruit to Adam. Eve was deceived by the serpent. The reason she took the food from the tree was she reached with desire to be good and wise. As she reached for the good and wise her desire for it let in the evil. I have chosen to start to ignore the concept of good and evil exist. If you aren’t judging other peoples actions or feeling bitterness of theirs towards you aren’t being good as you aren’t fighting evil. If you aren’t bothering other people on purpose for any reason you aren’t being evil so there is no need for good. You are deciding not to take part in good and evil. Whether you are good or evil both cause emotional pain usually. Good causes you to try to help people and they often don’t appreciate it so you feel hurt. Good can cause you to get sad for others as you see other people doing things you consider wrong. Evil causes all kinds of anger and hate in you. If you don’t like someone and you get angry you feel bad. If you hate someone you feel awful too. You are literally kind of by passing judgment I guess as well by not taking part as that is the first thing it says, don’t see good and evil. It is a religious justification for the decision, but if no one was intervening in other people lives then there would be no emotional pain really. I also thought on this topic Jesus is known for doing everything right all the time, which is true. What he is trying to do is lead you to heaven which is a perpetual state of happiness. You have to be right all the time to be in heaven as being wrong makes you negative. Happiness all the time is straight positivity. I also thought the only thing you have to do is ask Jesus can you help me to go to heaven. It isn’t even a real requirement, it is a fact of being different people. No one can make anyone do anything. If you ask him to save you, he will show you how to get to heaven where you are nothing but happy, and part of that I imagine is being right all the time, so there is no negativity in you. For me that means just don’t get involved in good and evil, the battle of positive and negative in emotions is the best I can see to do. I found it tricky to do this myself. What I decided is if I annoy someone I don’t apologize or get annoyed. I just avoid doing it again. If someone hurts me or won’t respect me I don’t look to forgive them in my heart. I just drop it on the spot. That way emotionally I don’t see good and evil. It opens me up for just things like happiness, kindness and laughter.
Time I think many people have resolved this. Time is for me not real. It is just counting energy movements to organize our days. Like revolutions of the earth, orbits of the sun. It isn’t worth thinking about unless you have to plan something.
For me to make this all work nicely I have to live in the now. That is the only place where happiness can ever happen. If you live in the now, knowledge and thought beyond relating to others has no real value for your future as it isn’t something that you see as relevant to you being happy. The now also for me doesn’t include looking for dreams and goals, they have to happen in the future. To not reside in emotional pain and maintain and stay out of the good and evil loop, I find it helps to do a few things. Always be doing things to make today better, not your future. I find it is useful to just check is anyone ever welcome in my life today tomorrow and forever. If they are welcome as equals in your life anytime you aren’t judging them for any reason so you aren’t taking part in the good and evil loop. The best part about the now is it is your best shot of finding happy quick!
Well if you like this advice for happiness I hope it helps a bit. I am hoping it continues to work for me.
Happiness
Happiness for me essentially equals kindness and laughter right now. What never makes me happy really is knowledge and thought, goals, dreams, emotional pain, worrying about time these kinds of things. I came to realize I don’t want to pin my happiness on things other than it being a feeling that exists in a steady stream. Happiness is coming down to laughter and kindness right now.
The first thing I kind of realized is happiness isn’t an action process dependent on something you do, like a goal. Happiness isn’t thought dependent on what you know, like study or insight. Happiness is a feeling process.
So knowledge and thought is an issue for me in my situation. It always does one thing, lead to wants, and wants leads to dreams, and dreams are something in my situation I can never really have. So if I went the conventional route to happiness here I would wait and then die without ever being happy.
Goals are an issue even if I could have my dreams for me. The reason is that if you make a goal then you have to wait to be happy. You don’t know if you will achieve the goal or how you will feel about it when you get there. When you do get there even if you do achieve it you can only be happy at the present then, so I figure just side step the waiting and try to find a way to be happy now. You may always have to make functional goals, but I don’t find pinning anything emotional on them a good thing.
Emotional pain is something I struggled with. I felt like a bit of a freak for not worrying anymore and feeling pain in that way. Here is how I ended up resolving that. I have a faith in Christianity and the Lord. I ended up realizing the first thing that it says in the Bible is that Adam and Eve were warned do not eat from the tree of knowledge of good and evil. Eve ended up doing so and then giving the fruit to Adam. Eve was deceived by the serpent. The reason she took the food from the tree was she reached with desire to be good and wise. As she reached for the good and wise her desire for it let in the evil. I have chosen to start to ignore the concept of good and evil exist. If you aren’t judging other peoples actions or feeling bitterness of theirs towards you aren’t being good as you aren’t fighting evil. If you aren’t bothering other people on purpose for any reason you aren’t being evil so there is no need for good. You are deciding not to take part in good and evil. Whether you are good or evil both cause emotional pain usually. Good causes you to try to help people and they often don’t appreciate it so you feel hurt. Good can cause you to get sad for others as you see other people doing things you consider wrong. Evil causes all kinds of anger and hate in you. If you don’t like someone and you get angry you feel bad. If you hate someone you feel awful too. You are literally kind of by passing judgment I guess as well by not taking part as that is the first thing it says, don’t see good and evil. It is a religious justification for the decision, but if no one was intervening in other people lives then there would be no emotional pain really. I also thought on this topic Jesus is known for doing everything right all the time, which is true. What he is trying to do is lead you to heaven which is a perpetual state of happiness. You have to be right all the time to be in heaven as being wrong makes you negative. Happiness all the time is straight positivity. I also thought the only thing you have to do is ask Jesus can you help me to go to heaven. It isn’t even a real requirement, it is a fact of being different people. No one can make anyone do anything. If you ask him to save you, he will show you how to get to heaven where you are nothing but happy, and part of that I imagine is being right all the time, so there is no negativity in you. For me that means just don’t get involved in good and evil, the battle of positive and negative in emotions is the best I can see to do. I found it tricky to do this myself. What I decided is if I annoy someone I don’t apologize or get annoyed. I just avoid doing it again. If someone hurts me or won’t respect me I don’t look to forgive them in my heart. I just drop it on the spot. That way emotionally I don’t see good and evil. It opens me up for just things like happiness, kindness and laughter.
Time I think many people have resolved this. Time is for me not real. It is just counting energy movements to organize our days. Like revolutions of the earth, orbits of the sun. It isn’t worth thinking about unless you have to plan something.
For me to make this all work nicely I have to live in the now. That is the only place where happiness can ever happen. If you live in the now, knowledge and thought beyond relating to others has no real value for your future as it isn’t something that you see as relevant to you being happy. The now also for me doesn’t include looking for dreams and goals, they have to happen in the future. To not reside in emotional pain and maintain and stay out of the good and evil loop, I find it helps to do a few things. Always be doing things to make today better, not your future. I find it is useful to just check is anyone ever welcome in my life today tomorrow and forever. If they are welcome as equals in your life anytime you aren’t judging them for any reason so you aren’t taking part in the good and evil loop. The best part about the now is it is your best shot of finding happy quick!
Well if you like this advice for happiness I hope it helps a bit. I am hoping it continues to work for me.
