How Far is too Far?

[QTsoccerchil12]

What are your ...opinions on how far is too far, talking about physically, when you are in a serious relationship

 

[Nikoel]

I suppose it depends on what we're discussing here (unless I'm missing something!)

In everything that I do in life, I talk to God before hand! If I am making any decision that could in some way effect my morality in any way shape or form, I consult God.

But to completely answer your question I need to know more

 

[Socrastein]

Why is a mouse when it spins?
What's the difference between a duck?
How many pancakes does it take to roof a doghouse?

Could your question be any less coherent?

 

[QTsoccerchil12]

How far is too far sexually when you are seriously dating someone

 

[Socrastein]

Ah, specification always helps QT, thanks for that.

Too far is farther than you want to go.

 

[Nikoel]

In that situation...

"He wants each of you to learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable. Don't use your body for sexual sin like the people who do not know God." 1Thess. 4:4-1 (New Century Version)

That is one of many spots in the bible that it says that sexual situations should be left to marriage...

In my personal interpretation... that means that we should use our own judgement prior to marriage but I would say to avoid temptation to go further than the Lord would want you to go. (sorry coherant thoughts went out the window a few hours ago)

 

[Icicle]

"He wants each of you to learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable. Don't use your body for sexual sin like the people who do not know God." 1Thess. 4:4-1 (New Century Version)

That is one of many spots in the bible that it says that sexual situations should be left to marriage...

Marriage isn't even mentioned in that verse.

 

[Bond Slave]

What are your ...opinions on how far is too far, talking about physically, when you are in a serious relationship

Deep kissing has taken it too far. If the genitals are involved in any form, it has gone to serious transgression.

 

[seebs]

How far is too far sexually when you are seriously dating someone

Honestly, I don't think there's a simple answer to this. If you're starting to feel like you're pushing it, you probably are. As a general rule, if you're younger or less experienced, you're likely to have a harder time recognizing your boundaries... Making it harder to figure out what's going on. So if you aren't sure, be cautious.

But... Too far for what purpose? How serious a relationship? These factors matter.

 

[gizmo03]

I personally believe that the only person who can really know the right answers with situations like this is yourself. Only doing what you know and feel is right and comfortable. Never allowing yourself to be pressured into something you are not ready for. And for the sexually things, be sure there is a strong commitment there and you have true feelings for the person and want share those feelings with each other. Trust is a major key thing involving any of this stuff!!

 

[Randall McNally]

How many pancakes does it take to roof a doghouse?

50% more than it takes to cap a bunny.

 

[Caylin]

How far is too far sexually when you are seriously dating someone

When the other says no.

 

[preacherindisguise]

I think as Christians, (maybe you aren't) we should ask God what he expects from us first. Then start from the other side of the mountain. Ask, "How pure can I be?" I have found that saving every piece of yourself for your future spouse will be the greatest gift anyone can ever give. It will reap rewards. The answer is, "you don't have to go anywhere."
Its between you and God though.

By the way: I'm saving my first kiss, my first time to hold hands, and my first cuddle for my husband. Some say its prude, I say its totally going to be worth it.

 

[The Seeker]

What are your ...opinions on how far is too far, talking about physically, when you are in a serious relationship

If you don't mind me asking, how old are you? Generally speaking, as far as you and your partner are comfortable with.

 

[Bond Slave]

By the way: I'm saving my first kiss, my first time to hold hands, and my first cuddle for my husband. Some say its prude, I say its totally going to be worth it.

That is beautiful. Have you seen the movie "Pamela's prayer?" It is a true story of a woman who did the same thing and was led by God to a man who had vowed to do the same if God would bring him to a girl with the same commitment. It is a movie I love sharing with my little girl. How wonderful to hear you say you are doing this. It is not "prude" but so wonderful. The world cannot understand such a thing. Imagine the wonder of your first kiss being the one at the altar. That is cool. I am very proud of you.

 

[Bond Slave]

If you don't mind me asking, how old are you? Generally speaking, as far as you and your partner are comfortable with.

This is a worldly answer. The answer for a Christian MUST be different.

 

[The Seeker]

This is a worldly answer. The answer for a Christian MUST be different.

Well if your faith leads you to be uncomfortable with a certain level of sexual involvement, then that's obviously important. Though personally, I don't understand why somebody would want to deny themselves perfectly harmless pleasure for a vague ideal.

 

[The Seeker]

By the way: I'm saving my first kiss, my first time to hold hands, and my first cuddle for my husband. Some say its prude, I say its totally going to be worth it.

That's fair enough, if you think you can last that long with out any sexual contact with a man. The way I see it, if you never do anything, and then you slip up and say, make out with some guy you know and really like, then if you've already tied abstaining from sex with all that other stuff, what's to stop you getting totally carried away?

 

[Bond Slave]

Well if your faith leads you to be uncomfortable with a certain level of sexual involvement, then that's obviously important. Though personally, I don't understand why somebody would want to deny themselves perfectly harmless pleasure for a vague ideal.

What a very sad post but I understand where you are coming from. You see, I am not denying myself anything. I already have assurance of a life of pleasure that this could never compare to. I can see this kind of view when there is nothing else to look forward to. I do not wish to go to my Creator who redeemed me so selflessly and explain why His wish was of such little value to me that I had to indulge every fleshy temptation that came my way. I want to go to Him and say, "hey, that was hard down there, but I am so grateful I could say thank you to You in that small way of following You." Jesus is so much more important then a night of passion. When I get feeling that way, I just have to think of the Passion that He had for me.

 

[The Seeker]

What a very sad post but I understand where you are coming from. You see, I am not denying myself anything. I already have assurance of a life of pleasure that this could never compare to. I can see this kind of view when there is nothing else to look forward to. I do not wish to go to my Creator who redeemed me so selflessly and explain why His wish was of such little value to me that I had to indulge every fleshy temptation that came my way. I want to go to Him and say, "hey, that was hard down there, but I am so grateful I could say thank you to You in that small way of following You." Jesus is so much more important then a night of passion. When I get feeling that way, I just have to think of the Passion that He had for me.

That's exactly what I'm talking about though. You are denying yourself, whether you think it is worth it or not is not the point here, I'm stating a fact.