How far can you go

[Wayne56]

Hi I know this might of been a topic before but

How Far can you go with your girlfriend ie. kissing touching etc

I know sex is out of the question!

I just need a little bit of guidence

thanks in advance

 

[alwayz_remember_Calvery]

this is a question only you and your girlfriend can answer. Some people kissing might be too far, others it might be making out. It's a question that has to be answered on an individual basis.

You need to sit down with your girlfriend and ask her what her boundaries are and discuss what yours are. You also need to search the bible, see what it says and listen to what God is telling you is too far.

 

[ChildOfGod20]

whatever it is that causes you to start thinking about her in a sexual way...that's when you need to stop.

 

[f U z ! o N]

whatever it is that causes you to start thinking about her in a sexual way...that's when you need to stop.

you can think about a girl in a sexual way without even touching

 

[ChildOfGod20]

yep ur right. but if that happens it doesn't mean its ok to just sit there and continue thinking about her like that. u should try to stop. im not saying its easy but you shouldnt just allow yourself to fall into that trap

 

[bumblebee62331]

Do only what you would feel comfortable doing in front of Jesus or your parents.

 

[godsgirl1986]

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[ChildOfGod20]

Do only what you would feel comfortable doing in front of Jesus or your parents.

that's a good way of putting it

 

[squeakyclean1]

Do only what you would feel comfortable doing in front of Jesus or your parents.

Haha I also heard "whatever you would feel comfortable doing infront of your Grandma"

that works well too

 

[Picture.Of.Obedience]

whatever it is that causes you to start thinking about her in a sexual way...that's when you need to stop.

i agree.... my husband wouldnt kiss me b/c he didnt want it to lead to more before marriage...

 

[MrsSeptemberPenguin]

this is a question only you and your girlfriend can answer. Some people kissing might be too far, others it might be making out. It's a question that has to be answered on an individual basis.

You need to sit down with your girlfriend and ask her what her boundaries are and discuss what yours are. You also need to search the bible, see what it says and listen to what God is telling you is too far.

Very good post! I agree.

 

[Briseis]

Do only what you would feel comfortable doing in front of Jesus or your parents.

I have never kissed my bf in front of my parents, and would not feel comfortable doing so, but I do not feel that kissing him is wrong.

 

[plum]

Yes, this topic has been repeated many times. A good way to find those threads is by going to the search function and searching for key words like "how far" or "too far"...
http://www.christianforums.com/search

 

[Ceris]

Yes, this topic has been repeated many times.

Many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many, many times.

 

[Ryokeen]

Sometimes I think if you have to ask yourself that, then a.) You seriously have no clue or b.) you shouldn't be dating.
If any ideas of sex arouse from the situation at all, it's a bad idea. Very bad.
End of story, and if you can't do anything, then maybe dating isn't something you should look into you.
Just be very cautious.

 

[bumblebee62331]

I have never kissed my bf in front of my parents, and would not feel comfortable doing so, but I do not feel that kissing him is wrong.

Yeah it's just a general thing that I had heard.

Of course it's going to differ slightly and it's not foolproof, but it's a good rule of thumb, somewhere to start from.

 

[A Taffer]

Hi I know this might of been a topic before but

How Far can you go with your girlfriend ie. kissing touching etc

I know sex is out of the question!

I just need a little bit of guidence

thanks in advance

Its better to prevent it than to see how far you can go. Don't let yourself get stuck in a situation where its just you and her alone because then its easy to start with kissing and next thing you know, you've gone all the way. Once passion starts you can't stop unless you are really strong willed and I wouldn't recommend testing your will.

 

[Shazamataz]

I did this really good series of bible studies on this topic a few years ago. "How far can I go?" Think of it this way. Your boyfriend/girlfriend is your brother/sister in Christ. You should only go as far as is appropriate with your brother/sister. After all, that's what they are!! Think about it... you wouldn't fondle etc. your brother/sister... that's just wrong! So how far should you go??? You decide.

But also remember to always be on guard against temptation, cos it is SO easy for those lines you drew to be nudged..... uphold each other in prayer and don't even go close to the lines if it will lead to temptation and a shifting of the lines! Stay strong to your convictions and don't let satan convince you something is ok when you know it's not!!!

 

[AnaSnow]

I did this really good series of bible studies on this topic a few years ago. "How far can I go?" Think of it this way. Your boyfriend/girlfriend is your brother/sister in Christ. You should only go as far as is appropriate with your brother/sister. After all, that's what they are!! Think about it... you wouldn't fondle etc. your brother/sister... that's just wrong! So how far should you go??? You decide.

But also remember to always be on guard against temptation, cos it is SO easy for those lines you drew to be nudged..... uphold each other in prayer and don't even go close to the lines if it will lead to temptation and a shifting of the lines! Stay strong to your convictions and don't let satan convince you something is ok when you know it's not!!!

While I agree that one's boyfriend/girlfriend is one's brother/sister in Christ, I also know that affection is important. I would never think of making out with my siblings. This isn't too far for me as long as the time is limited and the intention behind it is to communicate something that words do not express. There are things I tell my bf that I would not share with my siblings. I think that boundaries should be set between you and your partner. Pray about it and accept what God tells you. Once boundaries are set, make every effort to keep them.

 

[Inperfected]

Well.. I know it's been done but my general viewpoint is this:

If you will be tempted by a specific act (i.e. anything from kissing to, hand above knee AT ALL), then draw the line a wee bit before that point, and write it down... One for each person, and an accountabilty partner if need be. His will sit beside his bed (as it's like his lounge and only place we may struggle together) whilst mine will stay with me.