How does time effect a divorced person and dates?

[dayhiker]

I've been divorce a short time. But I've started to notice a differance in attitude in the ladies I've meet that are divorced a short time and those divorces a long longer time. Also divorced people are talking about this and even mentioning in their first cantacts with new potential dates.

Does anyone have this idea developed in their mind? This is all new to me.

thanks
dayhiker

 

[ido]

Hmmm...while time plays a part in the healing process, I also think that the willingness and ability to heal oneself plays a part, too. I know a woman who has been widowed and then divorced and she has not dated in over 25 years. She has never properly healed from either one of those emotional traumas. I would think that it would be an issue that you would have to assess on an individual basis, rather than being able to put a timeframe to it.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Do the ones that are divorced longer have better or worse attitudes?
Some people like to let people know up front that they've been divorced for multiple reasons, but one of them could be in case the person they are interested in has a stigma against dating divorced people.
I'm not divorced but my late husband had been married twice before me. Since there were kids involved I had to really think about getting into a relationship with him. Now that I am a widow, I wouldn't necessarily tell someone that right off the bat, but I'm kind of an open book person, so they would know it soon enough.