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penNpaper

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Soo just curious now towards ALL the lovely couples in this place uh huh..

How do you open up to your SO..

Guys it is CALLED communication and talking about your feelings, and ect..

Ladies don't give us GUYS too much trouble we are just only humans too you know ^_^

Do you think your close to your SO..and in what way..

Was it hard or easy when you found your SO in doing so..I mean like opening up to them and expressing those feelings and so on..

Just curious; Drewy curious uh huh :)

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Drew
 

ShinigamiMommy

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Talking has always flowed freely between us. We're interested in the same things so we always have a conversation going. Then when the evening turns into night and we both are more relaxed, it seems like we open up to each other about our past or our feelings or our future plans. It's natural and we both enjoy listening to each other and the honesty that comes with it. There's no real "trick" for talking or communicating. I hope that helped you.
 
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alfrodull

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My fiance is by far the easiest person to talk to that I've ever encountered. Well, for me at least. He goes along with all my random tangents and plays on words, which leads to a very broad range of conversation. (Our main topics of discussion today were divorce statistics, consumer electronics, and marsupials, I believe.) Because of that it's never been hard to be open with him...And for me, that's saying a lot.

Of course, this whole Iraq thing has made things kind of tough...What I'd give for an hour of private, face-to-face conversation with no dropped signals. :sigh:
 
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K9_Trainer

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Idk, we just start talking and it just flows freely. We talk about everything.

For more intimate issues, I didn't have any problems opening up, he already had my trust. The guy I was with before him was a player, and my bf knew it and told me. This was almost 2 years before we actually got together.
And I'm extremely close to my bf in almost every way possible lol.
 
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Angeldove97

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I swallow my pride and just talk to Sean--- we're best friends to begin with so it was never really an issue for us. (Thank God)

Allow yourself to be willing to share--- even if it's scary.
 
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We both have a past where it makes it hard for us to open up for other people, but I think it's different with each other. For my part she is very understanding and not judging at all which makes it a lot easier for me to open up. I can have some problems sometimes knowing how to say something, but I trust her 100% and is totally honest with her about everything and we don't have any secrets for each other. She is such a great blessing to me in everything. :)
 
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We've been together three years now and we still struggle sometimes, but for the most part we just let one another know that it's ok to be vulnerable and then we just open up.
 
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Kvikklunsj

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I think the fact that we were very good friends for a few years before starting a relationship helped a lot. We really got to know each other well and trust each other, and that makes it easy to be open and honest with each other now
 
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my boyfriend made it really hard to communicate with him before we were together, but he had just lost his mom so it took a while but i knew i wanted to be with him. you just cant give up when you want someone. he finally opened up and is the craziest funniest guy i know. his friends said it took me to get him there, which makes me feel so happy to think it's because of me, but it's really not hard as long as you follow your heart, weve been together for like 4 years now.
 
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We both had some stuff to divulge at the beginning of our relationship and that was hard because it could've been a deal-breaker on either side. I am still really touched when I remember how vulnerable he looked when he was sharing, and later he told me how worried he was that I was going to stop seeing him.

Communication is going to be an ongoing issue, but I think we both prize honesty and want a successful relationship so we're willing to work on everything.
 
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mahalia

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we were best friends (albeit dating in between) for 3 and a half years before we became "official" so we've built up lots of trust and know everything about each other, although he sometimes stops me when i talk about my past because he says the past doesn't matter.

but we talk about everything, and laugh about plenty things too.

funny, i've never really thought about it that way. it just flows.
 
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