how do you spend time together?

[katelyn]

My husband and I have a hard time figuring out ways to spend time together when it's just the two of us. How do you and your spouse spend time together? Kids can be included, but our baby isn't here yet so it's still just the two of us for a little while longer.

 

[andiesmama]

Well, we're blessed that my husband's family live in the same town as us, so they love to have Andie (she's 2) spend the weekends with them, about twice a month!! So when we get time to ourselves, we usually go out to dinner (nowhere expensive, it's nice to just go out like big people! lol). Then we spend time playing a game we're addicted to on our PlayStation 2 (yes, I know I'm almost 40, what can I say? ). We may run around & do some errands, it's fun doing them together sometimes, being able to take your time & just wander around the store, you know? Go to Starbucks on Sunday to get coffee & the paper....nothing really big, just spending time together, re-connecting & recharging our personal batteries, getting back some of the husband & wife feeling, being romantic with each other, rather than the mommy & daddy feeling, you know?

And with our daughter, we take her to the park, to the beach (we live in SW FL), and spend time with our extended family that's here (his parents, and his sister & her husband & daughter).

Enjoy the time you have together now as a couple....it all changes when the baby comes (but in a good way!)...congratulations!

 

[Jenna]

Um, well........we've been so busy that it's hard to remember. lol We have meals together as a family. We all snuggle in the same bed on weekend mornings and watch cartoons together. Michael and I read books at the same time and kind of play footsies while we're at it. We watch movies together and sometimes have the special treat of going to the theater. We walk around the mall so Anna can take me up and down the elevator and escalators, which seems to be her favorite pasttime there.

 

[SkyeBlue8]

Our baby is 7 mo. old now. She is such a blessing but such a handful. Congrats by the way!

Just make absolutely sure, that you take time out once a week for the two of you. It's so important. Just as it's important to nurture your baby it is important to nurture your relationship with your husband.
Most of the time we spend time together after the baby goes to sleep around 10pm, and we talk, play video games (go Zelda!) or just fool around like married folks should ;p.
We also toss her to my parents sometimes so we can go for a drive and just escape, even if its just to go and sit in the car somewhere. Try bundling up and laying out in the middle of nowhere to look at the stars, it's truly romantic! Doing that kind of stuff you can actually forget all your stress and worries (it's good to do that once in a while, keeps you feeling young), because as great as babies are, they can cause stress and tension in a marriage.
Just keep in mind, babies get better with time. Newborns are tough, but as time goes by it gets better and better! Wait til about 5 or 6 months when their little personalities start to shine through.

God bless that little bun in the oven. Babies ultimately bring a married couple closer together.

 

[katelyn]

Thanks ladies. I guess we do a lot of things like what you all mentioned. We used to play video games together, but it's probably about time for a new one since I think we're a little burned out on the ones we have. We'll rent or go a movie...go out to eat...go to the bookstore. Sometimes we'll go shopping or run errands together, but I know hubby finds it kind of boring, so I try not to ask him to do it too often. I guess sometimes I just feel like we run out of variety in what we do, and get tired of everything and fall back on just watching whatever's on TV.

I am looking forward to having our little one in our lives. I know it will be fun to do things with her like taking her to the park or even just spending time around the house with her. And having a child will actually most likely improve our social life, seeing as how practically all of our friends have little ones. They're excited about us having a child, as then our little ones can keep each other company and be friends.

I do wonder how we will handle getting a chance for some alone time, though. We don't have any close relatives that live in town that we would feel comfortable leaving our baby with. We might be able to find some friends who would be willing to swap babysitting times with us, although most of our friends do have relatives in town who do the babysitting for them. Hmm.

 

[LiberatedChick]

Mainly we cuddle up on the sofa watching films or tv, play board games, have dinner together or go out for walks by the nearby river. We don't have a car at the moment so we walk every where that we go...this gives us lots of time together with really little distraction.

 

[selune]

we got to computer game together last night for the first time in months! Finally. We play card and board games, do crosswords, watch movies, read, have tea, and other general things.

 

[Singin4Him]

My husband and I are newlyweds so we don't have children. We usually spend time in the evenings together watching tv or playing nintendo gamecube games haha. On the weekends we usually go on a date and spend time together with family.

 

[HisWinterRose]

How do you spend time together? How do you and your spouse spend time together? Well ... we have our time together when the kids are usually in bed and that is usually are time together ... but sometimes we have special date nights & we leave the kids at home while we go out for dinner or something. During the hoilday season we usually take some time to do shopping in the morning & that means BREAKFAST OUT for the two of us so that is time that we have together too. But ... the most memorable time that we have together is when we can get away from TOWN & just spend the night in a fancy MOTEL ROOM ... complete with a JACUZZI & KING SIZE BED so ... we usually pack up the bags & bring along some sparkling cider & strawberries & get away from it all. We usually go out for a fancy dinner & movie then come back to the MOTEL & soak in the jacuzzi with bubbles and just some time to ourselves. We have done that on our 15, 20, 25 wedding anniversaries & it's been WONDERFUL. Note: Our kids are all grown ... ages 23, 20, 16 so they can pretty much take care of themselves while we are away. However our 23 year since moved out so ... it's just the other two that are home !! So, whatever you do take advance of the time that you have right now because once you have KIDS ... the time is to be spent with them. ​

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TBEAR​

 

[Flipper]

We are either remodeling our house, watching movies, or gaming on the computer together.

 

[Jenna]

I found that when our daughter was quite small, it just wasn't comfortable leaving her with anyone. It didn't really matter who. For us, it was a blessing for her to have her own room. Also, regular bedtimes later on help a great deal also. That frees up time and space to have the chance to have quality time and do things together.

 

[Leanna]

Before we had our son, we would go to bookstores, go out to movies and loved to eat out at a restaurant and have a good conversation. Now with our son (3 months soon) we stop by bookstores but usually don't stay long, rent movies, and go out to eat when we have a grandparent to watch the baby. We like to play video games too but not usually just us, we like to play with our friends. (major dorks?)

 

[selune]

Hey, I'm glad to find all these other gamers out there. I felt like such a geek "30 year old mother of 4 plays video games with husband in spare time..."

 

[whatseekye]

Mainly, we talk...a lot. We talk about anything and everything. My husband actually fell in love with me because of the great communication and openness we have.

Also, we are both in a very zealous mode in our faith, so we are often sharing with each other concerning our readings and things we are thinking about. We pray together. We are learning to play guitar together. We often go visiting family together. We sometimes watch movies together. We are almost always doing things together and when we aren't, the other one is following and watching. I personally love the high degree of togetherness although it would drive most people a little nuts to have someone attached at the hip all the time.

I highly recommend starting some kind of hobby or interest with your mate. It's the best! Learning to play guitar together is cool because you can sing worship songs together at home.

We used to play PC games together but he doesn't like to anymore. I play some PS2 games and some PC games when he's at work. I guess I'm a dork too (but my husband is a reformed dork. lol)

 

[Lordbay]

We love togo out to eat or make a good dinner together. We both work 3-11 shift, so in the morning we lay in bed and talk. When we get home at nite and before bed we have bible study together . We really love to talk to each other for hours. We also watch old movies together.

 

[Andy Broadley]

Whatever you do, make the most of it together while you can. We have four children. Finding baby sitters is almost impossible and as a result we havn't had an evening out together on our own for nearly 2 years, and have probably only been out 5 or 6 times in the last 5 years.


We love our kids dearly, but it would be so nice to be able to spend just a little time together as man and wife.

 

[mojorising]

We have help, and family to watch our son to schedule "date nite". We even have date nite when he's asleep, but we make an appointment for it...schedule a day. When we have help, we may go out to dinner or a movie...when we can't we make time, and have delivery food when our son is asleep. Plus, we shcedule "family" time.. we both have time alone with our son, but i'ts cool to have a "date" for all of us...
Good luck

mojo

 

[mcb1998au]

Another gamer geek here. Hubby and i dont spend much time alone together since we had our son but before him we used to go off for a drive, go out and have a meal or just choof off to the shops. Since we had our son we do things as a family we still go out for meals or go off to the shops but we do it with the 3 of us now. Our son goes to his grandparents every Friday night for the night but im trying to get him to go every fortnight instead of weekly, i would really like too just keep this an occasional thing but he does enjoy going- i just believe his place is at home with us. Even when junior is at his grandparents we still dont spend that much time together we use the time to catch up on whatever we are involved in at the time.

 

[Mrs. Enigma]

We have 3 kids who are small. We have only had baby sitters like 3 times. We play gamecube, go on Christian Forums, go for drives, go out for fast food, take showers together, study the Bible, talk, sit next to eachother and read, do chores together, and go for walks at parks. We mostly do the gamecube or sex for our together time, but in summer the walks or we also started playing tennis.

 

[brokenbananas]

We have meals together when possible, play with the kids, periodically watch our favorite shows together: Malcolm in the Middle, Arrested Development, and Third Watch (taped to save time).

We make it a point to go out on 2 dates, at least, a month with each other without the kids. We go Grand Prix racing, billiards (we're both pretty good, so it's a good challenge), movies (rarely this, though), all types of concerts, Broadway or other plays, eating out, making out in the car, talking in some quiet location, parties, dancing. It's nice to spend time without the kids.

Over the last 3 weeks, we saw Bela Fleck and the Flecktones (really good) and went to a semi-formal Holiday Enchantment. It was nice being super dressed and made up. We both looked great and had a pretty good time dancing, etc.

We do a lot of stuff as a family. We go to museums, train rides, Science center, arts festivals, carnivals, movies, the park to play, walking all over the place, day trips, the zoo, very seldom the mall, out to eat, visiting people, Nursing home to visit the friends we've made over the past few years, lots of other things.