How do you know if

[Teal]

your relationship is gods will.
I have been seeing a girl for a while now, and things are going great.
Well anyway for us to have even met, a long list of abnormal things have happend just for us to have even met.

 

[Koop]

Read "knowing God's will" and "Should I get Married" by M Blaine Smith. Both very good recources. I recomend them highly.

 

[LadyBird]

Have you been praying long and hard about it? Can you see yourself with her for the rest of your life...even when she is grumpy and you guys fight? Do you feel it is right? Do you get along? Have you had the chance to get to know each other really well? Do you honestly think that she is the right girl for you? What do you feel God is telling you? How do you feel about your relationship...do you feel at peace? Do you feel your "conscience" leading you one way or another?

Those are just some of the questions that you should think about. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and sometimes its hard to know what God's will is. Pary long and hard about it...in time things will be revealed to you...just be patient and trust in Him.

 

[JahRawks]

Amen to what Belle said, if it's God's will things will just work out, I met my girlfriend through some really abnormal circumstances, at least for me anyway, I met her online, after I told myself I'd never date anyone I met online, and ever since then, God's just put things in place for us to be together, and for us to feel right about it, you juts need to commit yourself to her, and to prayer, and you'll be fine, just follow what you feel God is telling you in your heart, and like Belle said, are you commited to being with her, through fights, through sickness, through everything this world throws at you. Hope this helps. God Bless-
Nathan

 

[Katty]

I think something that is really important is that you know who you are apart from being so-and-so's boyfriend/girlfriend. The moment that you lose who you are individually, I think that marks for a problem. God places people in our lives as gifts and blessings, but He's also made us individuals to find and define ourselves in Him. When we begin to define who we are solely on who we're with, we tend to forget what the base of a relationship is... God. To recite what Belle said, pray long about it... but you have to be open to the fact that maybe this isn't it.

~Katty~

 

[LadyBird]

I like what Katty said! And Jahrawks is right...things will fall into place and you just know.

 

[Warrior Poet]

I dont think you ever fully know.....love and who you are with is a choice....but there can be guidence that is God given pro and con for your realtionship....He trusts us and our judgement enough to allow us that choice. He is so cool.

Warrior Poet

 

[Katty]

I agree with WP on that. I believe that God places people into our lives and whether they're meant to be there for a lifetime or just a season, they all have a purpose in shaping who we ultimately end up becoming. I do believe that to a certain extent it is possible to know somewhat of if your relationship is in God's will because I believe that when you fully are within God's will and you allow Him to be the center of your life and your relationship, He unfolds the desires of your heart to you... and if you're truly within His will, the desires of His heart become the desires of your heart. Allowing Him to chart your course, however, is a personal choice that you have to make.

~Katty~

 

[Unquenchable]

I can remember going through exactly the same thoughts only recently...

The things I have learnt since then...

The closer we are to God (in relationship with him) the easier it is to discern what His will is in different circumstances.

and; that (although this isnt an excuse to make stupid decisions without prayer) God blesses us, even through our mistakes and I feel that if both of you know you love each other and God, and both want to move into marriage, then He will bless that decision. If you both put God first and the other second, that should be enough to base your marriage on.

I am not married, and when I was asking myself the same questions you are, I took a month off work and spent a lot of time in prayer and fasted. My relationship with God blossomed and I felt at peace with knowing sometimes no answer from God in prayer, is sometimes in fact, an answer.

I would encourage you to talk with your girlfriend about it and trust in your love for each other and spend time in prayer, drawing yourselves closer to God.

Long- winded answer, I know... but I hope it helps.

 

[charligirl]

Read "knowing God's will" and "Should I get Married" by M Blaine Smith. Both very good recources. I recomend them highly.

Couldn't agree more!! Fab books!

 

[LN]

love and who you are with is a choice

YES, YES, YES!

Because when you are married, things don't always go so well. And you can't say "well things aren't going well so this isn't God's will."

Based on many verses in the bible God wants us to follow Him and work to glorify Him every day. He wants us to avoid sin and look to Him under all circumstances. When looking for a mate I think its important to look for charicterisics and traits in the other person that can a.) help you move in the direction of glorifying God and avoiding sin and b.) does the same him or herself. Look for someone who treats others with respect all the time, who respects their parents, and loves the Lord.

There are hundreds, probably thousands of people in the world who could fit that description for each person. Beyond that its a choice. This is the important part. You choose who you marry and you make that decision no matter what happens. I reccomend choosing someone who shares your philisophical view on life, shares your view on kids, and shares your view on finances (since that is one of the leading causes of divorce).

LN