How do you handle rejection, especially rejection by those who are near and dear to us?
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How do you handle rejection?
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WeakButHopeful
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Well, I can't say that I have been rejected by those nearest and dearest to me (yet) but I certainly have experienced rejection in my life. I have two thoughts about it which I will share, but hopefully others will be able to help more.
First, in my experience there are different reasons for rejection. I can remember times when I could (at least in hindsight) trace the reason to my own immaturity or mistakes I had made in the relationship. Other times the rejection seemed to be a falling away from each other because either the other person or I was changing so much. Still other times the rejection seemed to be almost irrational, because there appeared to be no warning signs and the end came abruptly. How I have handled the rejection has depended on which situation it was, and on my emotional/spiritual maturity and general state of mind at the time. I've heard it said that insecurity leads to anxiety which leads either to hostility or depression, and there's nothing like rejection to shoot the insecurity levels way up there. Of course prayer is fundamental. Jesus spent his life being rejected, and he would often go to a deserted place and pray (Luke 5:16). Depending on how deeply this is affecting you, I would suggest talking this over with someone you trust or perhaps counseling.
The second thought I had was about the Parable of the Prodigal Son. The father was first rejected by one son who felt he wasn't dying fast enough (he wanted his estate NOW) and later was rejected by the other son as an unfair old fool. And yet he opened his arms wide to both and loved them deeply. I don't know how applicable this is to your situation, but perhaps you can find inspiration and graces by reading and meditating on that parable.
May God bless you, mrstace.
First, in my experience there are different reasons for rejection. I can remember times when I could (at least in hindsight) trace the reason to my own immaturity or mistakes I had made in the relationship. Other times the rejection seemed to be a falling away from each other because either the other person or I was changing so much. Still other times the rejection seemed to be almost irrational, because there appeared to be no warning signs and the end came abruptly. How I have handled the rejection has depended on which situation it was, and on my emotional/spiritual maturity and general state of mind at the time. I've heard it said that insecurity leads to anxiety which leads either to hostility or depression, and there's nothing like rejection to shoot the insecurity levels way up there. Of course prayer is fundamental. Jesus spent his life being rejected, and he would often go to a deserted place and pray (Luke 5:16). Depending on how deeply this is affecting you, I would suggest talking this over with someone you trust or perhaps counseling.
The second thought I had was about the Parable of the Prodigal Son. The father was first rejected by one son who felt he wasn't dying fast enough (he wanted his estate NOW) and later was rejected by the other son as an unfair old fool. And yet he opened his arms wide to both and loved them deeply. I don't know how applicable this is to your situation, but perhaps you can find inspiration and graces by reading and meditating on that parable.
May God bless you, mrstace.
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endure
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i think one key to handling rejection is to understand that you only serve one master and that is God, no one else can really ever treat as you REALLY really ought to be treated, and you cant expect it out of them becuase they arent perfect and you have to compassion and understanding for them anyway.
but you dont serve them, you serve the Lord, and no matter what people say or do, just know what your doing and why, keep your focus on Christ and serving him and him alone if need be, and KEEP ON WALKING.
its a hard process and life, but youll be fine if you just keep on walking, maybe just baby steps, but no matter what, keep on walking.
but you dont serve them, you serve the Lord, and no matter what people say or do, just know what your doing and why, keep your focus on Christ and serving him and him alone if need be, and KEEP ON WALKING.
its a hard process and life, but youll be fine if you just keep on walking, maybe just baby steps, but no matter what, keep on walking.
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I have recently been rejected and done unfairly(I feel) by some loved ones who were really close and dear to me(my best friends of 15 & 6 years). I was really down today saying that I don't deserve this treatment. You know what God spoke to me? He said to me "I didn't deserve being crucified on the cross and rejected by my people, and I don't deserve the way people reject me today!" Now that is DEEP!
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This is true. God, we often forget (or at least I do anyway) completly understands rejection, so he does understand what we go through when we face rejection.Gift_of_God said:
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You are always accepted and loved in Jesus. That confidence helps me handle rejection.
Eph 1:6
6 To the praise of the glory of his grace, wherein he hath made us accepted in the beloved.
KJV
Eph 1:6
6 To the praise of the glory of his grace, wherein he hath made us accepted in the beloved.
KJV
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