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Maybe it would, but it would not change a single word in my or your Bible. We keep loooking within the context of ourselves for advice when the word of God transcends the pettyness of our lives. The word of God fixes everything if we dare to apply it.cazza said:desi you should read my thread in the womens discussion about "the other woman" it may enlighten you more.
That is good then, I have always put my kids first, and I left them everything.cazza said:I know oldrooster but the house and its yard is too big for me to look after and my hubbie is going to fix up a few things in order to sell and pay me out.
I wan't to make a fresh start and he is going to pay child support.
You would have made a good pharasee.....that is a crock as well, I prayed till my knees wore out and God did absolutly nothing to save my marrage....desi said:Maybe it would, but it would not change a single word in my or your Bible. We keep loooking within the context of ourselves for advice when the word of God transcends the pettyness of our lives. The word of God fixes everything if we dare to apply it.
oldrooster said:You would have made a good pharasee.....
Praying is good but praying while acting to subvert the cause you pray for doesn't help much. Oldrooster, based on what I've read of your posts you are compassionate towards others and you feel strongly your alcoholism contributed to your failed marriage. I take issue with this because marriage is God's creation, when one party leaves it for any reason other than a guy leaving a cheating wife the person leaving is wrong.oldrooster said:that is a crock as well, I prayed till my knees wore out and God did absolutly nothing to save my marrage....
My name was brought up in a desparaging way, if a man wants to fight you you've got to oblige...rainyday said:desi, you sure sound like you're trying to make this out to be cazza's fault, not her husband's. Unless you haven't been reading ... it's her HUSBAND who's initiating the separation and has HOMOSEXUAL issues.
Why do you have to attempt to spin everything against the women? I'm surprised you're even married because you do not seem to merely just 'like' women. What you've written, consistently throughout many threads in many forums, keeps striking me as if you despise women and women are the blame for everything.
I second sarah marie ... leave cazza's thread alone.
Cazza......I hope your marriage can work out. Miracles do happen. But some practical advice, since your husband has initiated this, and has told you what he's told you. If you do want it to work, and you do have any hope left that God can heal this....accept his decision with smiles and grace, telling him it's not what you want, but you'll survive it. Keep your dignity. Men don't come back to women, because the wife can't live without them. They come back to women who can. He'll never know what he's losing, if it always remains an option. From what you've said, you've done everything right. Don't let him see you sweat, whether you're sopping wet the moment he leaves. Don't cry and don't beg. A marriage based on pity or obligation or guilt is not a marriage he'd stay in for long, even if he returned. Hold your head up and live. Follow God, for He will sustain you. Your husband is responsible for this and he will have to face what he's done. He will have to be the leader and be a man, if he wants to change what he's done. If not, you've done all you can and you've kept your grace and dignity and relationship with God. He can't take your strength, and he can't take Whom your strength is in. If your marriage is to survive, the ball is in his court not yours.cazza said:desi
How can you have a marriage if the love is one sided. My Husband tells me that he hasn't loved me for 2 yrs, not only that, he is confused about his sexuality. I realy do feel that the passive approach is best for now. We both need some space, he to resolve his confusion and me a reprieve from the hurt.
The Lord told me to "wait" and to "trust". waiting doesn't mean I'm going to do nothing, I am going to wait on the Lord and trust that He has a plan for both my Husband and me.
thankyou desi for your sometimes tough love.
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