I was in a relationship and we bothed worked at the same job together. I had just been out of a long discouraging relationship before and wasn't exactly ready for something new. I went through a nasty "phase" where I was irritated and treated him badly. I pushed him away and never really shared my true feelings with him. But the biggest thing he is holding over my head is the fact that I showed everyone at work more respect and I was nicer to our coworkers than I was to him. This is true.... and I accept and apoogized for my faults. But he refuses to forgive me. He says that I hurt him because of the way I acted and that he'll never be able to forgive me. What can I possibly do to gain forgiveness? I know I cannot change him or the way he thinks...
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How do you gain forgiveness?
- Thread starter jaded
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mathias1979
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Treat him nicely now? That's really the only way you can show him that you're truely sorry and that you've changed. If he still doesn't forgive you, I don't think there's really anything you can do. But pray, because what you can't do, God can and sometimes does.
-Matt
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You can't make him forgive you but you can make him feel bad for not forgiving you by being nice to him and not defending yourself. When he says you were mean to him, reply that you were horrible to him and you don't blame him if he never forgives you. By berating yourself he won't have anywhere to go. In doing this you flip things so he'll be inclined to be nice to you.
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