How do you feel about birth control?

LuxPerpetua said:

What are your thoughts: Do you think that a couple should only have sex for procreation, or is non-procreative sex a healthy part of a marriage? Is artificial birth control (the pill, IUD's, condoms, etc.) morally fine, or are only natural methods (like natural family planning, coitus interruptus, etc.) moral ways of limiting conception?

Being female, this is kind of important to me, but I'm too embarrassed to ask any of my real life Christian friends.

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Hi My wife and i did not use any birth control for two years before she got pregnant the first time. Now she seems to be really fruitful. We are having her tubes tyed after this one (our second). The desicion to do so was mostly motivated by myself. I prayed for wisdom and that is what i felt in my heart ot do. Also i am 43 and she is 27.. As a minister salary is a big issue and providing for my family.

I do not believe in the pill or the others for health reasons alone and the only safe way is to use condoms.. I believ we should pray an ask God when we should have children and use wisdom and common sense..

Why would birth control be immoral? I don't understand that concept.

bigat said:

Why would birth control be immoral? I don't understand that concept.

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those who believe such are firm believers in the scriptual admonition to be fruitful and multiply. Also i think there are some who believe sex is solely for procreation(what a empty marriage).. In todays economic world and considering my calling I believe in using wisom..

In today's world it seems unreasonable for couples to not use birth control. I personally find it sinful when someone has more children than they can adequately provide for. Putting children through conditions of poverty is awful, to make them suffer like that, especially when we no longer live in a society that has the urgent need to continue pro-creating. Over population!

Also, some women may endanger their health if they have children, or if they have more children, especially if they've delivered by C section multiple times. It just seems like a matter of commonsense to me. I don't think sex is just for the creation of children, but also pleasureable and a symbol of deep love for your husband or wife.

I understand why some think it's an abomination, but I simply disagree. I think not using birth control had it's time and place in history, especially biblical history, but that time has passed.

Also, there is natural family planning, which I fully support and think is a great alternative to aritifical birth control methods. It's a method I myself plan to use when I'm married. I just think for other women, it should be an option, and I see nothing wrong with it. I'd rather they use birth control than place a burden on society by having children they can't afford, and God forbid, cannot properly raise in a loving, psychologically sound home.

LuxPerpetua said:

The other issue, besides whether to use birth control or not, is what TYPE of birth control to use. The pill, for instance, can in some circumstances cause your body to abort the baby--or so I've heard. Some people I know view birth control methods, especially using condoms, as deceiving your body since the [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] never enters into the woman physically. Birth control pills also are seen by some as deceptive since they trick a woman's body into thinking it is pregnant and not ovulating. The pull-out method, I've heard some Christians argue, is against God's condemnation of "spilling your seed upon the ground." I dunno. It's all very confusing, which is why I like to talk about this issue with other Christians, male and female, to see how you feel about these things.

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Well the pull out method as you describe it is no guarantee, as just sperm on the penis can fertilize. There is the rythm method if your period is regular also. I would not feel guilty about using any method but the pill and iud etc that you are putting in your body can cause ovarian cancer and other female problems.

Are you getting married soon??

I personally take the Bible literally, and also believe God gave us all the info we need in His Word, so we don't have to rely on 'feelings'. (Jer:17:9: The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?)

So, I did a scripture search, and came up with:

Gen:35:11: And God said unto him, I am God Almighty: be fruitful and multiply; a nation and a company of nations shall be of thee, and kings shall come out of thy loins;

Mal:2:15: And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.

Gen:1:28: And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.

Gen:9:1: And God blessed Noah and his sons, and said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth

Gen:28:3: And God Almighty bless thee, and make thee fruitful, and multiply thee, that thou mayest be a multitude of people;

Lev:26:9: For I will have respect unto you, and make you fruitful, and multiply you, and establish my covenant with you.

Ps:128:3: Thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house: thy children like olive plants round about thy table.

Jer:23:3: And I will gather the remnant of my flock out of all countries whither I have driven them, and will bring them again to their folds; and they shall be fruitful and increase.

Ps:127:3: Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.

So I conclude that God likes children, wants and expects us to have children... and would even go so far as to say when we try to prevent children, we are denying the Lord's heritage and rewards (see the last verse quoted).

On the other hand, I don't think children are the only reason for marriage relations (see Gen:26:8: And it came to pass, when he had been there a long time, that Abimelech king of the Philistines looked out at a window, and saw, and, behold, Isaac was sporting with Rebekah his wife. and Song of Soloman).

So my hubby and I get together whenever we feel like it, and God sends us children whenever He feels like it (Isa:44:24: Thus saith the LORD, thy redeemer, and he that formed thee from the womb, I am the LORD that maketh all things; that stretcheth forth the heavens alone; that spreadeth abroad the earth by myself).

On the third hand, I understand that not everyone (very few, in fact) interprets the Bible the same way as I do... I've not always done so, myself, so I can say I didn't like the way the Pill affected my emotions, I don't like the way condoms feel (cut down on the intimacy for us), and I think permenant solutions are often regretted, IUD's often perform "mini-abortions", and other methods aren't as effective. (I was on the pill - 3 diff brands - and we used condoms before changing our outlook.)

Hope this helped with both parts of your question.

I myself could never take the pill because of how sick it makes me feel so I know where you're coming from Henhouse as far as that goes!