How Do You Cope When You've Lost Everything?

[Lisa*Lisa]

How do you deal with it? We are on the verge of loosing everything. My husband and I have been honest hard working people. We put our entire live savings into our home, a total of 200k cash, and have spent the last 5 years remodeling it from top to bottom. This is our home, but also our retirement fund as we planned on selling it later on as the real estate market continued to grow.

Everybody said that real estate was the safest place to put your money, so we figured it was safe. Well, everyone knows now that it was the worst place to put your money. We live in florida, and the market collapsed and all of our 200k equity that we put down is now gone. We still have a mortgage on it, a 30 year fixed mortage, that we can no longer pay because our business has also tanked. So, we are going into default with the mortgage probably next month, so they will foreclose in a few months.

It's been on the market for 1 year, and we can't even get 1 offer. There are millions of foreclosures here, that are so much cheaper, so I can't compete with them.

I now believe we still owe more on it then it's worth, which I never thought possible since we put 200k down on it, our entire live savings, every penny that we have to our name.

Our perfect credit will also be shattered, and we don't have enough money for a downpayment on another home anyway. So, we will basically be homeless when they foreclose, with no where to go, except for a rental if we can find one.

My husband will get social security in another 10 months, so we can use that for a rental, but this is the most painful thing I"ve ever been through in my life, and I"ve been through some really terrible situations.

I sit and cry most days, and can't focus enough to even read a book or do anything. I feel like i"m on the verge of a nervous breakdown. I think about suicide alot, and my husband also, but we can't do it because of our 2 dogs and my elderly mother, there would be nobody to take care of them.

I pray about 20 times a day to God, have been for months, and so far He has not sent a buyer for our home and I don't know why. Why isn't He helping me? Why? I"m still trying so hard to have faith, but each day is getting harder and harder when your whole life is crumbling and falling apart right before your own eyes, and none of it is due to anything that you did wrong. We are responsible, honest hard working people. We didn't deserve this.

How can I continue to have faith? How can I cope? I just don't know anymore.

 

[Willseeker]

I kept looking in at your post, hoping to find advice given to you... None so far. I realised that one thing worse than bad advice, is no advice at all...

This is the point where i can only hope that you feel comforted with the fact that when there's nothing else you can do, is to keep on keeping on. Yes, sometimes its very hard to keep the faith when something better, doesn't seem to be lying on the horison, but one thing i've been told once (and have held onto ever since), is that we can't turn against God when life seems hopeless, because without God... IT IS.

Circumstances seem bad (valley of the shadow of death), but keep your focus on God...according to Matt 6:33

"But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you."

He will NEVER abandon you, when things go wrong for us, its because He's got a better plan... JUST HOLD ON.

 

[savedbygracebre]

I pray that your situation improves. Some things do stand out in your post however. Could it have been possible that it was not in God's will to put your entire life savings into one thing? That's a very bold thing to do-even if something is a can't miss situation it is never good to take all of your life savings and
invest it in one thing. Think Enron. What's done is done-enough said. Turn to the Lord-seek His guidance-and follow His plan this time. God even talks about the sparrows and the birds of the air, how they don't worry, God always provides for them. You are CERTAINLY worth more to God than them. Lay not treasures on earth, but in heaven. For where you put your faith into is what matters to God.

 

[Peripatetic]

My advice would not be to dwell on your past decisions or play the "what if" game. You have every reason to grieve the loss of your beloved home, and your old way of life. It won't be easy, but try to set your expectations on the life ahead. It won't be easy (especially at first), but you will adjust. Think of it as God's mission for you. Some people go on mission trips to Africa our South America and live in worse conditions than you will be. This is your mission... to adjust to your new standard of living, while still holding true to your faith. With that as your goal, you can surely succeed!

 

[Lisa*Lisa]

Thanks for the words of encouragement, I really do appreciate it. I"m trying really hard to look at this like a challenge, but it's just so hard to do. Today, my job is to list things to try and sell on ebay and craigs list to try and come up with some money to buy a trailer or something to live in when they take our home because finding a rental that we can afford with 2 big dogs is going to be impossible. Our income is very little now that the business is just about gone and there are no jobs here. We even thought that we might have to put the dogs down if we can't find a place to live, but if that were to happen, I would have no will to live left because they are my children.

I'm listing my husbands motorcycle which was his most loved possession. He worked so hard to buy it, and now it's going to be gone. Unless you've lived through something like this, you really can't even grasp the devastation and humiliation. Death would be a relief, it really would be. I can't even eat anymore, and I just cry most all of the time.

Thanks for listening to me vent. I know nobody here can help me, but just writing it down and trying to sort out my feelings helps a little bit. I just don't understand why God is allowing this to happen.

 

[Aibrean]

Take the book of Job into consideration. You are still alive and your husband is still alive.

My pastor's Easter sermon was on Job. He said,

Engrave this in your mind. Here is a man that has been stripped of all wealth, prestige and earthly comfort; a man covered in burning, itching pustules form his head to his toe and yet full of hope that the same body will one day live again and see God. Job's testimony was engraved forever so that you may learn from Job what it means to live in hope. It means to be helplessly thrown onto the arms of resurrection.

[FONT=&quot] As if this story were not wonderful enough, consider that Job lived 2000 years before the resurrection of Jesus Christ and yet he knew and lived in resurrection hope. He knew that he would not be in graved forever and so he had engraved forever on his stone, this testimony, in my flesh I shall see God. Job believed that the same eyes that would be closed in death would be opened and that his eyes, not someone else's but his eyes would see the One true and living God.

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[ub4me]

I lost my house, I know what you are going through.

Grace is the only answer

NLT
2Cr 12:9 And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

2Cr 12:10 Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong.

He will see you through...

 

[Thankful For Grace]

Beloved,

When God allows us to be stripped of everything earthly it is to clear away the dross so that we can see far into eternity.

Grieve the losses, but just for a moment. Refuse to give the enemy ground to place doubt in your heart. Raise your eyes heavenward and see your Savior. Seek in the midst of this sorrow to know God, alone, and not the gifts He gives.

You will come through this time of tribulation with great faith and victory, if you keep your eyes on Jesus and not on your circumstances. Nothing you are losing can go into heaven with you, dear. I pray that you will be able to calm your heart and focus on eternity, and that you may keep your dogs as a comfort, here on earth.

tfg

 

[Autumnleaf]

Its happening to people all over the country. Many of them don't have social security to look forward to in 10 months. Make a list of things you have to be grateful for and it should help with your perspective on things. Yes, what you are going through is hard. Its also beyond your control. Look for faith in the Lord and gratitude for what you still have. I suspect you have more than you might think you do.

 

[wayfaring man]

Dear Lisa x2 ,

Sorry to hear of your tough time .

I'm wondering if you shouldn't lower your asking price until you do get an offer ... even if you only get half , or less than what you've invested , isn't that better than the bank taking it by default ? ( I'm under the impression that if the bank / mortgage co. takes it , you get nothing )

Additionally , if you've been upright overall , then this difficult time is not a consequence of wrongdoing , and for that , one should take heart , because if indeed this is an unfair turn of events , and trust in The Lord is present with you + your husband , then like with Job , it is reasonable to expect that God will turn things around , so that you'll be even better off , for having endured this difficult time .

Do not entertain thoughts of suicide , for such thoughts can turn to an obsession which is as an unclean spirit trying to undo our hope and faith in Christ .

Woe is me for my hurt! my wound is grievous: but I said, Truly this is a grief, and I must bear it. <-----> Jeremiah 10:19

Rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer; <-----> Romans 12:2

Now our Lord Jesus Christ himself, and God, even our Father, which hath loved us, and hath given us everlasting consolation and good hope through grace,
Comfort your hearts, and establish you in every good word and work. <-----> 2nd Thessalonians 2:16+17

May The Lord guide and comfort you through these troubles , and give you the love + peace within which is founded in Christ's Steadfastness . Amen .

wm

 

[znr]

3 years ago I was assaulted and beat. I lost total and complete use of both shoulders; they were both literally, and I mean literally, locked to the point I had almost no use of them - and for them for that matter. They had became like useless things hanging from my body. The pain was horrifying and it went on like this for a year. 3 months into this ordeal I had to have my most beloved cat in the world put down because he, seemingly out of the blue, got brain cancer. And of course I lost my job - and then had to move in with my mother ...

Mother (read Mommie Dearest) and I never got along prior to these injuries. And yet there I was, at her mercy. The only thing she didn't do was wipe my -
I was at the mercy of everyone for every little last thing, for a year. For a year I laid in bed suffering like Job. I wanted to die, only I knew that dying at my own hands would be worse than what I was going through already.

During this time I actually read the book of Job. I understood nothing about it and it all seemed so gloomy so I cried to whomever would listen; I somehow managed to drive myself to church (thank God I wasn't pulled over and thank God no one was killed in the process of me driving in this condition). At church I got prayed for, over and over again. At night in bed, I weeped and moaned and travailed--the anguish of not even being able to pound my fists was excrutiating.

I was totally and utterly completely at the mercy of this "God" who calls himself "loving". And believe me when I tell you I wallowed in the pain of "why" and suffered the torment of what appeared to be unanswered prayer for healing and deliverance from these trials.

For a year I just laid in bed and watched movies. The only thing ones that brought any comfort whatsover were family movies - and so I started to notice the dynamic of what in particular it was that comforted me on a deeper level. In retrospect, God was whispering to me to trust Goodness - a goodness that could only (come from God) which by the world's economy and opinion couldn't be good since I was suffering so - but deep down under the pain I KNEW BETTER and I KNEW God had His eye on me, and I made the decision to hang on, minute by minute - crying and weeping and hurting with each second. I started to fight for the right to live, the right to get better, the right to know God, and the right to give myself the chance to find out how it was going to all work together for good.

It seems like my story is about me...but it's about you too. It's about perserverence and determination. But mostly it's about the absolute miraculous transformation God is about to do in you if you stand before him willingly. So often this can only only come during horrible times of trial and suffering. No, I wouldn't have said this while I was suffering - I might have pretended to agree and then in the next breath muttered under the same breath ugly curses when you weren't noticing.

Well, to make this shorter, I'll skip right to the part where God returned my health and my finances back to me. With only $600 in my bank account, God, in His infinite arsenal of God like tricks, took that meager amount and within 1 month I had $10,000. Then the next month I had $10,000 more. This lasted up until this past Oct, when, my little business started dying.

God took the most unlikely, the least of the least, and entrusted her with all that money! one of the least of us!

And I have to tell you that I was overwhelmed by the success - so I started giving it away out of guilt and fear of having too much - and now I have, once again, nothing. I guess that's another story but it ties in to the work that God so wants to do in my life - and in your life. He wants to talk to you, to burn off the things that He doesn't want in you. Will you hate me for saying that? I hope that you find hope in my sharing. God wants to do something in your life and I urge you to bow down before Him and let Him have his way with you, even in pain, even in sorrow. He wants to be your comforter during the horrible times and during the best of times. Oh how that lesson so deeply hurts and challenges our entire existence. I know ...

Yes, I have no money, and I barely have a place to live, but God is transforming my will and I am finally, finally, seeing that his plan for me is His. My ways are not His. My heart is being softened; my will is being broken. And, I know that God will once again allow me to use my talents to survive and even prosper.

He wants to get down into those deep places that we, as humans, hide in order to feel secure. And it bloody hurts like hell, doesn't it?

I will tell you that I'm doing better these days in most ways. I was only dimly aware while God was transforming me. Answers to prayers prayed long ago are being answered, questions are being answered, but only as much as I need. God has a way of being God despire our will.

But He loves us so much and every detail he cares about. One of my silly little prayers to God was to somehow, some way, have $100,000. And God granted me that little detail and then some. I thought I wanted it. Money is something we have to have, but as it turns out, it's the least of God's economy. I'm finding grace; God's specific grace not just for my life, but also showing me His love for other people - something I was unable to grasp - it had always eluded me. His grace for me - and for others.

And as it turns out, the biggest gift in that money He gave me was not for me, but for others - to show other people encouragement...not by giving them the money...but by sharing with them the ideas to create their own money. You see, God never asked me to give away that money. But how could I have known how to hear the voice of God were it not for both his grace and by experience? trial and error.

I hope this doesn't come across as arogance, it's just I'm unable to truly communicate every nuance and detail so that my heart is bare naked. It has been amazing to watch as God has used me despite myself, one of the least of us, to encourage other people. And in that willingness I've experienced the grace of God to carry on. He's shown me my talents and shown me that they're useless outside His will. And then He's encouraged me to purse Him above all, and in more wrestling and little trials shown me that every desire of my heart will come from Him according to His riches. He's shown me that often my dreams were hollow and empty - and He's shown me that some of them were exactly what He ordered, but that outside His will...I would always ever simply find just a shadow of my dreams. But God hasn't dumped me off in a circle - and has provided the escape route from this madness. But that is another thing.

What can I say to you that could possibly comfort you? maybe just for a moment you can find comfort in part of my story and then God will comfort you in the next moment with someone elses story, or a smile from a perfect stranger, and in all the little ways. I guess that it's in this way that we find God. Moment by moment.

You pain and anguish is temporary. It really is. Why you're going through this is only something God can know. But I can tell you that I have stood where you are several times and been on my face, carpet dirty, before the throne room.

Find little ways to find comfort. Pray for others in your greatest pain; so often God has met me while in pain and praying for others. Play music that comforts you. Grab your husbands hand and stand in agreement, where two or more are gathered. Throw your arms around the dogs and speak mercy over them, over you, over your family. Give yourself breaks, the right to not question the why's - and just exist in the pain with God at your side. Sometimes it comes down to being broken before God - and that's as good as we can expect for the time being.

I would love read to the outcome of this part of your story, Lisa. Please share that with us one day.

I'll pray for you too along with everyone else here.

 

[BelovedLight]

Sweet Sister,

Though the fig tree does not bud
and there are no grapes on the vines,
though the olive crop fails and the fields produce no food,
though there are no sheep in the pen and no cattle in the stalls,
yet I will rejoice in the LORD,
I will be joyful in God my Savior.
The Sovereign LORD is my strength;
he makes my feet like the feet of a deer,
he enables me to go on the heights.
Habakkuk 3:17-19

But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Phil 4:19

Please dont lose hope, our God is a mighty God. Believe and you shall receive.

 

[willowoak]

I'm sorry you're in such a tough place. I think all you can do at a time like this is say to yourselves, "We have each other, we're alive". It is terribly disappointing, devastating, to lose what you have built up. Cry, let the emotion out, and keep on keeping on. I hope in this situation God will show you where he is in all this though sometimes we don't see it until we are out the other end. He is there even if it's hard to tell sometimes. What do you think God would say to you at this time? The end of this time will come and you will rebuild. Hang in there.

 

[Lisa*Lisa]

Dear Lisa x2 ,

Sorry to hear of your tough time .

I'm wondering if you shouldn't lower your asking price until you do get an offer ... even if you only get half , or less than what you've invested , isn't that better than the bank taking it by default ? ( I'm under the impression that if the bank / mortgage co. takes it , you get nothing )

Additionally , if you've been upright overall , then this difficult time is not a consequence of wrongdoing , and for that , one should take heart , because if indeed this is an unfair turn of events , and trust in The Lord is present with you + your husband , then like with Job , it is reasonable to expect that God will turn things around , so that you'll be even better off , for having endured this difficult time .

Do not entertain thoughts of suicide , for such thoughts can turn to an obsession which is as an unclean spirit trying to undo our hope and faith in Christ .

Woe is me for my hurt! my wound is grievous: but I said, Truly this is a grief, and I must bear it. <-----> Jeremiah 10:19

Rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer; <-----> Romans 12:2

Now our Lord Jesus Christ himself, and God, even our Father, which hath loved us, and hath given us everlasting consolation and good hope through grace,
Comfort your hearts, and establish you in every good word and work. <-----> 2nd Thessalonians 2:16+17

May The Lord guide and comfort you through these troubles , and give you the love + peace within which is founded in Christ's Steadfastness . Amen .

wm

We have already lowered it 4 times over the last year, and still not even 1 offer. Our asking price now is just a little over what we owe on the mortgage. I believe we owe more on it then it's worth now as the market down here in florida has completely collapsed.

The banks, government and investors have caused this nightmare for honest hard working people. They destroyed the economy and the real estate market. They are responsible for our business tanking and they are responsible for us loosing all of the equity in our home and it falling below what we owe on it. They have ruined millions of lives and they got away with it.

It's a crime that unfortunately nobody will pay for, there is no justice in this world. There is no one criminal that I can take to court, point my finger at and say "You did this to me, and you will be accountable for is" because this mess was caused by the greedy wealthy powerful people, not the middle hard working class people like me who were just trying to have a little nest egg for their retirement. What's even worse, is that they are going to profit again from the suffering of the regular people. As the banks take people's homes, and sell them for very low prices, the investors and the wealthy buy them up, rent them out and ride the wave back up as real estate recovers. Then they will sell them for a profit and get even richer. The whole thing makes me physically ill.

 

[Lisa*Lisa]

3 years ago I was assaulted and beat. I lost total and complete use of both shoulders; they were both literally, and I mean literally, locked to the point I had almost no use of them - and for them for that matter. They had became like useless things hanging from my body. The pain was horrifying and it went on like this for a year. 3 months into this ordeal I had to have my most beloved cat in the world put down because he, seemingly out of the blue, got brain cancer. And of course I lost my job - and then had to move in with my mother ...

Mother (read Mommie Dearest) and I never got along prior to these injuries. And yet there I was, at her mercy. The only thing she didn't do was wipe my -
I was at the mercy of everyone for every little last thing, for a year. For a year I laid in bed suffering like Job. I wanted to die, only I knew that dying at my own hands would be worse than what I was going through already.

During this time I actually read the book of Job. I understood nothing about it and it all seemed so gloomy so I cried to whomever would listen; I somehow managed to drive myself to church (thank God I wasn't pulled over and thank God no one was killed in the process of me driving in this condition). At church I got prayed for, over and over again. At night in bed, I weeped and moaned and travailed--the anguish of not even being able to pound my fists was excrutiating.

I was totally and utterly completely at the mercy of this "God" who calls himself "loving". And believe me when I tell you I wallowed in the pain of "why" and suffered the torment of what appeared to be unanswered prayer for healing and deliverance from these trials.

For a year I just laid in bed and watched movies. The only thing ones that brought any comfort whatsover were family movies - and so I started to notice the dynamic of what in particular it was that comforted me on a deeper level. In retrospect, God was whispering to me to trust Goodness - a goodness that could only (come from God) which by the world's economy and opinion couldn't be good since I was suffering so - but deep down under the pain I KNEW BETTER and I KNEW God had His eye on me, and I made the decision to hang on, minute by minute - crying and weeping and hurting with each second. I started to fight for the right to live, the right to get better, the right to know God, and the right to give myself the chance to find out how it was going to all work together for good.

It seems like my story is about me...but it's about you too. It's about perserverence and determination. But mostly it's about the absolute miraculous transformation God is about to do in you if you stand before him willingly. So often this can only only come during horrible times of trial and suffering. No, I wouldn't have said this while I was suffering - I might have pretended to agree and then in the next breath muttered under the same breath ugly curses when you weren't noticing.

Well, to make this shorter, I'll skip right to the part where God returned my health and my finances back to me. With only $600 in my bank account, God, in His infinite arsenal of God like tricks, took that meager amount and within 1 month I had $10,000. Then the next month I had $10,000 more. This lasted up until this past Oct, when, my little business started dying.

God took the most unlikely, the least of the least, and entrusted her with all that money! one of the least of us!

And I have to tell you that I was overwhelmed by the success - so I started giving it away out of guilt and fear of having too much - and now I have, once again, nothing. I guess that's another story but it ties in to the work that God so wants to do in my life - and in your life. He wants to talk to you, to burn off the things that He doesn't want in you. Will you hate me for saying that? I hope that you find hope in my sharing. God wants to do something in your life and I urge you to bow down before Him and let Him have his way with you, even in pain, even in sorrow. He wants to be your comforter during the horrible times and during the best of times. Oh how that lesson so deeply hurts and challenges our entire existence. I know ...

Yes, I have no money, and I barely have a place to live, but God is transforming my will and I am finally, finally, seeing that his plan for me is His. My ways are not His. My heart is being softened; my will is being broken. And, I know that God will once again allow me to use my talents to survive and even prosper.

He wants to get down into those deep places that we, as humans, hide in order to feel secure. And it bloody hurts like hell, doesn't it?

I will tell you that I'm doing better these days in most ways. I was only dimly aware while God was transforming me. Answers to prayers prayed long ago are being answered, questions are being answered, but only as much as I need. God has a way of being God despire our will.

But He loves us so much and every detail he cares about. One of my silly little prayers to God was to somehow, some way, have $100,000. And God granted me that little detail and then some. I thought I wanted it. Money is something we have to have, but as it turns out, it's the least of God's economy. I'm finding grace; God's specific grace not just for my life, but also showing me His love for other people - something I was unable to grasp - it had always eluded me. His grace for me - and for others.

And as it turns out, the biggest gift in that money He gave me was not for me, but for others - to show other people encouragement...not by giving them the money...but by sharing with them the ideas to create their own money. You see, God never asked me to give away that money. But how could I have known how to hear the voice of God were it not for both his grace and by experience? trial and error.

I hope this doesn't come across as arogance, it's just I'm unable to truly communicate every nuance and detail so that my heart is bare naked. It has been amazing to watch as God has used me despite myself, one of the least of us, to encourage other people. And in that willingness I've experienced the grace of God to carry on. He's shown me my talents and shown me that they're useless outside His will. And then He's encouraged me to purse Him above all, and in more wrestling and little trials shown me that every desire of my heart will come from Him according to His riches. He's shown me that often my dreams were hollow and empty - and He's shown me that some of them were exactly what He ordered, but that outside His will...I would always ever simply find just a shadow of my dreams. But God hasn't dumped me off in a circle - and has provided the escape route from this madness. But that is another thing.

What can I say to you that could possibly comfort you? maybe just for a moment you can find comfort in part of my story and then God will comfort you in the next moment with someone elses story, or a smile from a perfect stranger, and in all the little ways. I guess that it's in this way that we find God. Moment by moment.

You pain and anguish is temporary. It really is. Why you're going through this is only something God can know. But I can tell you that I have stood where you are several times and been on my face, carpet dirty, before the throne room.

Find little ways to find comfort. Pray for others in your greatest pain; so often God has met me while in pain and praying for others. Play music that comforts you. Grab your husbands hand and stand in agreement, where two or more are gathered. Throw your arms around the dogs and speak mercy over them, over you, over your family. Give yourself breaks, the right to not question the why's - and just exist in the pain with God at your side. Sometimes it comes down to being broken before God - and that's as good as we can expect for the time being.

I would love read to the outcome of this part of your story, Lisa. Please share that with us one day.

I'll pray for you too along with everyone else here.

Wow, that's a powerful story, thanks for sharing it. I guess you did feel like Job, I kind of do right now too. My entire life has been one of suffering, trials and tribulations. I just don't understand why some people experience so much pain, and other people seem to live these wonderful care free lives and nothing bad ever happens to them. Have you ever wondered that too? I don't understand it. The good people seem to suffer, I just don't get it. I look at people I know, my family for example. The nicest ones are the ones who get all of the troubles. The meanest ones are the ones who have it easy and are riding high.

 

[Lisa*Lisa]

Thanks to everyone that has posted, even if I didn't respond, I've read all of the comments and I feel the love here. Thank you so much.

My husband is an agnostic, who is coming around to starting to think that there might be a god. I've been working on him for 10 years. So, he is not a support for me, I have to hold him up, and I can barely hold myself up. My husband is a very hard working decent man, very proud. Maybe god is trying to crush his pride for some reason, I"ve thought of that before. I don't know.

 

[heron]

We've been through something similar, and it seemed like life would just keep spiraling down forever. But God sustained us through it, and we can't figure out how. Just little by little, things were restored.

Debts were forgiven, things we needed appeared, situations opened up for us. God is good.

You ask why your house hasn't sold -- besides the obvious market situation, consider that God might want you to keep your house. The devaluation is not a constant. You have only lost money when the house is no longer yours. Right now, you still have it. Eventually the market will go back up.

Is there any way you can think of prolonging the foreclosure?
Rent a room in it? Rent the whole house, while you live somewhere else? Rent it to filmmakers?

 

[ChildOfGod97]

I sit and cry most days, and can't focus enough to even read a book or do anything. I feel like i"m on the verge of a nervous breakdown. I think about suicide alot, and my husband also, but we can't do it because of our 2 dogs and my elderly mother, there would be nobody to take care of them.

I pray about 20 times a day to God, have been for months, and so far He has not sent a buyer for our home and I don't know why. Why isn't He helping me? Why? I"m still trying so hard to have faith, but each day is getting harder and harder when your whole life is crumbling and falling apart right before your own eyes, and none of it is due to anything that you did wrong. We are responsible, honest hard working people. We didn't deserve this.

Your real estate market is poor. So, you can't sell your house. A miracle would be to sell one's house at a higher price then what anyone else around there is asking... means what? Someone is being ripped off, your buyer.

We are in difficult financial straits here. We have never gone without shelter or food. In the worst case scenario, we have agreed to remain happy. Even if we have to live in a trailer home, we have agreed we will be happy and love each other.

We make jokes about building a log cabin and living off fish.

What anyone has is not outside their hearts. It is inside the heart.

When people say otherwise, God lets them go and compare the difference, so eventually they learn... Heaven is not in a house, nor in a career, it is not in some drug, but it is in the heart and can not be bought nor earned.

When people even try to earn Heaven after already having it, their joy goes away.


Find that within, and ask God for what is right and fair. You can not overprice your house and expect that to go through in prayer. That may require distance to see, but it is true. If you can afford the house, keep it, stay there stop trying to make money off it and wait for the market to get better.


Who is anyone to say the house won't recoup the value in ten years or twenty years?

If you must sell, make the price on the market value, take the lose, and get on with your life. Life is not at all about career or money. And if you trust God to provide, then your retirement savings lose can be nothing. The Lord provides, but this requires trust.

Trust means nothing if it is never tested.

 

[Lisa*Lisa]

Your real estate market is poor. So, you can't sell your house. A miracle would be to sell one's house at a higher price then what anyone else around there is asking... means what? Someone is being ripped off, your buyer.

If you must sell, make the price on the market value, take the lose, and get on with your life. Life is not at all about career or money. And if you trust God to provide, then your retirement savings lose can be nothing. The Lord provides, but this requires trust.

Trust means nothing if it is never tested.

I"m NOT trying to "make money". I"ve already LOST 200k on it! The days of making money are OVER! Making money is a profit, and there is no profit here, it's a total loss. I"m trying to get a tiny bit over what the mortgage is so I can find another place to live!

 

[znr]

Wow, that's a powerful story, thanks for sharing it. I guess you did feel like Job, I kind of do right now too. My entire life has been one of suffering, trials and tribulations. I just don't understand why some people experience so much pain, and other people seem to live these wonderful care free lives and nothing bad ever happens to them. Have you ever wondered that too? I don't understand it. The good people seem to suffer, I just don't get it. I look at people I know, my family for example. The nicest ones are the ones who get all of the troubles. The meanest ones are the ones who have it easy and are riding high.

The ending of Job is the best not because Job gets everything back but because God puts Job back in his place when He asks 'Were you there when I made the world? If you know so much, tell me about it. ... Where were you when I created the earth? Tell me, since you know so much! ...' -- It just seems a bit pointless to compare ourselves with others' since we haven't ourselves created them and cannot possibly understand what is or isn't happening in their lives.

Let's make an agreement that in the next 48 hours we'll both go find a quiet peaceful place and thank God for the things we do have. Then let's pray together FOR each other. It doesn't have to be complicated or forced, just simple and sincere. There is so much power in prayer. I'm going right now.