How do I forgive my parents for committing suicide?

[AeonJ]

I have had adoptive parents that I am thankful for.

I feel like a glass cannon however.

Being strong and intelligent didn't prepare me for a long lost sibling unleashing an Emotional Pandora's Box.

My parents just abandoned their kids like the they were disposable having 10 because the government kept taking us away in groups.

They broke up. He killed himself and she did too because of him.

It's like they didn't have 10 other reasons to live and fight for.

Jesus says to forgive others to be forgiven. He is God and his Dad is God. It's easy for him to say when forsaken by his Dad.

Are there any examples in the Bible of regular people who were abandoned by their family for me to read and think about?

 

[ExodusKamman]

You can forgive them for not knowing what to do. You can forgive them for being upset for having lost you. You can forgive them for being weak, and for needing more help than they knew how to find. Someday, you'll be able to forgive them for the result of all these things, but for now, you can at least relate to and forgive the causes of it.

 

[whereloveandmercymeet]

I don’t have any examples for you (I’m not the best at quoting scripture, or remembering my shopping list). The one thing I would say is the bible does say to forgive, but it doesn’t say you have to do it instantly. It’s a process and it’s okay when something is dumped on you from a great height to need a while to actually understand it and forgive it. It’s harder when it’s something that you can’t put yourselves in their shoes or talk to them about because you can’t find out their reasons which usually at least help you understand how things happened.

I hope you do manage to get some answers somehow. Even if only in your heart. I’d try not to focus on the people who gave birth to you and for whatever reason gave you up, and focus on the people that loved you so much they chose you.

 

[EzekielsWheels]

I have had adoptive parents that I am thankful for.

I feel like a glass cannon however.

Being strong and intelligent didn't prepare me for a long lost sibling unleashing an Emotional Pandora's Box.

My parents just abandoned their kids like the they were disposable having 10 because the government kept taking us away in groups.

They broke up. He killed himself and she did too because of him.

It's like they didn't have 10 other reasons to live and fight for.

Jesus says to forgive others to be forgiven. He is God and his Dad is God. It's easy for him to say when forsaken by his Dad.

Are there any examples in the Bible of regular people who were abandoned by their family for me to read and think about?

Yes there are stories of varying kinds of familial betrayal and/or abandonment. Joseph was thrown in a pit and left to die by his brothers (Genesis 37:24). I actually recommend you read the story of Joseph. All of Job's children died and to top it all off his wife then comes to him and tells him to curse God and die (Job 2:9). Jesus' family wanted to put him away because they thought he was crazy (Mark 3:21). We must honor our parents so that it will go well with us (Ephesians 6:2). I think this can mean a lot of different things depending on the circumstances but at the very least I believe it means you must forgive them so it goes well with you. It's not even about your parents at all but you're bringing bad times (this is the best way I can think to put it) to yourself if you do not forgive them, it's kind of a law of sorts (but not the law if you know what I mean). If you can't forgive them then pray that you be made willing to forgive them. God can do anything; he's God.

 

[EzekielsWheels]

One more, King David's son Absalom killed his other son Ammon and David forgave him. Ammon also raped David's daughter Tamar and David did not exile him or put him away (although he was very angry).

 

[Samaritan Woman]

I am incredibly sorry for what you went through. To an extent I can relate to rage and struggle with forgiveness. My home life growing up until when I moved out at 23 consisted of abuse, dysfunction, and overall emotional devastation; it took me years to put the pieces of my life (and self) back together. While I knew God desired that I forgive (primarily my father) it has taken me working through my rage and hate with the help of Him. I could never forgive my parents like with the snap of my fingers, but rather I had to shed a lot of tears and be very emotionally honest before God in order to forgive.

 

[Messerve]

The story of Joseph is an excellent example. He really was given dreams by God, but no one in his family could appreciate that and he became the victim of jealousy.

Also, Jacob (with his mother's help) stole Esau's birthright and blessing which was a horrible thing to do in those days since it couldn't be undone...

Abraham pretended his wife Sarah was only his sister to protect himself and he let her be taken as another man's wife. This happened twice! By Abimelech in Genesis 20 and Pharaoh in Genesis 12. Isaac, following his father's example, did the same thing with his wife Rebekah in Genesis 26!

Gomer, the prophet Hosea's wife, left him despite the love he showed her and sold herself as a slave for prostitution so that Hosea was forced to pay to get her back!

King Saul was trying to murder David, the best friend of his son Jonathan, for years. It certainly caused all kinds of emotional pain for Jonathan in addition to David.

Kings Manassah and Ahaz sacrificed their own sons as offerings to a pagan god... It doesn't get much worse than that.

I'm sure there are more. But these are some ones that come to mind. Know that nothing escapes God's notice no matter how terrible, and the value in reading these stories is that we can see His hand in it all.

 

[Bipolar]

We will praying for you! When my first wife left me it took a few months before I realized I had to forgive her! It was the best thing I ever did for our children. When I look at unconditional love and forgiveness I received from Christ I have to forgive all offences against me. Unforgiveness only hurts me.

 

[eleos1954]

I have had adoptive parents that I am thankful for.

I feel like a glass cannon however.

Being strong and intelligent didn't prepare me for a long lost sibling unleashing an Emotional Pandora's Box.

My parents just abandoned their kids like the they were disposable having 10 because the government kept taking us away in groups.

They broke up. He killed himself and she did too because of him.

It's like they didn't have 10 other reasons to live and fight for.

Jesus says to forgive others to be forgiven. He is God and his Dad is God. It's easy for him to say when forsaken by his Dad.

Are there any examples in the Bible of regular people who were abandoned by their family for me to read and think about?

Luke 23:34

And Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.”

May the Lord bring peace to your heart. Amen.

 

[Richard T]

I would recommend reading the "The Father Heart of God: Experiencing the Depths of His Love for You. by Floyd McClung.