how cna i help my friend?

[mahalia]

i need help for my one friend. he's a year older than me and has no alcohol problem of his own, but his parents do. his mum and dad drink a lot and fight a lot and his dad often beats them around. they're the typical German stereotypes though... extremely proud and stubborn.

i don't want him in that house, it's breaking him. he's got a younger brother (16) and two younger sisters (one 9, one 2) and he takes so much stress. we got his parents to go see a social worker but that's the most they'll do, and it doens't seem to be helping much.

what can i do? he's scared to death that he'll be like them one day. he's so special to me. maybe too special.

 

[LoG]

what can i do? he's scared to death that he'll be like them one day. he's so special to me. maybe too special.

Help for the relatives and friends of alcoholics can be found through Alanon, ACOA and Alateen. They may have meetings in your area where you will find people who are living in similar circumstances but have found a way to cope.

Alateen is a fellowship of young Al-Anon members, usually teenagers, whose lives have been affected by someone's else's drinking.
*Purposes of Alateen Young People Come Together To:

.share experience, strength and hope with each other.
.discuss their difficulties.
.learn effective ways to cope with their problems.
.encourage one another.
.help each other understand the principles of the Al-Anon program.

http://www.al-anon.org.nz/alateen.php
http://www.alanon.org.za/

 

[UnitynLove]

I will pray for him.

 

[mahalia]

thanks so much, Lion and Unity!

 

[SilverWings]

Hi. That is a very difficult situation.

You can pray. You can listen and show you are supportive. I'm sure you're doing that already. And it really helps our friends to know they aren't alone. Try to keep your friend positive. Let him know there is always a way out and that sometimes it just takes time to find it. Reassure him that he doesn't have to become like his father.

I'll pray. There's always a way out.

 

[Kapeko]

U can be there for your friends dear pray for the support them where you can.May the GOD bless U