Hope & Hopelessness

[OcifferPls]

I usually do not share much about myself, especially my struggles, so it's been a long time since I've written one of these posts. It's certainly not a comfortable thing to do, but I feel the need to say what I can.

I am a porn addict. I don't watch porn, currently, but there's more to it than that.

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It has been a rough journey since that time. I'm now in my late 30's. I somehow made it through the bitterness, and have begun attempts at repentance and reformation of my ways. By the grace of God I have managed to put at least some pieces of my life back together, and while I have quit porn and removed that from my life, I find that it has left my inner man scarred, with the drive for intimacy simply not going away, which is to me a perpetual stumbling block.

There are signs of hope in life that God is still with me to help me, and I hope to God that I can obtain the grace and mercy necessary for the remission of my sins. But, even if things are not so clearly defined, even if I can't formulate the exact reasons why with complete certainty, I must conclude that religion and porn do not mix, and that is certain. It will erode at your faith and your life, and life gets difficult, so difficult, that you need your faith! [edited]

 

[Southernscotty]

Friend first of all, I would never judge you because I have my own problems to be concerned with and I have my own battles and wars to fight.
I do wanna say that you are very correct that porn and religion doesn't mix as porn opens doorways into even worse things and is a monster that can never get enough, It always craves more.
The thing I would say to you personally is that YOU by yourself can't beat this thing, But God can and if you will fully submit to Him and His sanctification, He will deliver you. Romans 8:38-39
Praying for you

 

[sunshine100]

I usually do not share much about myself, especially my struggles, so it's been a long time since I've written one of these posts. It's certainly not a comfortable thing to do, but I feel the need to say what I can.

I am a porn addict. I don't watch porn, currently, but there's more to it than that.

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It has been a rough journey since that time. I'm now in my late 30's. I somehow made it through the bitterness, and have begun attempts at repentance and reformation of my ways. By the grace of God I have managed to put at least some pieces of my life back together, and while I have quit porn and removed that from my life, I find that it has left my inner man scarred, with the drive for intimacy simply not going away, which is to me a perpetual stumbling block.

There are signs of hope in life that God is still with me to help me, and I hope to God that I can obtain the grace and mercy necessary for the remission of my sins. But, even if things are not so clearly defined, even if I can't formulate the exact reasons why with complete certainty, I must conclude that religion and porn do not mix -- and that is certain. It will erode at your faith and your life, and life gets difficult, so difficult, that you need your faith! Also, to those who would deal harshly with porn addicts, I implore you to think twice, even if it is a male porn addict! I understand that people have been hurt and harmed because of such things, but please do not be the cause of porn's destructiveness for the sake of revenge!

Iam so sorry about you and your wife getting a divorce,God forgives us all and heals us all,what you went through all if your life growing up must have been very hard for you,but God is a healer and he has healed you and will continue to heal you.

 

[2PhiloVoid]

I usually do not share much about myself, especially my struggles, so it's been a long time since I've written one of these posts. It's certainly not a comfortable thing to do, but I feel the need to say what I can.

I am a porn addict. I don't watch porn, currently, but there's more to it than that.

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It has been a rough journey since that time. I'm now in my late 30's. I somehow made it through the bitterness, and have begun attempts at repentance and reformation of my ways. By the grace of God I have managed to put at least some pieces of my life back together, and while I have quit porn and removed that from my life, I find that it has left my inner man scarred, with the drive for intimacy simply not going away, which is to me a perpetual stumbling block.

There are signs of hope in life that God is still with me to help me, and I hope to God that I can obtain the grace and mercy necessary for the remission of my sins. But, even if things are not so clearly defined, even if I can't formulate the exact reasons why with complete certainty, I must conclude that religion and porn do not mix, and that is certain. It will erode at your faith and your life, and life gets difficult, so difficult, that you need your faith! Also, to those who would deal harshly with porn addicts, I implore you to think twice, even if it is a male porn addict! I understand that people have been hurt and harmed because of such things, but please do not be the cause of porn's destructiveness for the sake of revenge!

Thank you for sharing your heart on this matter with us. It's tough to do, especially since not everyone (not even fellow Christians) will meet you with open arms when doing so! But what a journey you've traveled through, a rocky one for sure, but one through which you've come to see some truths.

Peace,
2PhiloVoid

 

[OcifferPls]

Thank you. I am reminded that, in such things we have to be careful not to place blame on others. That can be so difficult for some reason, but I know that I have sinned, and those who were involved, did not do my sinning for me. I am praying for forgiveness, for them, as well as for me.

 

[Jesusismyking87!!]

I usually do not share much about myself, especially my struggles, so it's been a long time since I've written one of these posts. It's certainly not a comfortable thing to do, but I feel the need to say what I can.

I am a porn addict. I don't watch porn, currently, but there's more to it than that.

[edited]

It has been a rough journey since that time. I'm now in my late 30's. I somehow made it through the bitterness, and have begun attempts at repentance and reformation of my ways. By the grace of God I have managed to put at least some pieces of my life back together, and while I have quit porn and removed that from my life, I find that it has left my inner man scarred, with the drive for intimacy simply not going away, which is to me a perpetual stumbling block.

There are signs of hope in life that God is still with me to help me, and I hope to God that I can obtain the grace and mercy necessary for the remission of my sins. But, even if things are not so clearly defined, even if I can't formulate the exact reasons why with complete certainty, I must conclude that religion and porn do not mix, and that is certain. It will erode at your faith and your life, and life gets difficult, so difficult, that you need your faith! [edited]

The good ole porn addiction believe me I understand how you feel I was there myself in the past friend. The issue is in todays society is that everyone is so acceptable to sex now to the point where the movies, and shows have pumped it into our homes that the daily view of Porn is now the way of life we may see it as if we did not know the truth through Jesus Christ. What many of us do not understand that I did not understand which led to my back sliding many times with Jesus was because I was a lukewarm Christian and I was in love with Porn than I was with Jesus. All I keep having to tell and remind myself is that porn is not a fun clip of relief instead its a form of adultery that Jesus was warning us about ever since his teaching here on earth.


Allow me to give you something for that food for the spirit man!

1 Corinthians 6:18

18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.


How does one flee from such sin as addiction to Porn? Simple you may ask but it was hard, your going to have to set up filters on your computer and phone with random passwords that you do not know. As well get yourself in a group in your hometown that deals with such sexual addiction. But for salvation to be truly saved we must change our minds and our hearts, which means our way and pattern of life.

Romans 12:2

2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.