Hooking up?

[Alona]

In this case, I am defining "hooking up" as simply kissing someone who you won't have anything meaningful with. American society makes it seem like not a big deal but thats kind of how it portrays pre-marital sex. Do you think the physical act itself is wrong/ok or the intentions behind it define it as being good or bad? I think it may be kind of difficult to prove to people you are a good christian if you go around hooking up with other people. Just my opinion; lets hear yours. As Christians we are supposed to walk a higher path in our relationships with other people right? But how high in this situation is the question.

 

[mahlalie]

I personally hold kissing in pretty high regard. Is it inherently wrong to make out with someone you don't intend to be with for the long haul? I can't really answer that. I wouldn't do it. "Hooking up" as you have defined it just seems like some sort of sexual-ish gratification. It takes something intimate and making it meaningless. I honestly don't understand how people can casually make out or casually date or whatever. Maybe I'm just not wired for that.

 

[Luther073082]

I think hooking up is understood by most people to be for sexual purposes. This is a practice which is not compatable with the Christian faith.

 

[explodingboy]

Since when did hooking up, mean kissing... I mean that is almost a primary school age definition of relationships of a bygone era..

Not to mention.. what is the point in going round randomly kissing people..

 

[avi8tor]

Coming from a guy who's made out with a ton of girls, I really just don't see anything wrong with it. While I don't go around making out with complete strangers I do enjoy it with a nice girl who I find attractive. And it's fun!!

 

[MrsSeptemberPenguin]

I can't say I see the point in doing it. While it may not be specifically wrong, its very likely going to lead to lust, which is considered a sin. Plus you're just playing with each others emotions. I know people seem to think they can "hook up" and then pretend nothing ever happened, but I don't think that's really how it works. To each his own I suppose, but it is not something I could or would choose to participate in.

 

[MacFall]

If you're not doing anything sexual, you're not "hooking up". And if you're not getting a sexual kick out of kissing someone, then there's nothing really wrong with it... but you're playing it awful close. And why not make something special of it by only sharing it with a special person?

 

[cask]

Kissing a member of the opposite sex should always be a sign of loving them, I personally don't think you should kiss someone unless you have feelings for them, and eventually perhaps kissing a random girl or boy may end up as something more? who knows but you

 

[citizenthom]

If there was really "nothing behind it?" Then we could talk.

But there is ALWAYS something behind it, and you probably know that deep down. Stereotypically it's that the girl thinks the guy will commit to something more if they just make out; although the opposite is often true nowadays.

"Casual" sex, "casual" making out, "hooking up," "friends with benefits"--all lies made up by society so people think they don't have to face the possibility of an emotional component. But it's there whether you acknowledge it or not.

 

[proverb31]

it's a slippery slope. i wish i had never had my first kiss that led to my first sexual experience that led me to a life of sin.

 

[jesusowns]

Well, as Abraham said in the Book of Genesis, "Thou shalt not engage in the acts of hooking up until thou art married with a proper wife." I think as a Christian it is your duty to wait until marriage.

 

[RedLioness]

Ryan Sheckler and I have something in common: We both would like less drama, more fun, and somebody really chill to hang out with. Me? I'm a girl. So I'd like a really chill guy. And I have been interested in looking, like the other guy on here said he had wanted to be single for a long time - me too and I did stay single for years (I never even had a boyfriend in my teen years believe it or not I was a virgin!) single but my heart changed and I am wanting to hook up now (there is this advertisement in the newspaper for around town I've been looking at it).

 

[autumnfallsdown]

I used to do it all the time before I was saved. But, now that I am saved...I see no point in it. Like cask said, kissing someone should be a sign of loving them. It rarely ever means nothing. Usually one of the people involved have higher expectations for the relationship than the other.

 

[news4thenonbeliever]

it's a slippery slope. i wish i had never had my first kiss that led to my first sexual experience that led me to a life of sin.

Amen to that. It starts small and...

I used to do it all the time before I was saved. But, now that I am saved...I see no point in it. Like cask said, kissing someone should be a sign of loving them. It rarely ever means nothing. Usually one of the people involved have higher expectations for the relationship than the other.

...why kiss someone you don't want to be with. It is SUPPOSED to mean something. The fact that society has watered the relationship down sooo much is what is causing so many problems. So many regrets. And I know people say "Oh, I don't regret it at all, it was all great. And guess what, no strings attached."
Well guess what. There ARE strings attached. What about when you have to tell your spouse about all those things you did.
There are always strings, and someone always, ALWAYS cares. No matter what they say.

 

[explodingboy]

single but my heart changed and I am wanting to hook up now (there is this advertisement in the newspaper for around town I've been looking at it).

I always wondered what sort of person replies to new paper ads, I just read them for the lulz. I digress but I really have to ask, just what are you hoping to achieve from hooking up? (and is this the generally recognized rumpy pumpy definition or the holding hands and kissing people your not in relationships with that the op has invented?)

I used to do it all the time before I was saved. But, now that I am saved...I see no point in it. Like cask said, kissing someone should be a sign of loving them. It rarely ever means nothing. Usually one of the people involved have higher expectations for the relationship than the other.

Much like the other poster, I'd love to hear why you used to do it, because apparently I fail to see the appeal or point.

Also if possible maybe a little more as to why the opinion changed after being saved.

 

[Camaro]

Christians don't engage in acts of the world. People should be able to see God through your actions. Just because everyone makes out with people doesn't mean Christians should.

Plus, you never know if making out will lead to other things that you will regret.