Holiday Help

[xxxSammixxx]

My son died 4 months ago. This will be my first christmas without him. Can anyone out there share their ideas for getting through the holidays? Special things you've done for their graves over Christmas, holiday memorials in their names, anything that will help keep them with us through the holidays?

 

[Onlythingavailable]

I'm sorry about your loss. While I don't have any personal experience, you could consider visiting a place that your son liked, or just a place that has memories of him associated with it. Perhaps make some food that he liked, or just do something that he liked.

May God comfort you and be with you.

 

[beautyofwisdom]

I am deeply sorry to hear of your sons death. The holidays, birthdays, and date of your loved ones passing will alway stand out in your mind. I lost my son in May of last year and I can't tell you how to get though this without having a strong faith in GOD. My family and I plan things centered around him on his Birthday and during the holidays. For a long time I didn't want to be involved with family gatherings, but I think that during the early stages you need to be with people that love you to kind of free your mind. I know that in your heart removing it from your mind, is the last thing that you want to do. Some parts of us just have a need to keep those memories alive. What kept me going was believing in my heart that my son was with GOD. I think that I beleived it so much it caused me to have dreams about him. I recalled dreaming one night about my son and he said to me" mom, are you arright now??? you have to let me go on". I took that to mean that he was still concerned about me....It was as if he was saying to me that the sooner I healed he could go on to be with GOD.

 

[Amin]

I am deeply sorry to hear of your sons death. The holidays, birthdays, and date of your loved ones passing will alway stand out in your mind. I lost my son in May of last year and I can't tell you how to get though this without having a strong faith in GOD. My family and I plan things centered around him on his Birthday and during the holidays. For a long time I didn't want to be involved with family gatherings, but I think that during the early stages you need to be with people that love you to kind of free your mind. I know that in your heart removing it from your mind, is the last thing that you want to do. Some parts of us just have a need to keep those memories alive. What kept me going was believing in my heart that my son was with GOD. I think that I beleived it so much it caused me to have dreams about him. I recalled dreaming one night about my son and he said to me" mom, are you arright now??? you have to let me go on". I took that to mean that he was still concerned about me....It was as if he was saying to me that the sooner I healed he could go on to be with GOD.

I think a good way to have a memorial is to listen to what your heart says about the situation.
I've lost my father, and this past June my mother.
I try and think of the positive things
about each of them, and remember
them that way.
It keeps them fresh in my heart and makes me love them even more
People like to say; You'll get over it.
I feel we learn to live with it.
I for one don't want to get over it.
I want them in my heart every day.
Chuck.

 

[jojoj]

I am so sorry about your son. I lost a daughter 4 years ago. I understand how hard the holidays are. My daughter's birthday was Christmas Eve. The first Christmas was hard. It was only by the grace of God that we got through it. The next year I took the money I would have spent on her gifts and bought presents for under privelaged children. that helped.