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[HeyGirl]

Hello, I have a question regarding the world of technology, meaning, facebook, texting and real life. Does anyone else ever wonder why it is so hard for people to respond to you when the technology exists to where one could stay in contact easily?

Sometimes it takes days (or even weeks) for people who are friends to text me back. Then there are class mates who are friendly to me in person but on their facebook at times they will take AGES to respond, even though I can tell that they are on facebook.

Does anyone here understand this better, or have thoughts on this? At times I feel that people are being "two-faced" and I am not sure what is going on. Then I start to wonder if there is something that I have done wrong, or if people just really don't like me.

Anyone have thoughts they want to share about this with me?
Thanks.

 

[WiredSpirit]

Sometimes notifications come on my phone and I put them off because it would be easier to type a reply on my PC, but without the new notification I will forget about it. It's easy to overlook notifications too. Say I have three new messages. As soon as I click the icon they are no longer new so I look at the first message and forget about the rest.

 

[KitKatMatt]

Maybe you should ask them one day, just to see if there is a reason?

I don't answer most texts or pms sent to me most of the time. I feel I have nothing to add the majority of the time (How am I supposed to respond to "Saw news report on CNN about XX last night. Was neat"?)

It's nothing against the people who send them, but if I don't feel I can contribute to the conversation, or that I feel the conversation is "over" in some way, I won't answer back.

 

[selfintercession]

Sometimes people have more going on in their life than your facebook message or your text.

I miss the days when my computer and/or phone didn't tell someone the second I'd seen/heard their message and I could reply to it when I wasn't working, stressing about something, dealing with an issue, trying to relax, writing a factum, walking to the grocery store, chatting with someone else about their or my own personal crisis etc etc etc etc.

It's not that they don't like you, it's that you're not the only person in their life and they probably have plenty of other people inundating them with messages too in between their own life.

 

[Andres88]

I agree with selfintercession. As of late I've been very busy with different responsibilities, and there are people who text me just when I can't text back. I also have some people that I texted, saw the message, but never answered. I'll take that as if they were busy, read the message, and later forgot to text back.

 

[selfintercession]

Oh ya that's a good point. If someone e-mails me, I just leave it as unread until I reply so I don't forget. Can't do that with Facebook and texts!

 

[HeyGirl]

Thanks for your responses. I realize that people are busy and cannot always respond. Yet when I see them liking posts, responding to other people....and not responding to what I wrote.....hmm? Technology can be frustrating. I don't think about it much, just was wondering what others thought.

 

[NiobiumTragedy]

With me, sometimes I'm busy and don't respond. Sometimes I'm not in the mood for a conversation or if I know someone is going to ask for a favour or to do something I'm really not up to doing... or sometimes the person just annoys the crap out of me and I'd really rather not talk to them.

 

[Max Shade]

A lot of my contacts are spread out over, well, the world. If it is something local to them I might not respond or I might follow up at a later date. Sometimes when someone is grieving, I may hold off because they get swamped with condolences when it is fresh, so I give it a bit and check in to see that they're getting on alright. Sometimes I feel like I would say something over-harsh in the moment and should wait or I am tipsy and don't want to come off like I am hitting on someone who asks about her new profile pic (I am in a happy situation & sometimes feel too deeply the liberty of not looking for love). . . Sometimes I mean to get back to it and have a task or whatever and forget to come back to it & then another friend comments, brings it back to the top & then I reply. No offense, just a pretty busy life.