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[RachelZ]

Hi everyone...I just wanted to say hello as I haven't been able to be around much recently. I also wanted to say I'm sorry if it looks like I only pop by for help but then don't bother to reciprocate. I really value all you guys have done for me...you prolly have no idea how much you have done for me!! I so want to be able to give back too but firstly I sometimes just don't seem able to get on here. Life ends up so busy and I don't allways want to be telling my son I'll play with him later nor be rushing around so much I miss out on time with him. Then when he's asleep at night I'm usually ready for it too...though in truth I'm prolly ready for bed before he is...where do they get their energy from?

The other problem I have is that I sometimes really struggle to say anything really helpful cos just as I doubt the OCD in my own life so I worry about it in others' lives too. I get concerned that I'll reassure someone that something is OCD and maybe it's not and then I won't be helping them at all and may even be hurting them. I wonder how I can be convinced about OCD for someone else when I can't have the same conviction for myself...like how can I say "oh I know how you feel cos my OCD makes me feel like that!" when I doubt it is the OCD making me feel like that. Does any of that ramble make sense?

Anyway...just wanted to say hi and sorry if my responses to you often seem a little short and/or bland due to either time constraints and/or or my own doubtfulness getting in the way...I apologise! Take care and thank you all for your support and friendship...Rachel

 

[kaykay9.0]

Hello, Rachel!

Yes, I know what you mean about sometimes your own OCD tendencies keeping your from posting. Most of the time, though, I can recognize others' OCD issues a lot more readily than my own!

Life does get soooo busy....but time with your child is so precious. Trust me when I tell you they grow up in the blink of an eye!

 

[ObsessedButBlessed]

just remember that most likely, every one of us who gives advice about OCD also doubts it's really OCD with our own issues. It takes a long time with lots of practice to be able to see OCD for what it is. I feel like OCD makes you see, perceive and comprehend things with a "filter" - which is WAY different than the filter a non-OCD functioning brain sees, perceives and comprehends things.

 

[RachelZ]

Hey KayKay, thanks for your reply...yes I agree that time with little ones is precious...life gets so busy and mad and I don't want him to grow up and me regret that he heard "in a minute" or "when I've finished this" too many times.

Hi Sad...yes I agree with you and KayKay that it is easier to see other's struggles for what they are, but not our own. For example it pains me to see someone who has a lot going for them have a low self-image and yet I can put myself down and see it as reality. I think the problem I have on here though is that although I want to help people, if I start trying to say "This is OCD, don't go there...distract yourself and go do something else!" then I'm likely to think "Yeah but what if it's not...?" It's like the OCD doubting can work with others as well. It's bad enough living with the doubt for myself but how could I live with that grinding anxiety for advice I've given to others? Does that make sense?

I so agree that we view things through an OCD filter...the way I can see this as being true is that when I feel better things seem different and yet in reality nothing has changed. It's annoying...to say the least!

Thanks again and hope you're both having a good weekend...take care, Rachel

 

[keryakos]

i second the ladies lady Rachel ..

 

[RachelZ]