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[brokenwings27]

Hello everyone,
I stumbled upon this forum while looking up stuff about SI the other day, so I'm very new to this site, but I was wondering how you get the modivation in the first place to stop SIing. I personally am a self injurer, and I have been doing it for almost 4 months off and on, and I am a Christian, but I just dont have the feeling to give it up. I feel like something is wrong with me, because I dont want to give it up. So I was just wondering what anyone thought

 

[livingforGod135]

hi & welcome to CF

first off there is nothing wrong with you, most people will go thru a time where they dont really want to stop

as for getting the motivation to stop, well being a Christian you would know that God loves you and doesnt want to see you hurting?

for me personally i was sick of feeling so low... but when u do get the motivation to stop and try too... dont expect it to be easy

Laura

 

[Everlasting33]

Hello everyone,
I stumbled upon this forum while looking up stuff about SI the other day, so I'm very new to this site, but I was wondering how you get the modivation in the first place to stop SIing. I personally am a self injurer, and I have been doing it for almost 4 months off and on, and I am a Christian, but I just dont have the feeling to give it up. I feel like something is wrong with me, because I dont want to give it up. So I was just wondering what anyone thought

Brokenwings,

Good question!

I am sorry that you have been feeling a lot of pain and I truly hope that you break free of this destructive and addicting habit. That being said, you have the ability and the strength to overcome this habit...you just have to believe it!

I used to cut for several years and for a long time I did not want to give it up either. But I have to make something clear: for any individual who wants to give up a bad habit, he or she MUST want to give it up! It is that simple...there needs to be an internal motivation to overcome this.

For me, I was very tired of my lifestyle of cutting. I wanted to deal with my stressors without having to go home and cut. I wanted to live life without the obsessive, compulsive need to cut and feel in control of my surrondings. I wanted better...I wanted self-love and acceptance...I wanted freedom from SI!

Thus, my recovery happened simply because I knew I could get better and that I wanted to get better.

Do you believe it? Do you believe that you can overcome this and do you want to be better? Recovery can only transpire once you have positively answered yes to those two questions!

The motivation comes from an inability to accept failure, dsyfunction, self-affliction, and self-hatred.

I hope you find the peace and joy that you are seeking. Please PM me if you ever need to talk.God Bless!


"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same."
(Akeelah and the Bee)

 

[brokenwings27]

hey, thanks for all your imput
it really helped

 

[mariachigirl]

I'm a newbie too! It sounds like there's a lot of support here on the forum. It's tough to quit this habit, once its ugly seed has been sewn. I know. We all do. The thing I'm learning is that when I feel stuff so deep, God understands my pain, and is the only one who can soothe my emotional wounds. Stay safe! (((hug)))

 

[xlolokinsx]

I know where you're coming from. I go through phases when I don't want to stop SI. (If we really truly did want to stop SI, we probably could, so I suppose at least to some extent everyone wants to go on with SI.) What works best for me whenI'm in one of these phases is just to set a time limit for myself. I will not cut for one week, or whatever amount of time you think you can handle. Stay busy, stay active, and just try not to obsess over SI (which is usually easier said than done.)

Oh, one more thing, if you're defiant like me, don't just think about how God feels when you SI, but also think of Satan's reaction when you SI. The image is sickening enough for me that even if I'm on the verge of SI, I can't make myself do it when I think of Satan.

Good luck and God bless.

 

[ChristInAction]

Hey, welcome to CF!
I did the same thing to find this forum a bit over a year ago.
Recovery is hard. I should know, I've been trying for 2 of the 4years I've been cutting.
One of the best things for me, is just having all the guys on here backing me up. Having the support.
Its taken a long time but I know can turn to God. Whenever & know that He wont turn his face from me.
Someone wants me to stop it & knows I can stop.

This is just a suggestion.. but its working for me.
After church or a youth event or just a time that you feel/know God is close & are really fired up or happy. Write somewhere you'll see when you feel low. "Please stop cutting". (somewhere your parents wont see)
& if you dont feel strong enough to throw your blade away, put it in something, Then throw it somewhere in your room thats too high to get to easily or something. Mines up on the shelf at the top of my wardrob.

If you want, I can send you a huge list of distactions.

Good luck sweetie!
I'm praying for you.

Ally (CIA) xox

 

[ChristInAction]

P.S.
Theres nothing wrong with you!
We all feel the same going threw this.
Here you can express how you feel freely, without being judged & around people who feel exactly the same

 

[HolyOne87]

Hello everyone,
I stumbled upon this forum while looking up stuff about SI the other day, so I'm very new to this site, but I was wondering how you get the modivation in the first place to stop SIing. I personally am a self injurer, and I have been doing it for almost 4 months off and on, and I am a Christian, but I just dont have the feeling to give it up. I feel like something is wrong with me, because I dont want to give it up. So I was just wondering what anyone thought

like others said, there isn't anything wrong with you at all. Like someone else said, sometimes some go through a time where they don't want to stop at all. I was like that in HS.
My motivation to stop came from a priest in my parish. He is the main reason why i don't anymore.
I'm sure in time you will find a reason to give it up. It does take time to give it up. It took me a year or longer to break down my cycle and routine (i usually self-harmed once or twice a day). Slowly but surely it broke down and it became easier.
I will pray for you.