hi i need help and advice

[ladiree]

i feel so sad alone and insecure sometimes i feel like i dont even want to wake up. i know how to mess up everything i get into.
i been i abusive and heartbreaking relationships my whole life and just got out of one one month ago
3 weeks ago i felt i met the perfect person for me we got along so good and i had thoughts in my head it was too good to be true so i was waiting for something bad to happen because thats what im use to ...... so 4 days ago he tell me to come to his job becouse he had to tell me something instantly i knew it was bad sure enough he tells me that a girl he use to mess with is pregnant ... right then i knew i was not going to feel the same i guess i dotn want to deal with the whole baby mama situation... I start doing thinking things about him that made me lose interest after he told me that i started feeling that automatically he was lying about everything even though he was trying to reassure me he wasnt but once youve been hurt some many time... things are easier said than done,... just yesterday he told me he didnt want me to call or text him anymore i guess i sabotoged it.... i hate myself for messing up what i feel was a blessing

 

[Millagirl]

Welcome to CF!

 

[Thankful75]

Hello and welcome to the forums

 

[smiledaily]

Welcome to CF, enjoy the site.

 

[MrFreshdew]

hi adiree
welcome and have fun

 

[Rut]

 

[psalms 91]

welcome to cf

 

[sekhemsahu]

i feel so sad alone and insecure sometimes i feel like i dont even want to wake up. i know how to mess up everything i get into.
i been i abusive and heartbreaking relationships my whole life and just got out of one one month ago
3 weeks ago i felt i met the perfect person for me we got along so good and i had thoughts in my head it was too good to be true so i was waiting for something bad to happen because thats what im use to ...... so 4 days ago he tell me to come to his job becouse he had to tell me something instantly i knew it was bad sure enough he tells me that a girl he use to mess with is pregnant ... right then i knew i was not going to feel the same i guess i dotn want to deal with the whole baby mama situation... I start doing thinking things about him that made me lose interest after he told me that i started feeling that automatically he was lying about everything even though he was trying to reassure me he wasnt but once youve been hurt some many time... things are easier said than done,... just yesterday he told me he didnt want me to call or text him anymore i guess i sabotoged it.... i hate myself for messing up what i feel was a blessing

Hello ladiree and welcome!

I am sorry for the tough times that you have been experiencing. There are many subforums throughout CF where you can discuss you concerns and recieve support from people who have experienced similar things and can provide you with understanding and compassion. Here are some forums that you may find helpful:

For Women who Struggle - http://www.christianforums.com/f233-for-women-who-struggle.html

Survivors of Abuse - http://www.christianforums.com/f494-survivors-of-abuse.html

Depression Support - http://www.christianforums.com/f393-depression.html


May God bless you and may you find peace!

 

[psalms 91]

welcome to cf

 

[EmbracingHim]

Welcome to Christian Forums. May you be blessed and bless and find and give answers, love, comfort, support and fellowship here.

 

[jeffs_girl_2004]

Hi, welcome to CF!

 

[woman.at.the.well]

to our home away from home. Welcome to the family!

There are lots of threads to find help and advice on. I pray you find the answers you are looking for!

 

[Kehaar]

Thread moved from New Member Intros to General Struggles.



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[BelindaP]

Don't feel bad. Things happen for a reason. You may have sabatoged this particular relationship, but I think it was for the best.

You are too young to be getting involved with a man who has another family, even if it's only a baby on the way. Take some time to get used to being single. You may find that you like it a lot, especially after having been in so many bad relationships.

You have the rest of your life to find the man who God has chose for you. As a matter of fact, God will see to it that the right man does show up at the right time. You will have a very difficult time ruining it if it is meant to be.

Take time to enjoy life. Hang out with your girlfriends and avoid men for a while. It will take you a while to get over this last relationship, and it isn't a good idea to get into another until you're completely over the old one. If you have been in abusive relationships, you need to break the cycle.

I hope this makes sense. Remember, God has a plan for you and He will make it happen.

 

[BigToe]

Do you have a therapist or someone you can talk to about everything? It helps to talk things out to someone you trust in person. It helps you recognize patterns of behavior and may help you understand why you keep getting in hurtful relationships or sabatoge them.