Sigh......it always feels good to exhale before starting a story dosn't it? Where to start.....
I posted some of this to the Intro forum. WARNING some of this discussion may not be suitiable for young children.
OK...My husbnd and I were married 10 years ago. He had two children as a teenager and attempted to marry the mother of his children and she had a mental meltdown and called off the wedding 30 minutes before the ceremony. I met him a year later and we were marred two years after that. He is a Christian and loves Jesus and loves and cares for his children. During the first 2 years of our marriage the Children's mother (we will call her Jane) denyed my husband access to the children turning him away at the door for his regular visitations despite having joint custody. Most of time she did this after trying to seduce him back to her and he would tell her that he wanted nothind to do with that he just wanted to see his children. After saving and saving those first two year we went to court. Along with increased child support was a court order stating that if she does not allow him visitation acording to the state guidelines that he could had her arested. For the past 9 years we have had access to the children a girl now 14 and a boy now 13. Taking and loving them every moment we could get from Jane.
Over those last 7 years we noticed disturbing patterns in the children's level of sanitation, problems in school, changing schools on an almost yearly basis, mental problems and emotional abuse, spiritual wiccan things done in Jane's house and changes in the children's behavior from visitation to visitation. Then there was her lesbian affair, her violent arguments with her husband, her attempt to create a SEX web cam business, and her packing her bags with the intent of walking out on the children and the children physically holding her at the door keeping her from leaving. Believe it or not the above was not enought to go back to court. But after attending 6 schools in 7 years, Jane (against my husband's express wishes) decided to removed the children from public school to home school them. That gave us what we needed to go to court.
Let me interject here that we have NO problem with home schooling. We have family that home schools. It has nothing to do with home schooling in general it has everything to do with an unstable woman trying to education children and doing a poor job of it. Our DSS had to be held back a year in school because he was not prepared by her to go on to the next grade. It was not a good situation.
Last year we had enough evidence against Jane's unstable household that over the course of ONE day the judge ruled to give my husband SOLE PHYSICAL and LEGAL custody of his chidren.
Over the course of the year we have been attempting to love out and clean up the mess Jane deposited into my DSD and DSS's lives. We have been attending family counciling, praying, attending church as a family, intentionally having family activities together, the kids have been involved in Scouts, and 4-H and a few sports. We have been communicating with their teachers and schools. We feel like we have been working hard to be good parents and to raise chidlren who love Jesus and are learning from their past.
Jane on the other hand has been uncomunicative with us. She sends her husband to our door to pick up the kids. She dosn't call us, email us, email the teachers or school, attend parent teacher conferences, come to school functions. There is a bit of distance between us and her but we managed to do these things when roles were reversed.
A few months ago we started getting letters from Jane's new lawyer (4th lawyer in all of this) that she was trying to change the venue of court again. We knew something was up. DCS recieved a call that the children were being abused and after talking to us and our counselor the DCS person shook our hands and smiled and set us on our way. Thsi past Thursday we got our new Judge assignment and Friday we recieved a call from our lawyer. Jane's lawyer has filed papers to modify custody. She wants the kids back with her.
I have never been on this side of things. Defending all the good things we do and defending ourselves from lies and slander. This is going to be a long hard road agian.
The children have felt like their mother has pulled away from them over the past year. The don't feel like they belong there anymore and they are still adjusting to their new normal of here. For the most part they are happy excpet when rules keep them from doing what they want. (For example no dating until 16 and no rated R movies.) They think they would be happier going back to their mother's house. It is the house they grew up in and all the disfunction is what they are used to. The rules there are TONS looser. For example at ages 11 and 12 the kids would run the neighborhood unsupervised at all hours of the night and early morning.
We were fighting a spiritual battle to get custody of the children and now we are fighting to keep them.
I am posting all of this because I ask you to pray for Jane pray for her salvation. Jesus can change her, can change her heart. Second I am asking you to pray for us and our new Judge I will just call him Michael. Please pray for the Widsom of Solomon to fall on him when we come into the court room. Also please pray for the children and my husband and me. I know I haven't given your our names but God knows us and our situation. I know this is asking alot but pray for us once a week if you can. Put us on a prayer list. The more people pray the better prepared we will be to fight this. Satan would love to get DSS and DSD back into that house and into his influance. He would love to hurt the more and cause them to stray from The Lord.
I am intrusting this forum with this charge. I will post updates as things go along. Tonight we tell the children what is happening. I pray that there isn't a big meltdown.
Thank you brothers and sisters in Christ. Your prayers are so very important to the very people I hold the most dear.
Thank you,
Lady B
I posted some of this to the Intro forum. WARNING some of this discussion may not be suitiable for young children.
OK...My husbnd and I were married 10 years ago. He had two children as a teenager and attempted to marry the mother of his children and she had a mental meltdown and called off the wedding 30 minutes before the ceremony. I met him a year later and we were marred two years after that. He is a Christian and loves Jesus and loves and cares for his children. During the first 2 years of our marriage the Children's mother (we will call her Jane) denyed my husband access to the children turning him away at the door for his regular visitations despite having joint custody. Most of time she did this after trying to seduce him back to her and he would tell her that he wanted nothind to do with that he just wanted to see his children. After saving and saving those first two year we went to court. Along with increased child support was a court order stating that if she does not allow him visitation acording to the state guidelines that he could had her arested. For the past 9 years we have had access to the children a girl now 14 and a boy now 13. Taking and loving them every moment we could get from Jane.
Over those last 7 years we noticed disturbing patterns in the children's level of sanitation, problems in school, changing schools on an almost yearly basis, mental problems and emotional abuse, spiritual wiccan things done in Jane's house and changes in the children's behavior from visitation to visitation. Then there was her lesbian affair, her violent arguments with her husband, her attempt to create a SEX web cam business, and her packing her bags with the intent of walking out on the children and the children physically holding her at the door keeping her from leaving. Believe it or not the above was not enought to go back to court. But after attending 6 schools in 7 years, Jane (against my husband's express wishes) decided to removed the children from public school to home school them. That gave us what we needed to go to court.
Let me interject here that we have NO problem with home schooling. We have family that home schools. It has nothing to do with home schooling in general it has everything to do with an unstable woman trying to education children and doing a poor job of it. Our DSS had to be held back a year in school because he was not prepared by her to go on to the next grade. It was not a good situation.
Last year we had enough evidence against Jane's unstable household that over the course of ONE day the judge ruled to give my husband SOLE PHYSICAL and LEGAL custody of his chidren.
Over the course of the year we have been attempting to love out and clean up the mess Jane deposited into my DSD and DSS's lives. We have been attending family counciling, praying, attending church as a family, intentionally having family activities together, the kids have been involved in Scouts, and 4-H and a few sports. We have been communicating with their teachers and schools. We feel like we have been working hard to be good parents and to raise chidlren who love Jesus and are learning from their past.
Jane on the other hand has been uncomunicative with us. She sends her husband to our door to pick up the kids. She dosn't call us, email us, email the teachers or school, attend parent teacher conferences, come to school functions. There is a bit of distance between us and her but we managed to do these things when roles were reversed.
A few months ago we started getting letters from Jane's new lawyer (4th lawyer in all of this) that she was trying to change the venue of court again. We knew something was up. DCS recieved a call that the children were being abused and after talking to us and our counselor the DCS person shook our hands and smiled and set us on our way. Thsi past Thursday we got our new Judge assignment and Friday we recieved a call from our lawyer. Jane's lawyer has filed papers to modify custody. She wants the kids back with her.
I have never been on this side of things. Defending all the good things we do and defending ourselves from lies and slander. This is going to be a long hard road agian.
The children have felt like their mother has pulled away from them over the past year. The don't feel like they belong there anymore and they are still adjusting to their new normal of here. For the most part they are happy excpet when rules keep them from doing what they want. (For example no dating until 16 and no rated R movies.) They think they would be happier going back to their mother's house. It is the house they grew up in and all the disfunction is what they are used to. The rules there are TONS looser. For example at ages 11 and 12 the kids would run the neighborhood unsupervised at all hours of the night and early morning.
We were fighting a spiritual battle to get custody of the children and now we are fighting to keep them.
I am posting all of this because I ask you to pray for Jane pray for her salvation. Jesus can change her, can change her heart. Second I am asking you to pray for us and our new Judge I will just call him Michael. Please pray for the Widsom of Solomon to fall on him when we come into the court room. Also please pray for the children and my husband and me. I know I haven't given your our names but God knows us and our situation. I know this is asking alot but pray for us once a week if you can. Put us on a prayer list. The more people pray the better prepared we will be to fight this. Satan would love to get DSS and DSD back into that house and into his influance. He would love to hurt the more and cause them to stray from The Lord.
I am intrusting this forum with this charge. I will post updates as things go along. Tonight we tell the children what is happening. I pray that there isn't a big meltdown.
Thank you brothers and sisters in Christ. Your prayers are so very important to the very people I hold the most dear.
Thank you,
Lady B
