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I am not sure if any of you remember me. I sort of come and go. I am having a horrible time. I have had an eating disorder for # years now. It started in junior high and has continued on into my college years...through the years it has been worse or better at various times in my life. I thought that things were getting better because I was on a healthy diet and losing weight...though I knew that the control that I desired and restriction was not good...I was still doing it the healthy way. Well last semester I was an RA at my university which was a disaster. i was so miserable that the whole eating disorder thing become really bad. I am not really sure what the purpsoe of my post is. I just needed to vent and bear my heart and soul. Now to make matters worse I am dating a great guy, but I am not sure if I can tell him about all of this. The eating disorder has been better at various times in my life...so maybe it will get better. I know that he deserves to know, but in someways I really would like to keep it my secret. No to mention my mom has no idea that this is occuring again. I am so frustrated. I feel so empty and sad. The things that I used to enjoy now I just try to 'fake" it so people don't really see the difference. I just don't think that I can tell anyone about this. I know that I should, but I just can't. I am not so naive that I do not realize that I will not get better without help, but I am not sure that I can seek out that help. Nor do I feel as though I can tell anyone. I just don't want to deal with all of this anymore.
 

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Dear Freedomsong,

Your post sounds sooo much like me. I really do know and understand what you are going through...you are not alone!!

You know what I am going to say though...get help. It is hard...but I can tell from your post you want to get better, and as you know, it starts with asking for help.

For me, it is very hard to talk about with people that I know and love...I have told my fiance and that is it. If you don't want to tell people yet, that is fine. You can still seek help! I found a counsellor who specializes in EDs...it was very easy to tell her about it. I know that she understands me, and that whatever I say, she has probably heard before!! I don't have to worry about what she will think of me. Maybe you could try to find someone like that in your area? I think something-fishy.org has a list of counsellors in certain areas...

Once you do find someone, he/she can give you some good advise on how you could tell your BF if you want to. My fiance has actually gone to see my counsellor to find out how he can help etc...and it has made our relationship so much better. Now he knows what I mean when I say I am having a rough day and he knows how to deal with it.

I totally know what you mean about "faking" being happy...but really nothing makes you truly happy inside. It just feels cold and empty..."ED" promises life and happiness, but only brings death and dispair...

I will be praying for you my dear. Freedom is possible!!
 
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