help!

[bassdrum1]

help! my friend just recently told me she was bi. she's also agnostic. i want to be her friend and all but what do i do? it's hard sometimes for me to be her friend without me hurting her feelings or me compromissing my faith. what do i do? i feel like i'm losing all my friends b/c they r all turning bi or gay.

 

[Johnnz]

If you adhere to Christian values some people will just move away. That's where it is at.

However, the way we relate to people is also very important. I have great relationships with people with different sexual values. From time to time we discuss each others' views. Where I disagree I gently but firmly make my views known. But there are so many other things about them that I enjoy, appreciate and can relate to.

It is so important that we don't become one dimensional in our relationships - "you agree with me on this or that's it". Sadly Christians are so super sensitive to sexual issues, yet find no problems having friendships with people who gossip, who are selfish or proud, or even lazy.

Jesus spent alot of time relating to the society's rejects of his time.

John
NZ

 

[chrisslort]

I think that at this point you should reject her. It will be better in the long run for both of you. You know, don't talk to her all avoid her at all costs. That's the best thing to do. Why? Cause you aren't supposed to associate with sinners. Plain and simple. Why would she call you her friend and then turn around and sin behind your back? Told you, simple.

 

[melvaughn]

If you adhere to Christian values some people will just move away. That's where it is at.

However, the way we relate to people is also very important. I have great relationships with people with different sexual values. From time to time we discuss each others' views. Where I disagree I gently but firmly make my views known. But there are so many other things about them that I enjoy, appreciate and can relate to.

It is so important that we don't become one dimensional in our relationships - "you agree with me on this or that's it". Sadly Christians are so super sensitive to sexual issues, yet find no problems having friendships with people who gossip, who are selfish or proud, or even lazy.

Jesus spent alot of time relating to the society's rejects of his time.

John
NZ

I completely agree with you and that's the best response I've read on this board so far.

 

[Penny_Lane]

I think that at this point you should reject her. It will be better in the long run for both of you. You know, don't talk to her all avoid her at all costs. That's the best thing to do. Why? Cause you aren't supposed to associate with sinners. Plain and simple. Why would she call you her friend and then turn around and sin behind your back? Told you, simple.

Why would she do that, if her friend is bi thats her business; i find that post so anti-christian, arent you suposed tolerate and be open mindd?, and the fact that her friend is bi is not gonna affect her in any way, its not like is contagious or something.

 

[bassdrum1]

I think that at this point you should reject her. It will be better in the long run for both of you. You know, don't talk to her all avoid her at all costs. That's the best thing to do. Why? Cause you aren't supposed to associate with sinners. Plain and simple. Why would she call you her friend and then turn around and sin behind your back? Told you, simple.

no offense but aren't we all sinners. and didn't jesus associate with,at that time, were considered the biggest sinners. he ate with tax collectors. i mean come on. that's harsh. she and me r gonna still be friends. granted we might be distant at time b/c of our beliefs but i think we can work them out. i just don't like the fact u said what u said, when even u r a sinner. where does it say not to associate with sinners? and even if it does, u missed what Jesus did on earth. eating with sinners. i don't mean this to be mean or anything. i just don't think u have the right to decide who one should assocate with.

 

[wiggsfly]

If it really bothers you all you can do is lead by example. Only God can change people. The best we can do is hand them a flashlight and hope they find the right path.

 

[ascribe2thelord]

help! my friend just recently told me she was bi. she's also agnostic. i want to be her friend and all but what do i do? it's hard sometimes for me to be her friend without me hurting her feelings or me compromissing my faith. what do i do? i feel like i'm losing all my friends b/c they r all turning bi or gay.

Are all your friends agnostic?

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Love them.
God made them. He loves them.
The best thing you can do for them is to love them. Pray for them as well.
Being friends with them and spending time with them is not wrong or compromising your faith in any way.

Love is the power that makes things happen.

 

[bassdrum1]

not all my friends are. but the friends i have that r really close to me all go to the same church as me.

 

[simpletrust]

I think that at this point you should reject her. It will be better in the long run for both of you. You know, don't talk to her all avoid her at all costs. That's the best thing to do. Why? Cause you aren't supposed to associate with sinners. Plain and simple. Why would she call you her friend and then turn around and sin behind your back? Told you, simple.

WHAT?! Excuse me, but Jesus associated with sinners. He hung out with them and ate with them and everything. Also, as has already been said, we are all sinners. And that includes you mister. If we say we are without sin, we are not of the Lord. This girl should not take offense at her friend "sinning behind her back" because we can't expect agnostic friends to stop all their sinning just because they call us their friends. We can't expect that of anyone!

Bassdrum1, I'm in the same position as you. When my friends and I went to highschool, they all went to a different one from me, an all-girls school where homosexuality and bisexuality is becoming something of a fashion. My closest friend is bisexual and seems to parade it a bit and teases me (good naturedly) for being the straightest person she knows - sometimes it gets sort of annoying but I just ignore it. Leading by example is really the only thing to do here.

Also, if she's agnostic, look for ways to make the agnostic within her get all curious about what exactly there is out there, and make sure she knows you have an answer to the question. Once you push an agnostic's curiosity switch, they'll often talk to their friends that they know are religious.

 

[ascribe2thelord]

help! my friend just recently told me she was bi. she's also agnostic. i want to be her friend and all but what do i do? it's hard sometimes for me to be her friend without me hurting her feelings or me compromissing my faith. what do i do? i feel like i'm losing all my friends b/c they r all turning bi or gay.

Actually I do suggest keeping away from having too many friends who aren't Christians. That tends to open you up to temptation, especially if you spend all your time with them.

It's probably mostly this one person that mattered when you said all your friends are getting into sexual sin.

What you need is to find some real Christian friends ... you know where to find them, just go look. If you can find someone to replace her, and you really need to if you want to get over this thing (outside of her converting), please do. Jesus didn't leave his own to be alone. He gave us a body.

-Bro Adam

 

[bassdrum1]

thanks simpletrust. i've been asking her a few. but she knows all about christianity. that's the hard part. how she could know it all and yet still not accept the truth. of course i know she's been hurt by christians too so i can see some of her side. it's just weird.

 

[simpletrust]

thanks simpletrust. i've been asking her a few. but she knows all about christianity. that's the hard part. how she could know it all and yet still not accept the truth. of course i know she's been hurt by christians too so i can see some of her side. it's just weird.

Well, just keep praying for her. If one of the problems is that she's been hurt by christians, that makes it even more important that you remain her friend besides this bi thing. So don't take any of that advice about "rejecting her". That would just be more evidence to her that Christians will continue to hurt her.

 

[aric714]

We're all at weird age and the one's who think they are gay or bi are just curious but its proably just faze. I'm friends with two lesbians and one of them goes to church with me. Our church preachs against homosexuality but somehow she finds it okay to be that way and she thinks she was born that way. Who really knows but I'm really good friends with her and her sexual orienation doesn't effect how I feel for her and yours shoudl be the same. And the other lesbian were friends with is agnostic to and I speak my opinion without making it religious ans that just comes with the art of communication. I love them both and will always be there friends even though I don't agree with the lifestyle they have both choosen.

 

[bassdrum1]

well. she decided to go to church with me tonight and possibly is thinking about becoming a christian but she doesn't want to live a lie so she's not sure.

 

[ascribe2thelord]

Well, I wasn't suggesting that you reject your lesbian friend, only that you find a Christian female friend who you can be closer with than her. (It's said that during adolescent years, it's very important especially for girls to have a best friend of the same sex - a good influence I mean.)