Help with a friend

It really doesnt matter what she has done, god will love her all the same, in his eyes, she is beautiful, on inside and out!

Self esteem can come from jesus too, tell her to pray and never give up, I know this seems like an easy thing to say, but it really works,

Jesus's power is endless!

Tell your friend to keep pushing through however the going gets tough,she may not feel,see ,hear him but he is there tell here to keep seeking him this is how he grows us tell her he cares that much to want her to grow.I was a drug addict and had no self-esteem and he has healed me but you have to be willing to let go of the hurt so he can fill that space inside with his love.Hope that helps .Emma

God stands behind us and waits until we're smart enough to turn around and realize he's always been there.
Low self-esteem is a frustrating problem and often has many...causes. Often people think that if you have everything right with God then life will be peachy. Wrong answer.
For a lot of girls, their self image is developed through their relationship with their father. Depression can be another culprit. Things that have happened in the past can also have an impact.
If she is weighed down with guilt, have her read psalm 51. This is regarding David after taking another man's wife and having him killed in battle to hide his sin.
If anyone made a big boo boo, David definitely holds one of the crowns of error. And he was called, "A man after God's own heart."

Is your friend a member here?

Yeah, I know some of what I said sounds crazy. Oddly enough it's almost always true....other passages...
I guess that depends on what kind of friendship you have with her. God loves her enough to send Jesus to teh cross for her. He loves us all that much to do that. That makes me feel kind of special. I don't necessarily think I can make sense of it all, but he did it nevertheless.
Girls...always be encouraging and caring. Criticism is something you must be very careful about. If there are things you like about her, tell her. Compliment her. Do it cause you mean it and not because you are trying to change her. Tell her what's good about her. Appreciate her. You an be as creative as you want to be. A lot of this also depends on what kind of friends you are. That's the tricky thing. I'm married. I am comfortable telling a girl in class she has pretty eyes (after she knows I'm married) because I don't have to worry about her thinking I'm trying to pick up on her or anything. When you're single, girls seem to think that most guys have a motive behind their kindness.
That's enough to chew on for now.

self esteem.... let's think about what that phrase is really indicating...

that we (as the individual) esteem our self, i.e. we deem "i" as a valid and worth while creature. how does one acquire this so-called self esteem?

well, the answer is really quite varied. some people find their self worth through the gateway of religion, others find it through the gateway of education or job and so forth.

one very direct way to inculcate self esteem is through a challenging physical routine. this is the technique that the military mainly uses to produce people that value themselves and others.

let me give you an example. my wife used to have very low self esteem (for a variety of reasons) and it was particularly troubling to her. we tried a few things and i used my best psych 101 skills all to no avail. we decided that for vacation one year, we'd go hiking and camping in the Black Rock desert.

desert camping is not the same as other camping and really requires a strong determination and drive. during the camping trip, she was actually pretty miserable however, once we were done and home and she could reflect upon it... she was filled with a sense of wonder at her own accomplishment.. something that she had been told that she could never do (physical hardship) and she had overcome it.. not only that, she had been successful at it.

from that time forward, she's had a much more positive outlook upon herself and others. her self esteem is not an issue for her any longer for she knows, without doubt, that she can "do it", whatever "it" may be.

good luck with your friend. it's tough to be in that situation and she is lucky to have someone that is compassionate for her plight.