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Okay. I become aroused whenever I write now. In addition to this, it happens every time I hear the word "fat" or see a pillow or fruit. Should I be concerned about this, or should I just ignore it and act like nothing is happening? This is a really embarrasing problem. Any advice is welcome.
 

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You're 17 ... I don't think this sort of thing is abnormal at your age and most likely your concern or embarrassment might make the problem worse. Young men anything that gets their blood flowing (physical activity or mental stimulation even) it can get diverted down south.

Hopefully the men here will have some practical advice for you.

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Look, I'm usually a hymnographer, and I write prayers and such. I just let poetry flow forth from me. Here lately though, stuff like this has been coming out. It's the only concept I can think about. What's wrong with me and how do I get rid of this? Something seriously odd is going on in my subconscious mind. Lately, I've been having dreams that repeat this scenario or similar ones, and they always end with me waking up and finding my sheets soaked with fluid of the male kind. I can't even sleep with my rosary anymore, for fear it will be covered by this fluid. And yes, I've had health education. I know exactly what these feelings and dreams are--[bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]. I'm talking to my priest about it, and have been talking to him. I was wondering if any of you can please help me though. I become absolutely convinced that writing this kind of stuff is okay, and that these feelings should just be ignored. Then they intensify, and I start writing poetry like this. After the poetry is written, I feel guilty. As I write the poetry, I unexplainedly become aroused, but never [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]. That happens, without fail, every night following the day in which I write such poetry. What is wrong with me? I feel absolutely compelled to write this junk!

 
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you need to stop from writing awhile, IMHO. Get yourself some weights, jog, swim, take some cold showers and get out of your normal state of mind, because you are dwelling too much on all this. Turn off your television because it is continually presenting you with lustful images.

find something to do that occupies your mind in a new way. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.
 
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Ditto the fact that you are a 17 year old male. This is normal. I remember wearing a jock strap when going to pick up a g/f because I did not want her dad to look at me and see a big bulge as I'm taking his daughter out on a date.

Learn to live with it.

Pax;

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Hmm. Perhaps you have a preference for larger women? It happens a lot as you get older... my tastes have changed several times. I used to like tall skinny guys, then I liked beefy guys who were stocky, then I had a huge thing for pretty goth guys in eyeliner (Okay, haven't let that one go yet. ) At the moment I'm dating a short geeky dude who wears glasses.

In any event, some guys like skinny chicks, some guys like short chicks, some guys like blonde chicks, some guys like large chicks, some guys like... you get my point. We all have our things that turn us on. They tend to spring out of nowhere (I used to wonder what my mother would think if I were to EVER dare bring one of the goths home to meet her) and you sorta just gotta deal with it.
 
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It sounds like you have several things going on right now. For one, it seems like your body is on overload with puberty. From what you wrote, it seems like this never happened before when you were younger? Like thirteen or fourteen??? If not, your body might be catching up. Who knows. But something you said triggered me as to what might be influencing you. You have the gift of writing, but you are writing things that arouse you--in this case, fatness. Find your triggers and DON'T write about them. Like I said, your mind might be on overload and when something makes you think about sex, fruit or maybe your fetish--fatness--then you need to focus your mind on something else. Use the gift God has given you to write adventure stories or life lesson stories or something that has nothing to do with your triggers. If you have questions, let me know. Good luck
 
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I wouldn't be scared about it. I once had a dream about a chicken ... that was really weird. Put it this way: dreams are by no means indicators of reality.

Sigmund Freud would be quite proud of you, son!
 
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Hmm... I think what may be your problem is Obsessive Compulsive disorder. Your description of the problems you have fit many of the symptoms.

You obsess about fatness and fruit, in a sexual way and can't stop = obsessive
You feel compelled to write these things = compulsive

It's pretty clear to me that this is what you're having. Pray, then take yourself to a psychiatrist. They have medicine that can help you with these thoughts.
 
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The only way I have ever found to deal with sexual thoughts, feelings and fantasies is diversion. The teen years... I think it is pretty much immpossible not to think about it. If you fill up your time with activity (sports, job, hobbies, etc...) it does really help you not to think about it nearly as much. By the way...masturbation only makes it worse...personally I don't think it is wrong, but if your trying not to think about sex then it's not a good idea.
 
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