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[Godsgurl042002]

Hi everyone .. i'm 17teen am i too young ? i need some advice and stuff.. okay .. well i am going out with this awesome guy he is awesome christian guy.. well he is my frist boyfriend and i am his first girl friend and we shared our frist kiss with each other .. i really think this is awesome because well we both know this is what God wants from both of us we prayed about it for a really long time ..anyways sometimes we both don't know what to talk about, so we get really quite and stuff.. so i need some help on what to talk about and keep a Conversation alive and not dry and dead.!! any help ? I need all the prayer and help i can get thanks a lot .. love in christ
(Me) Godsgurl042002

 

[Godsgurl042002]

No one loves me all the posts it have Posted No one ever Replys :'( everyone hates me .... All i need is some advice why can't anyone give me advice ..........

 

[MatthewBoB]

Seems like you got a lot of time on your hands... give people a little more time

I have had similar problems, though usually its because there are things I don't want to talk about with them, maybe things that could bring up issues.... not sure if this is the case with you... it just was the case with me.

if you cant think of things to talk about maybe think of activities you could do, even over the phone, maybe a bible study...

another suggestion could be think of activities you know he likes... maybe sports or something, and ask him about that, more often than not if you ask a guy about things he is very interested, whether your intersted or not, he will have plenty to say about it...

just some ideas off the top of my head

 

[MatthewBoB]

Also it helps to not just think of it as talking about something...


try and think of things that really matter to you... maybe things youd like to know his opinion on, things that affect you and him... maybe your future, individually, or together... maybe whats going on in the world.
nothing is as rewarding as having a real meaningful, intelligent, conversation with someone you care about...except having one with God.

 

[Godsgurl042002]

Thanks that helps.. and i understand .. by the way yes i do have alot of time one my hands this week because we don't have school.. lol out for the summer but next week is when all the fun starts .. well thanks again for your advice .. bless you

 

[Rage4Christ]

Godsgurlo42002. Make yourself interesting. Find hobbies. Learn a new set of skills. Become interesting by making yourself interesting. Find a passion to learn things-- and, as human nature is, you'll want to talk about them.

Do you play music?
Do you write?
Do you have any plans to travel and see the world?
Do you do any sports?

Many girls make their "boyfriend" the center of everything. That's a quick path to boredom. Boys find that dull. Define yourself without reference to your Boyfriend. Take time just for yourself in a particular new adventure every chance you get.

Learn the skill of teaching yourself hobbies (even if that means finding a teacher oddly enough), and there will always be a topic. Say, Toastmasters.. that is the art of speaking and conversation, there's a hobbie for you.

 

[desi]

Lips only talk when they cannot kiss.

 

[Macca]

Hi everyone .. i'm 17teen am i too young ? i need some advice and stuff.. okay .. well i am going out with this awesome guy he is awesome christian guy.. well he is my frist boyfriend and i am his first girl friend and we shared our frist kiss with each other .. i really think this is awesome because well we both know this is what God wants from both of us we prayed about it for a really long time ..anyways sometimes we both don't know what to talk about, so we get really quite and stuff.. so i need some help on what to talk about and keep a Conversation alive and not dry and dead.!! any help ? I need all the prayer and help i can get thanks a lot .. love in christ
(Me) Godsgurl042002

My advice to you is to not spend too much alone in each other's company. There is too much opportunity for Satan to get in and cause a moral fall.
If you are in the company of peers and friends, there will not be a shortage of conversation topics, and it is safer as well. Learn from someone who knows, rather than by you own mistakes.
Macca.

 

[JVD]

Listen to Macca now...or wish you had later....

 

[scott29]

Macca gave you some good advice...I hope you take it.
God bless

 

[MrsLeahD]

I'm going to chime in with Macca as one who screwed up royally and regrets it.
Go out with friends,attend activities with each other's families; but most importantly be yourself and continue to include your friends & make time for yourself. Keep God first!
I wish you both the best.

 

[Blindfaith316]

Macca gave you excellent advice... you don't always have to continuosly talk... my husband said he liked that about me, that I could just sit there when we were first dating and not run my mouth... **lol** and other than that, if you are compatable, you have common interests to discuss.

 

[Godsgurl042002]

i agree with all of you thanks soo very much .. please just pray for us to do what is right i agree being with other friends will help also being alone isn't always a good thing sometimes it is best to be with someone else u know .. we need all the prayer we can get so if you don't mind please pray for us . thanks pray we could huh watch what we do and say and that we couldn't kiss all the time , lastnight his mom and dad saw us kissing .. that is really embressaing .. his lil brother freaked out .. but his mom and dad said they didn't care and stuff but as long as were being pure and stuff. witch i understand and 100 percent agree with . man i don't know if i can kiss him again .. lol this is way embressing . anyways pray for us .. thanks so much bye ..